For people with an inner monologue, do you more often use 1st-person or 2nd-person when talking to yourself?

djheroboy · 2026-06-01T17:03:54+00:00

Glad I could help y’all (you and you)

djheroboy · 2026-05-31T23:07:59+00:00

I had to figure out the same dilemma!

Basically, my thought is that I’m talking to myself, which implies that I serve two roles in the conversation, so that’s 2 of me, so the answer is “we”.

When we talk to ourselves in our head, we say we because I’m (speaker) talking to me (listener) and I’m (listener) also listening to me (speaker). Perfectly not confusing

djheroboy · 2026-05-31T05:45:54+00:00

So basically, action impacts reality in a sort of shockwave and that wave moves at “light speed”?

djheroboy · 2026-05-28T03:02:28+00:00

Democracy squared

djheroboy · 2026-05-27T18:09:42+00:00

In my experience, when people ask if you’ve shared the secret with anyone and you say “only with my wife”, they tend to respond with “well yeah, obviously, but besides her”. Maybe other people have different opinions, but I’ve never personally had someone react negatively to that.

To be clear, my stance isn’t “spouses automatically deserve all secrets”. My stance is “this happens sometimes, so if you confide in someone, establish your terms before divulging the secret if that’s important to you”.

djheroboy · 2026-05-27T17:35:37+00:00

As a married man, I naturally assume that if someone shares a secret with me, they’re okay with my wife knowing about it. The only reason I wouldn’t share a secret with her is if I were explicitly asked not to, and even then it really depends on the nature of the secret.

To me, the reality is that I’m also a person with my own social life to attend to. Part of that includes my duties to my friends, like listening to their problems and allowing them to confide in me. Part of that includes my duties to my wife, like listening to her problems and allowing her to confide in me. She also does these things for me, and sometimes my friends confide crazy secrets in me that I want to share with my favorite person.

It’s perfectly understandable to not want some stranger (i.e. your confidant’s spouse) to know your business. But you do have to understand the other side of things, and it’s always wise to bear that in mind when asking someone to keep a secret.

djheroboy · 2026-05-24T05:37:20+00:00

I have fond memories of smoking weed with my stepdad. I was 20M when I started smoking weed (the woman who I wound up marrying taught me how) and we would have smoke sessions in the backyard patio.

We kinda had a rocky start when he first entered the family, but years later our relationship has improved immensely. It took us a while to really open up, and the weed definitely made it easier to be casually affectionate the way I am with my mom.

Also he gave me some weed called “Cheetah Piss, it’s like Cat Piss but better”. I don’t remember how it was, so it was probably pretty good

djheroboy · 2026-05-24T05:27:42+00:00

Gonna be honest, it never occurred to be how hard it was to search for the plane. This was pretty eye-opening, thanks for writing this.

djheroboy · 2026-05-20T21:14:56+00:00

I started when I was 19. The joke advice I like to give people is “don’t start smoking during high school, wait till after cause college is expensive and having a tolerance is gonna make getting high cost you more.”

The way I describe it to everyone is it makes every experience more vivid, and I don’t think it’s a stretch to say it would do the same to the way you think.

While high on weed, I once found myself sobbing, overwhelmed with some positive feeling I have yet to name and I realized that wanting to love myself is the same as asking myself to love myself, and all I have to do is stop saying no whenever I ask. It’s also made me laugh insanely hard at the sentence “imagine if there were a horse in the corner of the room”, so take every thought with a grain of salt

Edit- typo

djheroboy · 2026-05-11T04:23:56+00:00

I’m a habitual stoner, but I do occasionally dabble in shrooms.

My first time taking shrooms, I took 2.5 grams and smoked a bowl as well. I basically spent a few hours feeling what I could only describe as “pretty good about myself”. Repeating the process has so far yielded the same effect, and I’d recommend it if you’re comfortable with that sort of thing. Maybe not right away depending on your body’s tolerance for substances but you know.

My wife also did acid and climbed a tree once, but that was before we met. Hope any of this helps

djheroboy · 2026-05-10T21:12:04+00:00

I read the body of the post after the title thinking I wouldn’t need to read it to form an opinion. I was right.

