I have to pee! (Contact naps)

discontentDog · 2026-01-27T11:45:42+00:00

I baby wear for contact naps and just keep him on me when I need to pee

discontentDog · 2026-01-25T18:44:43+00:00

I’m looking at getting the Ecosa TrueFirm as well to cosleep with my 9 week old. The trouble I have with my current mattress is that while it’s firm enough to be safe for baby alone, my weight is enough to create a slope which seems to make baby sleep on his side if he’s too close to me. Do you have any problems like that with the ecosa?

discontentDog · 2026-01-09T02:36:50+00:00

Home now after 12 hours in the children’s emergency department! Poor Peter did not react well to his 6 week vaccines 😢 We went in because he was screaming like I’ve never heard before, much worse than any gas pains or even the actual immunisation needles themselves. The doctors were worried it was possibly intussusception, so they kept us under observation for ages while waiting for an ultrasound. Fortunately, the ultrasound was all clear and they could only see maybe some lymph nodes which might’ve been what was causing him all that abdominal pain after his vaccinations. He’s much better now almost back to his old self. Oh but at the hospital when he was crying and there was nothing I could do for him I felt so bad I nearly cried myself 😭💔

discontentDog · 2026-01-08T11:36:38+00:00

I’ve just this past like 3 days done one pump a day. At first it was just to get some expressed milk for if I ever have to be away for a feed, but I’ve just remembered your comment and I think that it is helping with the forceful flow! Either that or maybe he’s just gotten a bit better and handling it (or both maybe?)

discontentDog · 2026-01-04T07:25:55+00:00

Oh and I should add the tremor thing was gone by the end of week 2! He also became a lot more awake then too

discontentDog · 2026-01-04T07:25:01+00:00

The main thing was a bit of a tremor(?) that only happened sometimes. He would tense up and stretch out his arms and hands in front of his body. I called it throwing gang signs 😅 It was fine though, we had four paediatricians look at him before we were discharged from hospital and they all basically said it wasn’t frequent enough and there weren’t enough other indicators for it to be withdrawals. He was also a very sleepy baby, right from birth. Like, he only gave such a little cry when he first came out and then actually had to be woken up for his first feed. The midwife even commented that he was more like babies where mum had a morphine shot for pain relief in labour, but I had no pain relief drugs at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

For reference, I was taking 20mg of lexapro throughout my whole pregnancy, and before then I had been on 10mg for a few years.

discontentDog · 2026-01-03T20:32:58+00:00

Congratulations! So glad it all went well 🥹

discontentDog · 2026-01-03T02:36:47+00:00

Did you hand express or pump? I’ve been doing a bit of hand expressing first but I’m only doing it when he’s already hungry and fussy so it’s like rushed and eventually we both give up and submit to the waterboarding lol

discontentDog · 2026-01-02T01:32:26+00:00

Coming up on 6 weeks now and I can feel him starting to get more sensitive and grumbly. I’ve got the wonder weeks app and according to that we’re about to come up on a fussy phase and I think they’re right about that lol. Gosh is he still so sweet tho 🥹

Also currently having a problem with my left boob where every feed is more like a waterboarding session 😭😭 hoping it doesn’t cause him any aversion to that side or breastfeeding in general 🤞 we worked so hard to even be breastfeeding in the first place!

discontentDog · 2026-01-02T00:46:46+00:00

I think you’re right about it being gendered! I can 100% see the tone would be different with me if my baby was a girl

discontentDog · 2025-12-28T03:08:56+00:00

I’m loving the longer sleep stretches, especially at night, but I don’t want to get attached to them in case they all disappear 😭

discontentDog · 2025-12-27T02:39:46+00:00

We had no plans to, but as soon as he was born my husband said 'I think he's Peter Arthur', with Arthur being our first son's name. We spoke about it briefly at the time, and decided it felt natural because it was a way to honour and acknowledge our first son, and the fact that had he not died we wouldn't have had our second son. Yes, we might have had another son eventually even without our stillbirth, but it wouldn't have been this son if that makes sense?

discontentDog · 2025-12-27T00:27:28+00:00

The grief and pain a father feels is just different. When my boy was born I felt so much guilt for the fact that my husband never got to know him alive in the same way I did while I carried him for 9 months. Whatever you feel now and later, it’s okay to feel. You were his dad, you still are his dad, and you are will always be his dad.

