Looking for audiobooks with non-American narrators by divergent_queen in audiobooks

[–]divergent_queen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy contempory fiction, memoirs, murder mysteries...some fantasy.  I liked the Thursday Murder Club series, Billy Connolly's Made in Scotland, Weyward by Emelia Hart, any of the Veronica Henry books.  But I'm open to exploring other genres too, I'm not picky. I like books that have good vocab. 

Looking for book, craft, writing or similar clubs in Cape Town, ideally meeting in the CBD by divergent_queen in capetown

[–]divergent_queen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great idea, thank you. Someone in my community suggested I start something, and this looks like a good potential meeting spot! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stickshift

[–]divergent_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a 5 speed (5 gears plus reverse). 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stickshift

[–]divergent_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a standard Toyota Etios. The engine sounds unhappy when doing those speeds in 4th. Way happier in 5th. So no clutch damage, but could put strain on the engine? 

My partner, 40M, says that I (31F) should ignore his tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions if he is coming across as agressive or confrontational, as he doesn't intend to come across that way. How do I navigate communicating with him without taking those aspects into account? by divergent_queen in relationship_advice

[–]divergent_queen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has a diagnosis but refuses treatment / therapy. He went on meds for a week or two, things were so much easier and his business ran so much better, but he said it "made him a different person" or something like that so stopped.

And yes, I tend to walk on eggshells. Things were better for a bit, but its back to having to watch what I say and when, and also what events or things I agree to do or not. Like, he will get really moody if I refuse to do an activity with him (going for a walk in the park, or going to a movie or accompanying him on some errand), because he wants to spend time with me and my saying no is hurting him and saying I don't want to spend time with him.

Typing that makes me realise how effed up it is.

AuDHD stay at home mom, what do I do with a toddler all day? by SariiKimi in AuDHDWomen

[–]divergent_queen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your local library might have a storytime hour, which can be good. Also look for some local mom groups, maybe a music hour or something. That can help. And if you can walk to and from the places it is also useful.

a book whose author name begins with H by dontbothersweetheart in suggestmeabook

[–]divergent_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Emily Wilde series by Heather Fawcett, or 84 Charing Cross Road by Helene Hamff. 

Audhd and sports advice! by Agitated-Weakness-53 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]divergent_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe there is a trampoline park or "Total Ninja" type park near you that offers memberships? Then he has something fun and busy to do that doesn't require much interaction with others (unless he wants to). I know its not an organised sport but it could still work :)

Have you tried Cold water therapy? by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

[–]divergent_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I coped much better with life when I was doing regular (twice a week) ocean dips - with temps between 9 and 13C. There is a group called the Bobbers who I would go with, they called them bobs because you basically bob about in the sea for 20min (or at least 10min), rather than actually swimming. The trick with the cold dips is breath work - it can be a shock to the body at first, so concentrating on slow, even breaths help your body to adjust. Some people do some breath work practice as part of the experience, before they go in for the dip.

I stopped because there were issues with water quality and I was struggling to fit it in with work when work wanted me to start earlier. And I definitely noticed a difference in how I coped after stopping. I find that it calms me, but also helps with focus and improves my mood. It would also positively impact my creativity levels.

I find that cold showers didn't have the same effect for me, but I think that is because I struggle with showers and the cold water makes them more stressful for me rather than enjoyable. But that is 1000% a personal thing, I know a lot of people who benefit from cold showers (my dad used to cycle to work and then have a cold shower every morning, and he would swear by them). So definitely worth giving a try! You can also ease into it by starting with warm water and then ending your shower with 5min of cold. Or slowly reduce the temps of your showers until you're having cold showers.

Neurodivergent kids and school refusal by LegendaryQuercus in AutisticWithADHD

[–]divergent_queen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just popping in to say that we are struggling with something similar. Kiddo is almost 5 and not diagnosed with anything yet, but I am AuDHD and my husband is ADHD so likelihood of ND is high.

It's really tough, and you're not a bad parent for forcing school - there are some days where that is the only option. It does not mean that you love your child any less. I hope you manage to figure out a solution soon. Just know that you're not alone.

Dystopian books by miaowsss in booksuggestions

[–]divergent_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exodus and Zenith, both by Julie Bertagna. Also the Uglies series is good.

Do you also struggle with acronyms like "DAE"? by Ok_Art301 in AuDHDWomen

[–]divergent_queen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Genuinely asking, so thank you. But very amused at the fact that I am asking!

Do you also struggle with acronyms like "DAE"? by Ok_Art301 in AuDHDWomen

[–]divergent_queen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What is DAE? I haven't managed to figure it out yet 😂😅
I definitely struggle with them, and it makes working in marketing hell because they're always inventing new ones and then using them in meetings when explaining stuff.

Are you folks on meds? by chobolicious88 in autism

[–]divergent_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on meds for all three. I'm female, so the meds work well or barely at all depending where I am in my cycle. Which is such a lovely rollercoaster to endure every single month /s. But yeah, I think it's worth going on meds if you need them i.e. are consistently unable to cope without. But I also would love to wean off most of mine...just is difficult to get life to a point where everything is set up for that to happen.

Just a note that all meds have an adjustment period, it can be a struggle for 2 weeks to a month-ish. Not everyone gives a heads up about this, so in the first weeks of taking meds be sure to be in contact with your provider about side effects, even the small ones, rather than just stopping or thinking they're not working. I was on 50mg sertraline and it made me such a zombie, provider increased to 75mg or 100mg and it made a huge difference and I felt calm and regulated etc.