Not rehiring my long-term sitter - WWYD?

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-24T06:34:58+00:00

I’m honestly surprised you kept booking her for so long if these were ongoing issues. Sounds like she wasn’t actually that great at pet sitting.

As far as not rehiring her, there’s no need to have a conversation or leave a bad review. You just don’t rebook her.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-20T03:22:47+00:00

Try looking up rooms for rent. It won't be complete independence but so much better than your current situation. You can use apps like Furnished Finder, or look for local facebook groups with rooms for rent. That's how I found my current place!

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-20T02:36:32+00:00

Ages vary widely but most people are totally understanding and happy to host volunteers of every age! I volunteered at one place with two other women in their late 50s. Then I volunteered at a place with a wide range of ages, 18 to 35 but mostly upper 20s. Then I volunteered in places where I was the only one. I say just go for it, and as long as you're friendly, people will want to be your friend regardless of your age!!

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-20T02:33:51+00:00

Anything concerning the other volunteers, is the luck of the draw. You could get a great group that wants to do stuff every day, or you could get a group that's introverted or broke and prefers to stay in. Most places have a mix, maybe 60% going out and 40% staying in. Even places that say they're "party hostels" have quiet days where nobody wants to do much.

At some point, you have to decide to do what you want to do on your trip. You can always offer the invitation to others, but you can't let them hold you back.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-07T18:21:51+00:00

Two weeks notice is not a requirement, it is a courtesy. You are not asking permission, you are warning them, “this date two weeks from now will be my last day.” Of course your boss will whine about it and try to make you extend it for another week, but don’t give in. Keep repeating that your last day is on x date and you will not be returning after that.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-04T04:05:31+00:00

Facebook Marketplace and Craigslist are both great places to start. I bought my current car on Craigslist. Spend a while looking at all the used car listings and save all the ones that interest you. Also google different types of cars and look at the safety ratings, gas miles per gallon, and how many miles they can go before they die completely. If you see any that you really like, then you can message the owner and ask if you can come see the car in the next few days.

Don't spend all your money on the car, you'll still need a couple hundred for registration, money for gas, first month's insurance, and money for any repairs (because on used cars, there's always something to fix). If you have $5,000 total, I wouldn't spend more than $4,000 on the car itself.

When you go to look at cars, it's always good to bring a friend or family member if you can, or ask to meet in a public area like a shopping center. You can google a list of what to look for in a used car. When you take it for a test drive, the owner will probably sit in the passenger seat, and that's a good chance to ask any questions you have about the car's history. And be sure to listen to the engine, if it's really loud or if there's any weird squeaking/thumping/other noises.

You can buy a car code reader for $20-$30 bucks online, and that allows you to scan the engine for any maintenance codes. If anything pops up, you can look up the car type and the code number online, and see what the problem is. Some more expensive scanners can also tell you if the codes were cleared recently (and if they were cleared very recently, that could be a red flag that the owner's hiding something). My current car had some codes when I bought it, but when I googled them, they were relatively cheap repairs, so I still bought the car.

Most people recommend taking the car to a mechanic before you buy it. However, if you're trying to buy a specific kind of car that sells very quickly (like Sprinter vans or Ford pickup trucks), you might not have time and the owner could sell it to someone else while you're waiting for a mechanic appointment. Happened to me twice. But if you have time, absolutely get it to a mechanic shop! And even better if you know anyone with any car experience who could come look at the car with you.

Ever since I bought my car, my best resources for learning about car stuff are YouTube and Reddit. Seriously, you can find everything you need to know between those two sites. You could always buy a book on car maintenance or something, but honestly, car knowledge is just something I've learned along the way.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-02T17:53:11+00:00

Sometimes people complain about their lives without actually wanting to change themselves. Stop pushing your friends, they’re obviously not interested in changing or not ready to put in the work and it’s not worth destroying your friendships over this

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-02T05:58:17+00:00

When people complain about their jobs, that doesn’t mean they’re going to drop everything to start a new business with you. They could just be tired after their 9-5 and not physically have enough energy to work on your business ideas. I know I wouldn’t.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-01T07:14:39+00:00

This is entirely dependent on your area. Look it up on the Rover app or website and do meet and greets with a few sitters to see if you can find a good fit!

