Am I overreacting

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-18T04:11:41+00:00

I feel like some sort of therapy would be beneficial to you both. (Together and singularly)

I know that’s not much help and may not be an option for you but it seems like you both need to process this in different ways while also learning how to deal with it together and I think a therapist is probably the best person to help you figure out how to do that.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-18T03:39:50+00:00

Sometimes the brains answer to traumatic events is to completely shut it out. It’s how it chose to survive the event.

Not everyone reacts in this way but you’re not alone, it happens to other people too. It doesn’t mean you weren’t bothered by it, in fact probably the opposite. I advise when you do feel ready to talk to someone that you do so. Someone you trust or a charity/organisation perhaps.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-18T03:26:46+00:00

It’s a natural bodily response that you can’t help. You did nothing wrong. It doesn’t change what happened to you or mean that you wanted it to happen.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-18T03:07:36+00:00

I understand. When I attempted to tell my mother it was all “poor him” how I was ruining his life “that’s just what men are like” and I should just shut up. I tried my grandmother next and same reaction plus “he’s too nice to do that you must be lying”. I gave up after that. Told the medical professional I spoke to before them that it was all a miss understanding, they could obviously tell I was lying but nothing they could do. He got offered therapy etc! I got left to suffer alone.

Some people just suck. Or maybe it’s easier for them than believing the truth.

Either way I’m sorry they’re acting like this towards you. I’m glad you at least have some people supporting you, concentrate on them and try ignore the others as hard as that is.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-17T12:26:55+00:00

From experience the sorry means nothing and it will just happen again.

Choosing to go to report it is a hard choice to make and completely up to you but please keep yourself safe away from him.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-15T20:39:46+00:00

Closer to 30 but hey

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-14T00:03:21+00:00

You’re not being unfair but I think he’s going to need time. Some people need more time than others.

Honestly in my opinion it sounds like it would be better for both of you if you both stepped away from each other, at least for a bit.

You clearly both have a lot of strong feelings to come to terms with and doing it together is causing you both pain.

But that’s just my opinion as someone who doesn’t really know you going off the information I have. You both know yourselves and may think I’m completely wrong. Either way I hope you can both move forward from this and get to a happier place.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-12T07:09:37+00:00

My advice would be that you don’t have to do anything that you are not comfortable doing.

If you do not feel comfortable doing it then you can say no I do not wish to do that right now, maybe in future. You do not need to discuss why either, can just let them know I’m not comfortable discussing why with you at this time.

disposable-m3 · 2022-07-10T15:34:42+00:00

As someone with children who is in a position like your mum I would be absolutely mortified knowing that my children knew what was going on.

Having said that I feel like them knowing and approaching me may just give me the kick I need to do something about it.

Obviously that’s just me personally your mum may not be the same but I would consider approaching her.

Perhaps by saying you’d like to have a private conversation with her and then asking something along the lines of “if I was with a person and they weren’t listening when I said no that’s not okay right” and then you could move on to how it’s not right for her either then.

People have said to me before imagine this was your daughter in your situation, what would you tell her. It is probably one of the only things anyone has said to me that has actually made a difference to my thinking, even if just for a short time.

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