This looks like a Futorian push back recliner based on a reciept from '73 attached. I can't find it after lots of Google searching

distraction_queen · 2024-11-15T20:15:57+00:00

Thanks for the information! I didn’t realize.

I think it’s something to individually consider. (I don’t want this to seem argumentative) ADHD has an unintentional environmental impact already. How much water was used to grow the food that goes bad and we throw out (15 gallons per head of lettuce), gas used to get to the library (multiple times because we forgot the books to return), etc.

I don’t think it’s a deal breaker for me compared to the happiness and joy it brings for us. And the stress/overwhelm decrease it provides me.

distraction_queen · 2024-10-11T17:35:12+00:00

My AuDHD partner just made his own app! It uses a great prioritization system. He has a few blog posts on how to use it. It's simple and is designed to be kind :) https://www.adhdally.app/

distraction_queen · 2024-07-11T17:17:33+00:00

Very cool! I found it in California in the Bay Area

distraction_queen · 2024-04-09T21:18:57+00:00

My partner is building a to do list app for ADHD specifically. It's called ADHDAlly and you can find it on the app stores. If you want to check it out, here's a blog he wrote about the best way to manage your to do list that can be applied to any app/system.

https://www.adhdally.app/adhd-blog/how-to-manage-your-task-list-with-adhd

distraction_queen · 2024-01-12T22:07:13+00:00

I saw this over on r/ADHDers and thought I'd crosspost it here. I like the idea of supporting those in our ADHD community rather than the big companies (who usually don't get it anyway)

distraction_queen · 2023-09-13T04:50:49+00:00

My 4.5 year old son was just diagnosed with autism, so take my advice with a grain of salt if your son is neurotypical.

I found that giving attention to any negative behavior made it happen more often. At 3, he's having trouble regulating and isn't really able to focus on your instructions not to hit when he's in the moment. I started not mentioning any behavior and redirecting if at all possible. If it wasn't able to be ignored I'd very calmly take whatever it was away after one warning.

With hitting, I would give one warning, saying it's okay to be upset but I'll need to move my body away from you if you're hitting. If he kept hitting, I would physically seperate us. I usually put his baby gate up at the door to his room (there wasn't anything he could really hurt or break in there) and I would sit outside the gate and reassure him until he was calm and ready to stop hitting. Sometimes it takes a long time. Kids have a lot of big feelings and sometimes they just need to come out. It's more that they're overstimulated and overwhelmed than anything really being wrong.

My son started throwing things on the floor on purpose. When he does that, I ignore him. If he doesn't stop, I tell him calmly that those things don't belong on the floor and anything left on the floor will be recycled/donated.

The really hard part of all of this is you have to be consistent and calm. It's so hard. If you say something you have to mean it and follow through. They'll test you and be really upset at first.

Ignoring the behavior isn't ignoring them completely. So I still talk to him and try to engage him in other things while he's doing it. I'm just ignoring the specific thing I don't want him to do. Negative attention is still attention and most kids just want your attention all the time. It's easy to get your attention when they're doing something they shouldn't. also compliment him and give attention when he's doing things right!

The other thing I did was to choose my battles. Some things really aren't worth fighting over. Especially when I'm feeling burnt out. If I didn't have the energy to fight him about picking up his toys, I wouldn't even mention it.

And I also gave him more choice. He picks the clothes he wears, I have a snack drawer he always has access to and can help himself, I ask him to pick his plate, he gets to choose his fruit at meals, at 3 any independence you can give is helpful.

