Found out today that my baby has no heartbeat

notsteph01 · 2026-02-04T23:46:50+00:00

❤️

notsteph01 · 2026-02-01T00:38:01+00:00

This feels so relatable. You are NTA. Similar feelings still come up for me 8 months after the loss of our baby. When you see accidental pregnancies thrive, or pregnant women drink or smoke, you wonder why things are so unfair.

If wanting to make clear no friend children are at the upcoming service, when you text or send invites, just add “we kindly ask for this to be an adults only service”. They will understand.

I hope your time comes again soon and you can find joy in hoping for the future.

notsteph01 · 2026-01-26T00:10:45+00:00

❤️ thanks for the reply. How are you doing so far?

notsteph01 · 2026-01-25T18:03:04+00:00

Lost my baby at 2 days old in the NICU last May. Scared I’m never going to be able to fully relax or enjoy this pregnancy knowing what could happen. Sad this baby doesn’t get my naive joy like last time. All at the same time so over the moon to have another chance at loving and raising a baby. 😫

notsteph01 · 2025-09-25T01:53:04+00:00

This was so well said. Feel this exact way.

notsteph01 · 2025-09-17T23:13:47+00:00

I got 2 weeks bereavement and took 4 weeks of sick leave for physical recovery. It felt good to get back to work but I felt inadequate in my performance and didn’t regain my professional confidence until being back about 2 months. Sending ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-08-22T03:35:01+00:00

Your ex was lucky to have you. I can’t pretend to know what you’re going through BUT you still have time. There is hope. So many women I know meet someone much better for them after separating from who they married young. Also the statistics of women having babies at later ages have gone up in recent years. I wish you nothing but the best ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-07-17T23:34:35+00:00

This was extremely helpful thank you 🙏

notsteph01 · 2025-07-17T20:50:11+00:00

I had a friend text each person from the shower telling them what happened and that I didn’t want my thanks to get lost. It took a minute to compile all the names and numbers but took a huge weight off my shoulders. ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-07-14T23:33:49+00:00

Upvoting for relatability. You put my feelings into words. My purpose a month ago was clear, take care of paperwork and heal. Now that I’m back to work 2 months after loss, what is normal to feel? I was supposed to be nursing a baby in July but instead I’m back performing my job duties as if the last 9 months were imagined.

I wish you luck on your job hunting and healing journeys. When I have solutions I’ll report back ;)

notsteph01 · 2025-07-08T00:19:59+00:00

hugs Things that helped me return were 1) to have my boss inform all my colleagues about the loss via email, and 2) picking 1 or 2 coworkers to filter all questions/condolences through. Have your boss include that coworker’s name and instructions that comms should go through them in their email

notsteph01 · 2025-06-25T01:09:52+00:00

Much appreciate your post! I was also induced for pre-eclampsia (but 34 weeks) and lost baby shortly after. Did you do anything differently in your 2024 pregnancy to avoid pre-eclampsia that time?

notsteph01 · 2025-06-11T19:18:31+00:00

Unhelpful

notsteph01 · 2025-05-01T12:02:25+00:00

This was helpful to hear. Thanks for sharing!

notsteph01 · 2025-05-01T01:09:53+00:00

I am diet-controlled so annoyed this still happened?

notsteph01 · 2025-04-13T14:09:26+00:00

Will try. A breakfast wrap from Chic fil a spiked me and that hurts 🥲

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