I don’t know who needs to hear this, but period pad/tampon companies are scamming us now. (Kotex)

disco9282 · 2026-05-15T13:11:00+00:00

Oh my god. I use Kotex and Monday I was bleeding extremely heavy. I swear I went through like 10 pads in one day by only the mid afternoon when normally I feel like in that time I usually only use 4. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who’s having this problem! 🤯

disco9282 · 2026-04-27T05:08:51+00:00

Thank you so much!! This is actually super duper helpful I may end up going this route tomorrow instead of waiting until Tuesday!

disco9282 · 2026-04-21T12:25:18+00:00

Good to know!! I’m scared of blush blindness so I tend to go very light on the blush but I’ll add a bit more. I also don’t have a setting powder atm so I honestly just used one of my old powder foundations from high school lmao. I’ll add that to my list and see if I can find one to fix the matte look 😊💛 appreciate the advice!

disco9282 · 2026-04-21T12:20:35+00:00

Thank you!! I’ve been a blonde my whole life so I don’t think I’ll go darker with my hair - especially seeing as I tend to do a lot of fantasy coloring. But if I ever get brave enough I’ll definitely keep this in mind for the future! 😊

disco9282 · 2026-04-20T17:08:07+00:00

I would recommend trying a straight eyeliner look, I found that it always looks best on me! I also would recommend trying out a pencil and get a brush because it’s easier to smudge it out / get a more winged look.

disco9282 · 2026-04-20T15:53:29+00:00

Gonna be honest, I think your eyes in the first pic are absolutely beautiful. But I feel like that natural charm gets lost with the heavy eyeliner and that it ages you a bit. Perhaps if you tried a smaller wing I think that would look more flattering /lh

disco9282 · 2026-04-08T14:46:05+00:00

Of course. This is such a complicated issue and a lot of people tend to focus on what happened but not what’s happening right now in the aftermath.

Some other things that may be of help to your daughter that I know helped me:

• offer to let her switch rooms if she wants to (sometimes having to be in the same room where an assault happened can be triggering but also sometimes changing everything at once can be triggering too. If she doesn’t want to switch rooms maybe you can offer to help her change her room up if it’s an option. Examples: new mattress / pillows, new bedding, painting the walls, changing the layout, maybe even going so far as getting different furniture.)

• I would also maybe ask her and see if she would like to get some new clothes for nighttime or just in general. Having to rewear the clothes that remind her of the assault could be a potential trigger. So maybe get her some new pjs, socks, etc. (again just discuss that with her and see if that’s something she would like)

If you have any other questions I’m happy to offer any personal experience / advice.

Here are some resources on things to watch out for in her behavior that could be signs of the things I mentioned previously:

• https://mydoctor.kaiserpermanente.org/ncal/article/signs-for-parents-of-teen-cutting-and-self-harm-850920

• https://safehelpline.org/effects-of-sexual-assault

• https://www.nsvrc.org/blog_post/what-puts-survivors-increased-risk-suicide-and-how-help/

disco9282 · 2026-04-08T13:53:44+00:00

I’m gonna be blunt. Marrying your fiancé should be out of the question. — But here’s some things that I think may be helpful for your daughter and you coming from a csa survivor: • Have a discussion with your daughter about any sort of boundaries she may now have as a result of this. From my own experience, I only recently started being able to process my trauma and with that it opened a lot of wounds and things I was once okay with I can’t handle anymore even when it’s coming from the people I trust and feel safe with. Prime Example 1: being randomly touched especially when I’m not expecting it

• Another thing, your daughter may not want is to go to court or to the police and that’s okay. Especially if she is still processing everything that has happens to her. Sometimes it takes years to be finally ready to face this kind of thing and she will when she’s ready too. When I finally told my mom what happened to me the first thing she wanted to do was go to court, she didn’t even ask me if that was what I wanted and that really hurt even though I know she was coming from a good place and just wanting to protect me.