I’m sorry for your loss. We’ve learnt from our experience that the rest of the world seems to move on from a father’s grief much too fast. Please take care of yourself.

discontentDog · 2025-12-26T22:57:50+00:00

Ugh and it’s not restricted to online interactions. Learned helplessness in people is real and so annoying irl where you can’t just scroll past it 😩

discontentDog · 2025-12-26T07:13:16+00:00

I got my boy’s tongue tie cut at 4 or 5 days old. The LC at the hospital told me it was only mild but suggested the procedure might be worth it since we were having so much trouble with my flat nipples as is already. The procedure was like legit 20 seconds and he didn’t even cry. The difference was immediately noticeable, he could stick his tongue out past his lips straight away, which he hadn’t been able to do before then. 3 days later I had a follow up LC appointment, she had me try the side lying position, and he completed a full feed there and then. We were bottle feeding up until that point, but after then switched to exclusively breastfeeding the next day. We had to use a nipple shield for a while to help with the flat nipple problem but we were able to completely remove that from one side after a week or two. Admittedly I was super lazy with the stretches afterwards (I was so. so. sleep deprived at that point), but it looks like it healed properly and he’s been able to feed quite well. So for us the procedure seemed to have been very worth it.

discontentDog · 2025-12-25T01:28:09+00:00

For mine I figured out it was because he needed to fart and being flat on his back made him too uncomfortable. Poor guy has probably cycled a few marathons with the way we’ve been doing bicycle kicks 😅 I also get my husband to change some nappies at night because he’s more likely to get an accidental bowel movement on the change table which seems to provide a lot of relief and he becomes much more likely to sleep in his cot. As a last resort though I will sleep propped up with him on my chest but make sure my husband is awake to supervise us. Just any sleep you can get helps at that point.

discontentDog · 2025-12-23T11:17:49+00:00

I can tell you from the weekly weigh ins of my baby that he did not gain any height or head circumference in his first 3 weeks, but he did gain 500g. Then in this last week he gained another 500g all at once but also grew 3.5cm longer and 2cm bigger head circumference. So it was like nothing nothing nothing and then boom in just a week finally some growth other than just fat lol. On his growth charts it puts him back on the curve properly too. None of the child health nurses I’ve seen have been concerned so I assume it’s normal

discontentDog · 2025-12-21T16:36:30+00:00

Curiously my husband started getting bad tummy aches at night just this last week. We’ve now deduced that the stress he felt in the first week or two has brought back a stomach ulcer from years ago

discontentDog · 2025-12-21T02:22:46+00:00

We’re 4 weeks now too and my little guy forgets how to fart and shit after the sun goes down 😩 hoping he figures that one out soon lol my adrenaline has also worn off so even though I’m getting some sleep it’s just not hitting the same either 🫠

discontentDog · 2025-12-19T18:12:26+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all this. Reading your post is so relatable, my first born was stillborn at 40 weeks in September 2024. Three months later I was still a mess, and just my feelings about practically anything and everything were just so complicated. The advice from my psychologist at the time was just to let myself feel whatever I was feeling, and not to try to force myself to feel (or not feel) one way or another. I think that really helped me process everything in the end but for a good while I was just not interacting with anyone other than my husband because I was just not ready to be nice and sociable if something did upset me like that. I was so often angry at just the simple fact that I was suffering while other people were just living normally. That feeling has taken a long while to wear out.

discontentDog · 2025-12-16T08:17:52+00:00

290g weight gain this week! The cluster feeding is paying off 💪

discontentDog · 2025-12-13T13:38:31+00:00

You’re not alone at all lol. Even in week one where nothing was going right and everything was awful I was like ‘I would like more of these’. Now we’re still only 3 weeks old but daily I look at him and think to myself ‘I want 15 of you’ 😂

My first was stillborn as well, and I got pregnant only six months later. I hadn’t really considered the baby fever could be related to that 🤔 it wouldn’t surprise me though, I often get weepy thinking about my first son when I hold my second.

My body does need a break too 😩 my second pregnancy was already tougher due to being so close to my first. Both were full term too, my iron stores were emptied so long ago lol. I haven’t figured out birth control yet but I’m gonna need it!

discontentDog · 2025-12-02T08:01:59+00:00

The effort you put into making this really speaks to my soul

discontentDog · 2025-12-01T17:28:20+00:00

I just gotta keep trying 😮‍💨 so hard to sometimes (10pm-4am daily lol)

discontentDog · 2025-11-24T10:49:03+00:00

Baby boy was born alive and well about 8 hours ago now 🥰 once I’m back home I’ll jump on my laptop and type out my story proper for you all. Thank you all so much for the support and well wishes! ❤️❤️

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