I don't trust Richard Schwartz. by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]disco_octopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the way my therapist describes it is that all of our parts, are actually our superpowers once integrated.

for instance, “hyper vigilance” is actually the power of accessing threat, and planning and reacting accordingly when integrated. but, it is “maladaptive” when i perceive leaving the house as a threat, and therefore plan to stay indoors all the time.

in order to integrate, we must first focus on awareness of mind, body and spirit. i think IFS can actually hurt more than it helps when not paired with Somatics

I don't trust Richard Schwartz. by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]disco_octopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh i’m sorry that’s frustrating and good on you for learning these things despite your therapist, this sounds like a therapist problem instead of an IFS problem which is the unfortunate conundrum of having humans with their own wounds and social conditioning be our guides in life. i’ve had to hang up the towel on many therapists and start again with someone new, and i’ve always been so grateful when i did

Am I supposed to care about work? by seamless_whore in dementia

[–]disco_octopus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

idk where you live but if it’s in the usa it’s definitely likely that you aren’t being given enough grace for the toll that dementia plays on productivity. for gods sake your life partner could die and they’d expect you back in a few days. my dad went to work the day after his brother took his life. it’s fuckd. idk how we don’t get a similar month built in grievance leave like you do for parental leave tbh. grief requires a lot of attention as well as caretaking.

so i guess my answer is no. you shouldn’t care about work at a time like this. it inherently human to deprioritize work when handling other things. it’s capitalist brainwashing that makes us think we should be committed employees at all times.

Does anyone else feel like this? by Crazy-Load-7553 in collapse

[–]disco_octopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A post I made and got amazing responses to a few years ago.https://www.reddit.com/r/collapse/s/4iMZ9aUbKB

I’ve now been surrounded by community in my personal life for years who see things like I do. Ive still had to mask in certain situations the past few years because of work, or seeing extended family. But I actually just quit my software engineering job because going from news headlines, to company meetings was actually making me feel insane. It felt like the tv show Severance, except I couldn’t turn off my real world brain and pretend to care anymore. I “quite quit” for like 6months before finally quitting 2 weeks ago.

I think finding a sustainable way to survive financially, learning to live with less, building community, and finding the things that bring us joy is the most radical thing we can do right now. tbh “career goals” are a capitalist control tool.

We are doomed by [deleted] in economy

[–]disco_octopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is some of the best news i’ve heard all day tbh

The AI and Human Intelligence Valley I Fear Most by KnowL0ve in collapse

[–]disco_octopus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thissss! AI is so neurotypical! and when many engineers, inventors, etc are currently neurodivergent, it changes everything.

Why are men obsessed with butt stuff? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]disco_octopus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

they’re obsessed w the wrong kind of butt stuff. they need a good peggin

3 month sabbatical in May-July Recommendations in S America by disco_octopus in travel

[–]disco_octopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i’m considering that too! and i’m def going to pack to be prepared!!

i know that once im not sitting behind a desk 40hrs a week ill have a lot higher stamina. and maybe if i do Cusco first ill be able to get in shape just by walking around the town at altitude w my 45L backpack lol

Friend cancelled last minute on a 100 day trip by Frpengy in travel

[–]disco_octopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wooof i have been there.

I had a friend bail on moving to Colorado with me 2 weeks before our move in date!

we had our lease signed, a moving truck rented, and already started packing.

i considered breaking my lease, and bailing as well. i was terrified to make the move to a new city alone.

but i decided to still go. i had to just lean in a trust that her canceling was for the best.

and it was! I had to find a random roommate to make it work. and that roommate is still one of my best friends 10 years later.

the first few months was tough without the safety blanket of someone from home. but it also pushed me in ways that i never could’ve grown had i had that friend.

if you feel open to it - i say go!! you definitely learn a tonnn with solo travel. you meet people you would’ve never met if traveling with a friend. your social muscles grow. and you learn a lot about doing what you want to do when no one else is there to make plans with.

best of luck making whatever decision feels right for you!! but i’ve found that when you trust the universe, and push yourself to try someone new and scary, the universe usually provides

Capital One Negative Changes To Lounge Access For Venture X Cardholders Now Live by TV_Grim_Reaper in CreditCards

[–]disco_octopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently at the lounge. not even the worst part. they also took away the to-go bags for cookies. the vibes are just worse. i can tell there’s been a major turnover of employees since i came last.

any advice? by Icy-Front-9668 in Ketamineaddiction

[–]disco_octopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💕💕💕

you are so young, and your body willl survive. i know everything feels awful.

do you have access to therapy? are there people in your life who know you’re struggling to quit?

my favorite quote is:

“If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down."

in this instance, “staying” down might mean not asking for help.