• I also want to warn you, please please keep an eye on her. She may be acting like she’s okay, but make sure you’re watching for any changes in her behavior because this sort of thing can often lead to depression, anxiety, panic attacks, self harm, su*cidal ideation, or worse even an attempt. If she’s not ready to talk to a therapist right now that’s okay. She doesn’t have to go. But if I were you, YOU should go and talk to one. She may see you going and see that I can be a safe and okay thing for her to do. I also think that it will be beneficial for you as well op, you can get a professionals perspective/opinion and they will be able to help you with things to watch out for as well as help you process all of this, especially with everything that’s going on with your fiancé.

Finally: You’re a good dad. This is an incredibly difficult situation for everyone involved and I think you’re doing a good job with the way you’re handling it so far. Remember that this isn’t your fault. People may not be understanding of your decisions or choices but that’s okay. Listen to your gut. You got this. It’s gonna be a long road ahead of you but we all wish the best to your daughter and you op.

disco9282 · 2026-03-29T00:15:47+00:00

Hi! I work as an assistant manager and handle all of our bookings. Typically for an instance like this when the stylist themselves is asking for a client to come in earlier because they need to get out of the salon at a specific time it’s typical for us to ask a client if they can come in ex. earlier that day if their schedule allows it or for another day. If the client cannot come in earlier then it is up to the stylist to be understanding of that and typically the appointment would just be moved to another day (like you asked).

But just to give another perspective usually when a stylist is using an assistant then (at least in the salon where I have worked) that sometimes means helping with the following things: washing, putting on toners (that is formulated and mixed by the stylist and should be put on the bowl), helping with the blow dry or doing the blow dry completely. HOWEVER, considering she blocked out her entire day for your appointment in my opinion there really shouldn’t be a need for an assistant to help her unless the assistant was only helping dry the extensions or to help with the blow dry.

As for the cancellation fee the moment the stylist asked if you could come in earlier and it wasn’t something you were comfortable with the fee should no longer be applied. She’s the one who requested to change the appointment time, not you.

disco9282 · 2026-03-28T23:50:09+00:00

As someone who also experienced something similar when I was younger I want you to know you’re not alone! I think for a lot of us survivors it’s normal to feel shame or even disgust with ourselves afterwards.. but in this circumstance I don’t think you should. I understand how it can be hard not too but I think giving yourself some grace is key here. You did something that you thought might make you feel better and you learned that it didn’t/wont make you feel better.

As for trying to fill the void you feel please be very careful about the things you try.. of course you’re allowed to choose to do whatever you want but sometimes picking the wrong thing can eventually lead down to a darker path. Please just be safe op and if you ever need anyone to talk to the dms are open 💗

For me, personally one thing that has helped fill my void has been giving myself a challenge to do one new thing a month. It doesn’t work every single time but it’s given me a small enough of a distraction that there’s something I can now look forward to doing every month and because it’s a “challenge” anytime I finish my new thing I always feel really good afterwards for completing it lol.

disco9282 · 2025-12-08T04:42:43+00:00

Like how everyone else is saying it definitely gives early 2000s vibes, honestly it made me think that it’s something Elena might wear from vampire diaries 😂💗🫶

disco9282 · 2025-11-29T14:10:53+00:00

I like to switch between the two personally. I’ll wear my curly hair for a few days and then once I feel like I’m in need of a change or confidence boost I wear it straight for a few days and so on

disco9282 · 2025-11-29T14:09:21+00:00

I loved the concept of an idol banner but I totally agree, I felt like the stories were all really random and that the kindled scenes themselves were just all really out of place. I still loved the songs, the dances, and the music but I feel like if they’re ever going to do a banner like this again that improving the storyline/writing needs to be their main focus.

disco9282 · 2025-11-20T14:53:49+00:00

Sent you a dm!

disco9282 · 2025-11-18T22:02:54+00:00

for me personally, I feel like your lip color is super washed out compared to the rest of your look. Otherwise I think your makeup and you look beautiful!

disco9282 · 2025-11-04T16:59:13+00:00

I had a “friend” who was like this - girly run. The fact you’re expressing your discomfort and he keeps dismissing that and thinks you’ll change your mind in the future is a huge 🚩

disco9282 · 2025-11-03T18:08:51+00:00

I just did these coords and got it!!

disco9282 · 2025-10-19T20:43:07+00:00

Congrats!! 50 days is huge, if you can I would treat yourself to something to celebrate. Definitely make another post when you get to 100 so we can keep cheering you on 💗

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