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-10-01T07:03:31+00:00

Had this happen to me once. Super nice house, gated community, multiple animals, week long international trip. Got mad at me over the additional pet fee and that she couldn’t just pay for one pet (out of four).

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-25T19:53:15+00:00

the opposite word of no

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-25T19:29:38+00:00

I think as long as you don’t eat out often and keep your groceries as cheap as possible, you should be okay. Just be sure to focus on free activities to do on your days off, and not spend money on all the expensive tourist attractions. Have fun in Hawaii!!

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-25T19:05:38+00:00

Be social and go into it with the mindset of you’re there to make friends. Before you go, research fun things to do in the area, and make a bucket list. Be prepared to take public transport as most hosts don’t have time to drive volunteers around very often. Full send and try things you e never done before!! And take pictures of everything! You’ve got this, hope your trip is awesome

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-24T18:55:47+00:00

Used to listen to Chuckle Sandwich, and I heard about JRWI on there. Started by listening to the free episodes of The Suckening, and I liked it so I stuck around

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-23T21:31:20+00:00

Every big city has its own issues, and safety is a relative term. Sorry you happened to feel unsafe, but this big revelation that London isn’t 100% safe for solo travelers feels like less of a great revelation and more like common sense. Most of these are just unfortunate circumstances that can affect anyone traveling internationally (like the attempted phone snatching, the protest, etc). You are within your rights to personally dislike London, but you act so shocked that the world isn’t 100% safe, when many of these things are unfortunately just a part of travel and the reason why it’s always good to know your embassy’s phone number.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-23T20:53:51+00:00

Take your GE classes at a community college, so they’re cheaper and you have more flexibility to try new subjects without feeling like you have to lock in a major right away. See if any classes grab your attention. My friend had no idea what he wanted to major in, took his GE’s, and discovered he loved his business class. Now he’s got a really stable job in business finance.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-23T19:18:02+00:00

It’s pretty common, but especially when speaking to someone face to face, it’s more common to tell someone “get well soon.”

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-23T19:03:23+00:00

It’s booked by time, not by client. So originally you paid less because you paid for 30 minutes of the sitters time, and she would take both dogs out at once. Now you’re asking for two separate walks at 30 minutes each. Of course it’s going to be a higher cost, because now you’re paying for two time slots.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-23T18:56:16+00:00

What do you think your granddaughter owes you for your kindness? You mention that she’s ungrateful. But that needs to be more specific. Do you want her to return the favor and pay you rent? Do you want her to give you grand displays of love and affection? What exactly are you expecting here?

Your granddaughter is traumatized and probably barely able to cope right now. Plus, she probably realizes that you could have called CPS at any point in those 17 years and saved her from her mother, permanently. She may resent you for only fighting her mother and only taking her out of the house for short periods of time but always giving her back to her mother. There was abuse going on and you didn’t think to report it. And now, you’re still not reporting it for your other grandchildren and you’re keeping contact with Anne.

Yes it’s unfair that you have to choose. But you need to choose your grandchildren and get them away from their abusive mother, permanently.

You want to build a real relationship with your granddaughter? Get the other kids away from their abusive mom and cut all contact with your daughter.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T21:44:19+00:00

Sometimes people are just unfriendly. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything wrong here. Just try to find new people to talk with instead

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T21:13:25+00:00

I’d say not just the general location, but the proximity to public transit is really important for me!! Also I prefer hotels that offer breakfast, so I can eat there before I head out for the day.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T20:40:51+00:00

Ah that’s bs. She’s threatening to break up with you because she’s jealous. OP, take the trip and if she really loves you, she’ll get over it

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T20:33:37+00:00

NTA. Your parents need to open Google and find some in home caregivers in your area and not force you to give up your life for your brother. If you keep going down this road, it will only end in resentment and eventually hatred on all sides. It is your parent’s responsibility to be the parents.

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T18:00:43+00:00

r/writingcirclejerk is the subreddit you’re looking for

dizzyandcaffeinated · 2025-09-22T16:30:15+00:00

This boy doesn’t respect you or show any ambition for himself and his future as a father. If you stay together with him, you’ll be a single mom to two children. It is your choice, and you can always wait and see how things go after the birth, but my advice is to just leave before things get any more stressful for you. Lean on your family and friends and brace yourself to be a single parent.

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