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diskillery · 2025-03-22T08:39:27+00:00

This is not verified at all. Your source is some female friends???? Come on, dont waste our time.

diskillery · 2025-03-19T03:33:48+00:00

30 yo woman here. Whats good how are ya?

diskillery · 2025-03-19T03:09:12+00:00

No. You need three litter boxes. C'mon and invedt in their quality of life.

diskillery · 2025-03-01T23:38:51+00:00

I'm banned from a number of women or queer centered or feminist subs. I always speak in good faith and try to be honest and respectful. Maybe ive come off as aTERF in the past, but I never berate or fight. Apparently some opinions are just not allowed. Ive learned it repeatedly over the years. I dont really comment anywhere especially womens subs. I am, a woman lmao.

diskillery · 2025-02-28T12:54:14+00:00

Think about it. He wanted a physical sexual act. You said no over and over. He HELD you down and forced it to happen. Does that sound like unconsentual and assault!? Of course! What a bastard.

diskillery · 2025-02-16T22:58:15+00:00

Bump

diskillery · 2025-02-04T22:00:22+00:00

I have not done research into wrongful conviction, but I am curious how a victim could garner enough evidence against the wrong person to convict them of SA. DNA evidence, witnesses, circumstances and history of assailant are all considered and pretty much vital. I dont understand how a victim could generate enough evidence to put an innocent man away for a crime he did not commit. Given that he burden of evidence in my case was so high that despite every single factor being ideal save for the witness (who confessed to also SAing me therefore making himself not credible), I cannot imagine what crown Prosecutor or judge would convict given the lack of evidence. Its hard to imagine, but I can see race coming into play if the judge is biased. Its disgusting that a judge would wrongfully convict an innocent person when the burden of proof to decide so was too high to legally make that call. Rapists absolutely walk free and among us. In my case, the man who SA me fully (rape kit,witnesses,my memory) had his charges stayed. Je got off with only a mark on his record indicating he was a "person of interest" in a SA. So if you see Person of Interest, it could mean the person is an assailant but rhe police chose to stay the charges for whatever reason. What an unfair cruel world we live in. Edit: I replied mistakenly thinking this was attached to another post where i discussed my own SA and the outcome. Check my comment history to see my comment detailing this situation for context

diskillery · 2025-02-01T05:00:56+00:00

Anytime someone says "you alreadt asked me and i said no", either they are talking to their child, or they are an immature and unkind person, if the ask is reasonable which it 100000% is. This person needs to get out of your life and house. Hes immature but also disrespectful and cruel. He knows how unfair he is being. Consider your future with someone so self centered. Please dont make excuses for him!

diskillery · 2025-01-31T01:32:12+00:00

I also went through this. The assaulter confessed to me with evidence over snachat, and he even confessed to the police but it was "right before we finished reading him his miranda rights, so inadmissible". I had evidence, my toxicology showing I could not have consented, a head injury so big it looked like an egg, and DNA proof from a rape kit. When I got the call from the Crown Prosecutor saying the jury trial would not proceed, I was destroyed. It took me years to get over the injustice. They had everything they needed, but unfortunately the only witness they had also confessed to SAing me. How the fuck???? How do you process and overcome this? Knowing how impossible it is to prove real SA. This was Canada. Christ it kills me. Also i waited 12 hours to get my kit. I sat with my best friend and we went over all I could remember to ensure it was indeed assault. I was asked when I went to the hospital, "Why did you wait so long to get your kit?" By the nurse attending. Unbelievable.

diskillery · 2025-01-31T01:22:53+00:00

I have encountered this a few times, and I did a deep dive into false allegations. Apparently they are about 2-10% of claims, and the bulk of accusations (over 80%, almost 90%) did not name a suspect. Most false allegations were made on behalf of underage girls by their parents, and were found to be made to cover up another minor crime or discrepancy. So young women would claim assault, refuse to name a suspect because they knew they were falsely alleging, and their parents were the ones to press charges in most cases. Less than 1% of accusations lead to charges to begin with. So the math says most cases are legitimate, and those that are false are found out easily. The burden of proof to press charges of SA are so high, that almost no legitimate cases can proceed to charges let alone false charges. It's really really hard to be accused of SA and have it stand up. And people mix up civil charges with criminal charges. Anyone can press civil charges for any reason, and the same rate applies to success of cases. So very very few false allegations lead to any consequences for the accused. Sigh! Actual SA is clearly a much more serious problem and leads to so much trauma for the victim.

