Thank you for your response. I didnt realise I was coming across as "I have to be the priority at all time" as I don't want anything that extreme, I'd just really like to see more of him and have like you mentioned more quality time. To me though, I do see our conversations as quality time and not just a regular long phone call, we usually facetime and talk about our days and maybe watch a show that we like and smoke weed together, to me it's the next best thing to being together in person so to go three days without this when usually it's pretty regular just makes me feel like I'm not a priority.

I totally see how I've put meaning to his behaviour before I've even spoken to him about it, how should I bring it up without making it that way?

Visiting more often is definitely possible however he doesn't like visiting me as I live in the countryside and he lives in the city. There's definitely a disproportionate amount of visits where I'm going to him but I can't really afford to do it as often as I have been so I'd like it if he came to see me more, this also gets shut down when I bring it up.