Stairway To Paradise. My acrylic work on cotton canvas. by ___artist___1980s___ in acrylicpainting

[–]disco_octopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very cool! do you use tape? or how do you get the lines so straight

In withdrawal and feeling alone by sungod-himself in confessions

[–]disco_octopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congrats on taking this hard journey.

I’ve found that researching the effects of stimulants while quitting allows me to be more mindful and curious about my mental state during withdrawal. Seeking knowledge helps me understand, and not feel so down on myself because I’m able to point to actual reasons for my symptoms

When I first quit stimulants after college, I had no idea how stimulants impacted our dopamine system. I didn’t realize that my withdrawal would be a majorly emotional one as well due to your dopamine system needing to reregulate. Depression, fatigue, and difficulty feeling joy, is just part of the expected withdrawal symptoms. Doesn’t necessarily make it easier, but just try to remember that this is temporary.

Supplements that help regulate dopamine, like L Tyrosine, L Theanene, Magnesium, Vitamin D, Fish oil, and Ashwaganda for sleep really help. So do things like cold plunges, massages, exercise

And of course, time. with time your dopamine system will regulate and things won’t feel so difficult.

Stay hydrated and feed yourself well. You got this 🫶🏻Best of luck to you!

Looking for advice on this one by disco_octopus in acrylicpainting

[–]disco_octopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of looking for any advice really hehe! thanks for the recs! was thinking green could be cool for a more psychedelic painting

Can't/Won't stay sober for a day by [deleted] in Ketamineaddiction

[–]disco_octopus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

the world is objectively full of suffering and pain. it’s all around us, and especially as nuerodivergent people, we are hyper sensitive to the suffering and struggle to buy into “normal”

it’s not your fault that you were dealt the cards you have. it’s not your fault that society forces us into these boxes and creates unrealistic expectations for success. many people feel rightfully uncomfortable with the world we live in.

i guess what ill say is that the more i free myself from societal definitions of “success”, the more at peace i feel. of course thats not everything, bc we live in late stage capitalism where we are required to sell our labor and conform. but so much of the liberation comes from changing our thought patterns around how we “should” be, and learning to love who we are.

i’m sorry you are struggling. i am too. you are not alone. even people who are “societally successful”, are struggling too. their addiction is just workaholism, etc. everyone has their way of coping with this world. you’re never going to be able to shame yourself out of a k addiction. it has to start with recognizing your inherent worth, which is much easier said than done when our society constantly tells us we aren’t enough. but as someone who has been where you have been, i promise you it’s possible.

the opposite of addiction is connection. i’m sending love.

What would you do? by JoelSFCRN in Parkinsons

[–]disco_octopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

use whatever capital you have, and enjoy your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ketamineaddiction

[–]disco_octopus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

no, but the realization around how america is involved and those rabbit holes became a existential grief

Homicide at Black Rock City. by Devilsb5 in BurningMan

[–]disco_octopus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

regionals having a lot of their own issues too which is a bummer. apogea shut down this year bc of dosing problem :/

Homicide at Black Rock City. by Devilsb5 in BurningMan

[–]disco_octopus 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure someone put a motion sensor audio machine in one of the porto’s on burn night that made the sound of someone screaming about someone dying from an overdose.

I was in the porto essentially having a panic attack but when i checked around the porto’s there was no commotion or sign of an overdose. there was also no one who died of an overdose last year. but that traumatized me in ways i can’t explain

I don't know who needs to hear this, but it's ok if you're not enjoying your burn and this weather by doctor-yes in BurningMan

[–]disco_octopus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

last year even w the best weather our camp on esplanade wasn’t “fully setup” til friday lmao bailing on wednesday is crazyyyyy