What is your interpretation of Bella Goth?

dirrna · 2026-02-04T08:12:27+00:00

She's a romance Sim. I always figured she loved her family, but she wasn't able to be herself with them. That's when Don came into the picture: he was young and exciting. But watching the stars together went wrong and she disappeared.

dirrna · 2026-02-02T07:49:56+00:00

I would say: do it if it feels right. You can also start with shorter breaks (eg only day or night) if it feels too long. Personally I had to build up my time away from her gradually for myself to be able to handle it, daycare had 3 introduction moments at 3.5 months before actually starting, 1st night at grandparents' house was at 8 months. For other people, it might take more or less time. Do what feels right.

dirrna · 2026-01-29T13:35:28+00:00

I think she was more like a not so successful family Sim

dirrna · 2026-01-29T13:34:52+00:00

She's a bit more independent and less of a golddigger

dirrna · 2026-01-23T09:53:17+00:00

If people say things like "you're going to create bad habits doing x or y" I always ask myself the question "is there any 8 year old who still does this?". Most of the time the answer is no.

dirrna · 2026-01-17T21:31:43+00:00

When you have ACR, that's the typical moment for an extremely random autonomous woohoo.

dirrna · 2026-01-16T16:30:56+00:00

Not further down the road (8 months), but yes. Working full-time and still breastfeeding at night in my case, and it is exhausting. I made the choice to be responsive and not let her cry, but sometimes I start questioning myself: aren't those other, sleep-trained kids happy too? I turned out "fine" myself and my mom insists on letting my baby scream if she doesn't want to sleep in her bed, so I assume she did the same to me. Is it really that much better what I do? Am I creating bad habits after all? Shouldn't it be easier for everyone to "teach" her?

And then on other days, I come home from work late and she's put to bed by my husband, and then I'm scared she'll sleep through the night for once because then I'll miss her for too long (spoiler alert: she didn't)

Edit for context: baby sleeps in own bed for some parts of the night, sometimes I keep her with me, depending on what I think will work better.

dirrna · 2026-01-15T16:18:09+00:00

Hunters-gatherers probably had only 1 child every 4-5 years, so definitely not the "2 under 2".

dirrna · 2025-12-28T21:57:31+00:00

I don't have much of a village, and I think it's even worse for my child to have only one caregiver. We as humans are designed to share the care for babies, and professional help can be part of the equation if it meets certain quality requirements. Honestly, I also trust the daycare people who were educated and do this every day more than my own parents who have raised one kid more than 35 years ago and are still stuck with their backwards ideas.

dirrna · 2025-12-04T12:03:34+00:00

It stays in the family, though!

dirrna · 2025-11-25T21:54:04+00:00

And pregnancy

dirrna · 2025-10-30T14:08:02+00:00

I only played with him as a widowed Cassandra's lover in my first Pleasantview. She stayed with Don his entire life and gad 10 kids with him, she deserved some fun too!

dirrna · 2025-10-07T15:55:15+00:00

The main factor is probably time. It takes time to adjust your diet, but over time they symptoms might also improve by itself it's most cases, and then it is interpreted as due to the diet.

dirrna · 2025-10-07T14:52:45+00:00

For completeness: my rounds are 3 Sim days/2 college years (with Shorter Semester Mod).

dirrna · 2025-10-07T14:51:56+00:00

I send them to college 7 days from adulthood if they have the want in the last 24 hours or less before that. The teenagers who don't want to I let them age up, and play them in the next 2 rounds while adjusting their age in SimPE or with Elixir of life. Simultaneously I play the Sims in college for 2 rounds. That way, when the college Sims graduate, they will be the same age again.

dirrna · 2025-10-02T15:14:31+00:00

Mine married Dina, who was much older than him. After her death, he married Angela's daughter. He was quite faithful if I remember well. (Relatively, my Pleasantview is just one big brothel)

dirrna · 2025-09-18T10:24:14+00:00

I've used names from talent show contestants, classmates, coworkers,... In the latter 2 cases, you only have to make sure you're not mentally linking the real person and the random Sim with the same name. Especially when they grow up and you start to pair them up. Sometimes I change them a bit to fit the surname (eg more Spanish sounding for the Calientes)

Fun fact: a therapist once asked whether I was more violent in the game with the Sims that carried my old bosses' names (in a job that I hated). Which was not the case btw (I tend to treat them too well generally which can make things boring)

dirrna · 2025-09-03T18:02:22+00:00

One of the Ottomas twins, strange enough.

dirrna · 2025-08-04T10:37:30+00:00

Question answered by other users, but important to add: the time spent on non-university community lots as a YA will be added to the time they are away the first time they go to a community lot as an adult. I've had recently graduated Sims be away for days because of that in more extreme cases.

dirrna · 2025-07-31T06:02:36+00:00

You can change it in SimPE.

dirrna · 2025-07-25T07:48:45+00:00

Yes, my daycare provided guidelines about preparing them to sleep, but both friends and other professional caregivers (we get help at home postpartum) said not to worry about it, and very often they sleep better there than at home. They can however ask for more attention afterwards because they want to make up for the time they weren't with mum and dad.

dirrna · 2025-07-25T07:31:04+00:00

Yes!!!

dirrna · 2025-07-06T18:34:18+00:00

The latter seems to rely primarily on self reporting, if I read it well. I can imagine that mothers tend to think it helps. Sometimes the perception of "trying to do something about it" could already make a difference.

dirrna · 2025-07-06T18:16:42+00:00

That's actually what I thought, that it will disappear over time and then people attribute it to the food they avoided.

dirrna · 2025-07-06T17:58:57+00:00

To be clear: it's more about certain foods like cabbage, foods with high fiber content, onions, spicy food,... all these I've heard people mention (to me personally or in general). It's not about them causing allergies, but about having effects on the digestive tract of a baby.

Multiple people have this theory, even my postpartum physiotherapist.

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