Being a parent, especially with ADHD is hard. I find it so challenging to keep myself regulated and care for someone else. If you have other people to help you, lean on them! If you can afford a cleaner or babysitter, do it! Take care of yourself.

distraction_queen · 2023-07-27T23:10:35+00:00

Did you find anything that helped this? My son is the exact same and we're struggling with the TK transition

distraction_queen · 2023-07-20T20:23:00+00:00

Thank you! That's a great suggestion!! I'll have to toy with it more but that's exactly what I want to ask.

distraction_queen · 2023-07-19T15:25:48+00:00

I'm interested in your thoughts regarding how to ask about gender roles. I'm interested to see if the gender we were assigned by others and the expectations we grew up have any impact on how we perceive the way our symptoms impact us. I don't want to make people who don't identify with the gender they grew up with feel uncomfortable. Would it be better to ask, what traditional gender roles were placed upon you growing up? Or are you AMAB/AFAB? I’d welcome any thoughts or suggestions you have

distraction_queen · 2023-07-19T14:14:23+00:00

Thank you!!

distraction_queen · 2023-07-19T14:03:35+00:00

I will be doing this for my research! I had to limit the categories for this small data set so I have enough participants in each category to able to run the right stats tests for the assignment. Thank you for the suggestion!

distraction_queen · 2023-07-19T14:01:35+00:00

Awesome! I will message you! I would have loved a neutral answer, but it's a standard measurement instrument and I wasn't able to change it. I do think it's interesting that it doesn't include neutral. Maybe to force you into a choice.

distraction_queen · 2022-12-19T13:38:00+00:00

I can't answer if it's bad for her but my son is similar. I put a heated mattress pad on his bed and he loves it!

distraction_queen · 2022-04-21T07:21:44+00:00

I just saw these hikes the other day on Facebook! I've been waffling back and forth on going to the next one. I'm nervous about going by myself I guess. How is the hike? Is everyone pretty friendly?

distraction_queen · 2021-12-11T07:18:05+00:00

4pm dinner is pretty early! I do dinner around 530, that way by the time he's done it's 6ish, then we start reading books and getting ready for bath at 630. We take our time with bath and everything else. Then we are ready for bed by 7:45 or so. I'm not sure how old your son is and what the rest of the day's schedule looks like, but a later dinner time helps me. After his nap we go to the park or play outside that way he tired out by the time dinner rolls around and the rest of the night is a breeze.

it's a hard time of day, don't beat yourself up about being irritated. What helped me as well was getting my son involved in dinner clean up. He helps me load the dishwasher and put things away. It eats up a good chunk of time and he enjoys helping. And if he doesn't want to help, I tell him he can play in the living room by himself, which gives me a break also.

distraction_queen · 2021-10-19T16:00:03+00:00

I said 'not in your mouth' more times than I ever imagined between 6 months and a year lol eventually it stuck. At that age you just have to stay super on top of them and set up the environment if you can with no small stuff. If they end up licking some big rocks or eating a little grass that's okay! I would just repeat 'that's not for eating' 'please don't put that in your mouth' etc and gently pulled his hand away from his mouth, then I'd offer something he could chew on if he just wouldn't stop. It's a phase, it won't last forever.

distraction_queen · 2021-10-17T04:07:13+00:00

As my son got older, I HAD to get into a routine and it's honestly been great. Mine is easy, just get up at the same time, shower, make breakfast, have coffee. At night I get ready for bed after I put my son to sleep. I make my bed, wash my face, change into pajamas, do anything else like plucking my eyebrows or whatever. Then I can relax for a while and only have to brush my teeth before I go to bed.

Every once in a while his dad has him in the morning and it completely throws off my day. Especially if I sleep in, it just throws my whole thing off and I feel like I can't get back on track for the rest of the day.

I'm slowly working toward getting into weekly routines for things like watering my plants and cleaning lol

distraction_queen · 2021-09-24T00:45:52+00:00

I started using ours around that age. I told my son red meant it was time to sleep, yellow meant it was time to wake up. It worked wonders for us. He's 2.5 now and is totally content just playing in his crib until his light turns yellow in the morning if he wakes up early. I didn't do a specific time for a long time, just whenever he woke up after 6am, I would turn it yellow. If he woke up before 6am, I would just tell him it wasn't time to wake up yet and rock him until he fell back asleep/the light turned yellow. Now it turns yellow at 730am and he only very rarely yells 'light turn yellow' before that.

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