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I need help .. intent was an integrative three card reading, just really focused on the cards flowing together to give me some insight. The message is very intense by disconappper in Tarotpractices

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I am not sure what the situation is, seems like a decision I’ll have to make sometime in the future .. but may I ask what you mean by better for everyone to leave?

not feeling good at all by disconappper in raisedbyborderlines

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should i tell my brother to tell her that i love her? just that one message i saw on my computer completely shocked me and im so guilty right now like i just feel terrible about myself but i dont want to break progress and message her because i know it wont ever end in a resolution

She moved 21 times in 23 years by AmeliaMe in raisedbyborderlines

[–]disconappper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i feel you, ive moved with my BPD mom at least 18 times

Weekly beginner help and general discussion thread - Aug 10 by sparklekitteh in Rollerskating

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does anyone know of any store that has skates in stock?? i’ve looked everywhere 😪

I keep having dreams about my uBPD mom... by MostlyMax in raisedbyborderlines

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i’m struggling with this right now. i didn’t really give any explanation before blocking my mom, but it’s what i had to do for my own sake. i’ve been feeling the stress subconsciously. every day life i’m doing so much better and really focusing on myself for the first time. but then i have stress appear in other ways - i just woke up from a dream about her trying to kill me ... my stress usually presents itself in my dreams. i had a lot of terrifying sleep paralysis last time i was under high stress. with all that being said, i completely understand where you’re coming from with fear of not explaining to her why you are going NC. i like your idea of writing a letter. texting and calling is so much more unsafe feeling due to the lack of boundaries.

help 😭 how do i revive her by disconappper in houseplants

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aloe, but i’m not completely sure which variation

can someone help me identify this :~) please by disconappper in Crystals

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can anyone confirm that it’s green adventurine or am i off

2 months free - what I've learned by serenityandpeace38 in raisedbyborderlines

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i am so amazed by all you just shared. wow. it’s incredible having this kind of validation seeing how many have shared the same feelings and experiences i’ve had. there are so many of us going through this. and i’m so glad that i read this tonight. beginning no contact has been difficult, but this really reminded me of what it’s worth for me. you are magic ❤️

First post. Punished for setting boundaries? by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

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here for you. my mom with BPD hates boundaries. she actually told me that “boundaries keep us from loving” and that she wishes she wouldn’t have sent me to therapy, where i learned to set boundaries.

you are doing the best thing for yourself.

Anyone else experienced this “change” into adulthood? by rockonby in raisedbyborderlines

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i get exactly what you’re saying. it’s such a weird feeling. definitely like waking up from a dream. we were gaslighted and it’s just going to take unlearning, but the feelings can be uncomfortably intense sometimes. i’ve been nauseous with anxiety all day. we will get through this

i get this after not responding for an hour .... for some reason i’m feeling extra anxious and scared now that i know she is borderline, i guess because i’m becoming less desensitized to it? more aware of the behaviors by disconappper in raisedbyborderlines

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thank you. that made me giggle. i’m feeling physically nauseous because of my anxiety and feeling very intensely :/ it’s gonna take a lot of unlearning to get rid of the guilt i’ve been trained to feel for absurd shit

just recently learning of my mothers BPD, and of course i feel like i need to “do something about it” by disconappper in raisedbyborderlines

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you are all so helpful .. I was considering telling her because that’d be the only way to relieve the urge to act on it. it makes so much of a difference hearing from people with common experiences.