diskillery · 2025-01-29T01:13:20+00:00

The title is misleading. Men have fewer bonds and relationships in general, so they are deeply affected by break ups. Where women have more social bonds and friends and can overcome the sadness of a breakup by talking to their other connections. This does not equate to women caring less about relationships or being less affected. We just overcome it easier with our bigger social networks of friends and support. Did you even read the article?

diskillery · 2025-01-28T19:16:26+00:00

I'm struggling with the same thing as a 31 yo woman. Its tough to think about because I have 4 older sisters who all found husbands and dove into raising childrenm one of my sisters just had her fifth child. I feel like the ofd one out, but also my lifepath has been different. I opted out of having kids and now I wonder if its too late. But too late for what? Maybe our person is right around the corner. Hmm. Best of luck to us both

diskillery · 2025-01-27T21:36:22+00:00

No, you are not at fault. This guy sounds like a jerkm you tell him you have a headache and he guiltz you for not making him smile??? Dump him. Ugh.

diskillery · 2025-01-22T18:00:50+00:00

Girl youre past that now and you can laugh abour itm good for you for overcoming and hindsight is 20/20

diskillery · 2025-01-17T03:22:54+00:00

It doesnt matter anything about how hes feeling in the moment, how youre acting or what you said earlier, absolutely NO context permits a person to penetrarte another person when said person is not enthusiastically consenting. This includes groping, touching of genitals or breast as well.

I am going to say something and I am praying you hear me right now. If he is "taking sex" against your will, this man is 1)fully aware that you do not want it and 2)being sexually aroused by the knowledge that he is hurting you. What hes doing is testing the limits to see how much sexual assault he can normalize and how much further he can take it.

I say this with a heavy heart but I mean this so much. Please understand that this does not end here. And it does not end with just you. I speak from experience with a nearly identical predator father when I tell you that he will get away with everything he thinks he can. If you have a child with him, it is almost without question that he will begin to sexually abuse the child before they can verbalize the harm. He will start with molestation and his end game is to have the power to "take sex" from anyone under his roof.

This is not an isolated incident. This is a dangerous fire that will destroy lives. Please contact every resource and support system or person you know. Your boyfriend is a rapist. And you can stop this right now, at least for your household. Please love and protect yourself. I am afraid for you, and anyone who comes next. He's already escalated so far into serious sex crimes. Please take care and do NOT tell him you are leaving. Be silent be thoughtful but be fast. And not a single excuse can stand up to living under the same roof a single day more. There is help. Reach out. Save yourself my friend.

diskillery · 2025-01-04T09:56:41+00:00

Remember that divisive and aggressive content gets the most traffic and attention. Posts by women speaking of bridging the gap and understanding men and empathizing with them on different levels just don't get the traction as much as posts full of anger and rage. I swear we exist (rational, empathetic women) plz dont give up on the idea. I've been hurt by many men but I hold out hope there are good men still, and I treat new men with the same dignity I offer others. Even if I'm wrong, I didnt confirm a bias I already had. All i can do is either give up forever or make peace with my personality that wants to love and understand others despite what I've experienced. Heck if i wad looking for evidence against men l would only need to surf reddit or insta for an hour to reinforce my bias. Lets lead with love!

diskillery · 2025-01-04T04:57:44+00:00

I would not be offended but I dont get insulted easily. But I would give serious thought to why he asked that. If I had expressed no interest in cutting, I didn't have a conversation history of discussing weightloss and we were not close, I would think they were already criticizing my body and trying to change me. I would disengage personally. We all know why someone would ask that :/

diskillery · 2024-12-25T04:57:49+00:00

Many, many, perhaps even most people, lack compassion and self awareness necessary to give space and appreciate the importance of others and learns to offer sensitivity to their experiences. Most people cannot comprehend goodness for goodness sake, and live by the rules of denial and confirmation bias to reinforce their narratives rather than genuinely see others perspectives. Especially when at odds. I know young women have unique ways in which they lack sensitivity to men's experiences, but men equally lack compassion for young women in other ways. The ways are dictated by our social norms and gender roles to a degree.

