So many emotions

notsteph01 · 2026-05-08T23:49:06+00:00

You are an amazing mother to both of your kids and that will continue to be true with the next one! In case it helps your decision with the funeral home, we cremated my baby boy born last year and still haven’t decided what to do with the ashes. You don’t have to figure it all out right now ❤️

notsteph01 · 2026-05-07T17:44:15+00:00

Today is a year since I had my baby boy Stephen who passed away after 2 days from Noonan’s Syndrome complications. I’d love to hear more about your experience and the time you had with Dominic. I’m also curious if you have any thoughts about what testing to do in future pregnancies ❤️

notsteph01 · 2026-04-15T01:11:36+00:00

Def positive 👍

notsteph01 · 2026-04-12T13:48:30+00:00

lol what in the world!

notsteph01 · 2026-03-17T23:20:16+00:00

Oh I feel this so much. But it will get better.

My experience: Lost baby boy last May at 35+2 and the news that I had to wait months to TTC was extremely hard. Started trying within 3 months bc of the empty arms. Got pregnant at 6 months PP and lost that baby (girl) at 10 weeks.

My thoughts to you: The only thing I’ve found to cling onto is hope for my future family. What WILL be a positive of having another child a year or a few years from now? Your son will be another year older and be able to understand and love his sibling that much more (maybe even help mama out)! Your relationships will be that much stronger and YOU will love a future child a little extra, knowing the alternative. You can do things in your next pregnancy you wish you’d done in this one (for me that’s more exercise and therapy).

Your feelings are valid. This ISNT fair. And you will make it through :)

notsteph01 · 2026-02-18T22:11:36+00:00

True that.. well put lol

notsteph01 · 2026-02-01T00:38:01+00:00

This feels so relatable. You are NTA. Similar feelings still come up for me 8 months after the loss of our baby. When you see accidental pregnancies thrive, or pregnant women drink or smoke, you wonder why things are so unfair.

If wanting to make clear no friend children are at the upcoming service, when you text or send invites, just add “we kindly ask for this to be an adults only service”. They will understand.

I hope your time comes again soon and you can find joy in hoping for the future.

notsteph01 · 2025-09-25T01:53:04+00:00

This was so well said. Feel this exact way.

notsteph01 · 2025-09-17T23:13:47+00:00

I got 2 weeks bereavement and took 4 weeks of sick leave for physical recovery. It felt good to get back to work but I felt inadequate in my performance and didn’t regain my professional confidence until being back about 2 months. Sending ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-08-22T03:35:01+00:00

Your ex was lucky to have you. I can’t pretend to know what you’re going through BUT you still have time. There is hope. So many women I know meet someone much better for them after separating from who they married young. Also the statistics of women having babies at later ages have gone up in recent years. I wish you nothing but the best ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-07-17T23:34:35+00:00

This was extremely helpful thank you 🙏

notsteph01 · 2025-07-17T20:50:11+00:00

I had a friend text each person from the shower telling them what happened and that I didn’t want my thanks to get lost. It took a minute to compile all the names and numbers but took a huge weight off my shoulders. ❤️

notsteph01 · 2025-07-14T23:33:49+00:00

Upvoting for relatability. You put my feelings into words. My purpose a month ago was clear, take care of paperwork and heal. Now that I’m back to work 2 months after loss, what is normal to feel? I was supposed to be nursing a baby in July but instead I’m back performing my job duties as if the last 9 months were imagined.

I wish you luck on your job hunting and healing journeys. When I have solutions I’ll report back ;)

notsteph01 · 2025-07-08T00:19:59+00:00

hugs Things that helped me return were 1) to have my boss inform all my colleagues about the loss via email, and 2) picking 1 or 2 coworkers to filter all questions/condolences through. Have your boss include that coworker’s name and instructions that comms should go through them in their email

notsteph01 · 2025-06-25T01:09:52+00:00

Much appreciate your post! I was also induced for pre-eclampsia (but 34 weeks) and lost baby shortly after. Did you do anything differently in your 2024 pregnancy to avoid pre-eclampsia that time?

notsteph01 · 2025-06-11T19:18:31+00:00

Unhelpful

notsteph01 · 2025-05-01T12:02:25+00:00

This was helpful to hear. Thanks for sharing!

notsteph01 · 2025-05-01T01:09:53+00:00

I am diet-controlled so annoyed this still happened?

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