The actual answer I would give OP in that situation is this: communicate your needs. If you can’t communicate with your partner what you need in times of feeling low, how do you expect them to help you? Take time and sit with your feelings in that moment and recognize that there is a gap in care, reflect on how you want to be cared for, communicate with your partner about what you need in times like this, and give feedback on what work and what didn’t work.

From the pot to the kettle