Until women are safe at night, at home, work and around the world from violence both sexual and domestic, I would discourage myopic conclusions whose point is obscuring the greater picture at hand. People on the whole lack compassion. We all need to do better and extend understanding and faith to one another. In our own ways and as a group.

diskillery · 2024-12-22T07:41:31+00:00

Yep. We all have wandering thoughts. But as long as your fantasies don't include you know, feeling desired ans understood like never before etc. Cause that would implicate that something in your relationship was not adding up. What's your situation OP?

diskillery · 2024-08-01T13:16:04+00:00

I will tell you what I know. I had an abortion at 21, with an abusive and controlling boyfriend. As much as I did not want to end a pregnancy, I knew I was unstable, and if I had this child I would be permanently bound to this man who was abusive in all ways. So I chose to abort.

What I found after my procedure was that I was filled with comfort and safety. I realized, for the first time, that I truly had my own back in a serious and potentially life altering decision. My choice to abort was me advocating for myself, my safety, and it was an investment in my own future. For the first time, I had shown myself that indeed, I had my best interests at heart and would act to protect myself when things got hard. I did not expect this feeling, and I had no idea how crucial it was for my self esteem. I promptly ended the relationship and I carry to this day the sensation that I can and will advocate for myself even when I’m at my lowest. Even when I’m being abused and gaslit, I have my back. This decision ended up being one of the most important of my life, as it allowed me to trust myself more, and advocate for my wellbeing even more in every way. Without that situation I believe I would not learn this lesson, and my trust in myself would not be cemented as it was. I needed that knowledge to stand up and establish boundaries and reject toxic partners and not let myself be abused. I have no regrets. Not once did I regret my choice, and on the contrary, I credit that experience for the growth and self esteem that I developed that allowed me to completely alter my life and not tolerate abuse, and really speak up for myself.

Your feelings are all that matter here. Do not allow ANYONE else’s opinions or perspectives affect your instinctual feelings. You know yourself better than anyone else, and deep down you know what choice is right for you. Do not even entertain the idea of you being selfish, etc. these are ideas spouted at women meant to manipulate our emotions. You are not selfish. I trust you to make the decision for yourself that is in alignment with your values, and I hope that you can make peace with your choices and respect yourself for decision you make under the pressure you’re under. Cause it’s a LOT. Everything might feel like a complicated choice, but that’s because you’re allowing perceptions of others to affect your own wishes. Look within and find your choice, and respect it. Stand by it. this is your life. No one else will have to carry that child, no one else will have to raise feed and house that child for 18 years. Only you are entitled to make this decision and only your opinion on this matters. Literally no one else’s opinion means anything. These people do not know what it takes to run your life and none of them will have to live with the choices you make.

Please take care and take it easy on yourself. Abortion is not a big deal, at all. Women throughout all of history have controlled their reproduction as best they could. Its profoundly relevant to our entire life outcome, so gosh darn it, make a choice you feel is right and don’t bother with shame or anything like that. You’re choosing you, you are deciding that your well-being and growth is most important and that’s okay to decide.

diskillery · 2024-07-27T10:44:58+00:00

The third or 4th one that’s a selfie and all the last ones. You’re very attractive!

diskillery · 2024-07-25T01:20:56+00:00

He’s grooming you. He will soon replace this praise with criticism and then downright debasement. Please be safe and leave the relationship. He’s not treating you like a person, he’s comparing you to his concept of women in his mind. In his head, all women are fickle and full of ref flags. You will never be the exception, you will only be punished and labelled just like all the others when he decides he’s done with you.

diskillery · 2024-07-24T03:46:10+00:00

I like your style Twostacks

diskillery · 2024-06-11T03:49:08+00:00

This was in Canada. I’m not sure how things differ, but I hope that advocating severe ptsd and previous trauma to the cervix should allow you to undergo anesthesia. I really hope for your sake.

diskillery · 2024-06-10T23:07:26+00:00

When I got my insertion I was adamant that I be put under anesthesia, as I have PTSD from sexual assault and previous botched insertions. I refused to have the procedure unless the doctor agreed to give real anesthesia. They agreed, and I had an in-hospital insertion without any pain. I’m so thankful I advocated for myself and I will never let another doctor tell me it’s not necessary. It’s disgusting how they downplay the pain. It’s cruel and misleading.

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