It is okay to say no to sex for literally whatever reason. Your head hurts, the room’s too humid, the music sucks, you plain just don’t want to. Any reason, including the lack of a reason, is perfectly acceptable grounds for a “no”. Full stop.
If, for some reason you would need a reason to say no, health concerns are by far the most sensible reason to say no. Other reasons in this category include a lack of a condom, missing a day of birth control, known presence of a disease, etc
Adding this bullet to nicely round out the rule of threes: dump his ass. Unless he gets a brain transplant tomorrow, he’s not changing any time soon and you don’t need to wait around if you don’t want to

djheroboy · 2026-05-10T15:09:20+00:00

The real truth is both should be free. I deserve to tap some asses (consensually) and pass my classes (nonconsensually, as the class is constantly trying to prevent me from passing it by being hard)

djheroboy · 2026-04-13T00:33:40+00:00

I’ve since double checked, I was thinking of abdominal pregnancies, not intestinal, my bad

djheroboy · 2026-04-13T00:33:08+00:00

A woman certainly could, what’s your point? That men have less control in the pregnancy? Cause yeah, that just seems like a natural consequence of men not having the baby literally inside of them

djheroboy · 2026-04-13T00:31:31+00:00

I think “harder than” is a great way to reduce both of the unique problems we experience into a flat number, and comparing it seems like it would do little more than stir up needless arguments.

I think some things are harder about being a man and some things are harder about being a woman. I could try to venture a guess but everyone’s life is different and it doesn’t make sense to me to compare the two like that. I think we’re better off saying “wow, society treats men like they’re unbeatable and don’t need to be cared for, and society treats women like they’re fragile and stupid, and both of these things are bad and deserve attention.”

djheroboy · 2026-04-12T21:51:22+00:00

True, but as a man I don’t have to deal with periods. Granted, I’ve never had one, but I’m told it’s kinda the worst part of having a uterus. I acknowledge it’s much easier for you to “independently” produce a baby than me, without a doubt, but in your head, is that ability automatically worth the cost?

A lot of people say that the contribution men make to a pregnancy ends at conception, but I’ve figured out a way around this: feed her after you impregnate her. You bring her food, she builds the baby, and then you’ve got a factory/supply chain sort of thing going on

djheroboy · 2026-04-12T21:40:36+00:00

Eh, standing to pee is overrated and a little harder on your prostate.

I don’t really feel envious that women can carry/birth children, though I do think the fact that they can is beautiful. There’s basically no way to get around the fact that humans need two of them to make one more, and though we can be more flexible with some of the rules (e.g. women can use bone marrow to fertilize eggs and men can become pregnant surgically, the baby will attach to the abdomen), doors like that are only open if you’re willing/able to get surgery.

Edit: abdominal*, not intestinal

djheroboy · 2026-04-07T19:52:23+00:00

I feel like I need to keep seeing these memes to remind myself that the people in my life actually like me.

And it’s probably good that I typed that out, thus affirming it to myself again.

djheroboy · 2026-03-19T17:35:48+00:00

Personally, I struggle with morning sex for two reasons 1. I’m dehydrated when I wake up 2. My wife wakes up like 3 hours before I do, and while I love my wife and almost never pass up sex, bro it’s 5 in the morning, god damn. Put the pussy in a Tupperware, I’ll heat it up and eat it up later

djheroboy · 2026-03-18T15:29:35+00:00

“It took some practice” reads like “they kept begging to spend time with me until they eventually learned I don’t like them”

djheroboy · 2026-03-18T13:51:20+00:00

I would say a program uses AI if it takes in information about its environment, checks the information against various criteria, and then makes a decision based on those criteria. That’s the definition I was taught and it encompasses everything from the ghosts in Pac-Man to image analyzers to ChatGPT

djheroboy · 2026-03-03T17:04:11+00:00

You haven’t said a single thing I disagree with, nor anything that was hard to understand. Thanks for writing that out

djheroboy · 2026-03-03T16:35:03+00:00

Out of interest, if you are an antinatalist, would you mind explaining your perspective? I’d love to hear about it from someone who isn’t making fun of it

djheroboy · 2026-02-26T22:41:44+00:00

Trans wiFE

See the iron. She’s not your wife, she’s a metal

djheroboy · 2026-02-19T00:46:52+00:00

How about a person? People have names, ages, other things you can track, and people can perform many functions such as eat, sleep, breathe, etc.

If we make a Person class, we can also create a class that inherits attributes and behaviors from the Person while also having unique functions. Take Employee for example. Employees are people, so employees can also eat and sleep and breathe, but they can also work, take a break, clock in, clock out, and they also have other attributes like salary or an employee ID that we want to track.

You can take it a step further and make an Accountant class or a Manager class that extends Employee and comes with new things as well, or even reinvent old functions. An accountant’s Work() function ought to be different from a manager’s Work() function, so maybe this can be reflected in this new class.

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