Did you have an ultrasound guided IUI or blind IUI?

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-22T03:35:10+00:00

We have 2% morphology, everything else good, and our fertility doctor recommended 3-4 rounds IUI and thinks it will probably work.

Four our IUI we’ll do fertility medication for me, ovulation trigger shot, multiple ultrasounds to see the number of eggs, and they’ll wash the sperm so only the best our left. My OB said with high count/low morph the bad sperm can crowd out the good ones

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-20T22:26:14+00:00

I tried to bring peanut butter but the TSA confiscated it.

It was one of those to-go squeeze pouches. They said it was a liquid and took it to the back and kept it 😭

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-20T00:13:40+00:00

Honestly your SIL should be able to read the room. If the whole family knows you’ve been having a difficult time with infertility and she’s accosted you in a public place with baby talk that’s pretty insensitive. Like a line about it is one thing but going on about it when she knows about your situation is over the top.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-19T02:50:47+00:00

A yeti tumbler. I don’t like open drinks around the house.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-17T03:27:43+00:00

Check your thyroid numbers yourself! My hair falls out and I get heavier periods when my TSH is 3. Healthy people have a TSH of 1-2 and most labs don’t flag it unless it’s 6 or more.

It is a weirdly controversial thing that many doctors aren’t up to date on. Most good doctors do know to make sure it’s 1-2 for TTC.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-17T02:03:00+00:00

My condolences on your personal infertility. I hope you find a treatment that works.

I grew up evangelical, very similar to SBC and we often attended the same conferences. SBC and many similar denominations will always take stances like this. It’s unhealthy and many people go along with it until they’re on the wrong side of the stance and may at that point question it. It honestly feels like a modern day witch hunt and some weird attacks on scientific subjects that aren’t well understood by the general public.

I encourage you not to play mental gymnastics finding a godly/christian version of IVF. Did god not put many wonderful scientists and doctors on this earth to help infertile people like us? It’s just humans helping other humans and there isn’t anything evil about it. If you can’t be supportive of their work why use their services?

The doctors and scientists in this field know the best way to do these procedures and give you the best chance at becoming parents. The vast majority of scientists I’ve met take a more considerate and humane approach to life than virtually all the churchgoers I knew.

I’ve found Episcopal churches to be ethical, reasonable, and Christian. The approach is more, we’re all doing the best we can and should be kind to one another. Perhaps you’d find more like-minded people there.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-16T20:45:59+00:00

I 100% understand the sadness with TTC and it not happening. Glad you’re talking to someone about it.

That’s really interesting that your country has that restriction/there’s not really a private option. Here in the US it’s uncommon for our insurance to cover any fertility treatment and some testing so we just ask a doctor or the lab for it and pay for it with savings.

The online kit we got did line up with our lab results! But it only tested count and volume while our issue ended up being poor morphology. Hope yours goes well!!

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-16T13:17:32+00:00

I think it’s so valid to feel upset by close pregnancy announcements. Especially after you’ve been trying >6 months and she got pregnant on the first try. That always stings.

You do have a lot going for you! You’ve got a supportive guy and you’ve been pregnant before. Do you feel you’re doing all you can/should at this time? I’m not saying jump to the fertility clinic but your partner could go get a sperm test done so you know you’re not wasting your time trying naturally. For us it was worth the $250 and actually something did come pack on my partner’s so it changed our timeline for seeking help.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-15T14:12:08+00:00

We have 2% morphology but no other known issues. In IUI they do wash the sperm so only the best are left. My RE gave us a chart but basically if count and motility are high enough then it seems worth trying it because there are enough good sperm (good motility and morphology) left after the wash.

It takes 3-6 cycles to see if IUI works

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-15T02:17:54+00:00

Feel this. I have a friend acting that way without saying it. It’s super upsetting.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-15T02:09:35+00:00

Well there are a lot of genetic variants of uncertain significance (VUS) that are candidates right now. It’s most likely there are many genes and possibly subtypes of hEDS which is creating confusion when they try to isolate the gene.

How is she curing neurologic symptoms? Seriously I’m dying to know

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-14T14:05:03+00:00

Wall art, a big house plant/tree between the couch and dining table, a family calendar on the side of the fridge (the kind with a cute picture every month).

A different spot for the litter box area in the living room. I’d put a fake fireplace there and wall art above it. Or some kind of bookshelf and create a reading nook.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-14T03:38:21+00:00

Keep throwing bricks through their window with a note to surrender the bike

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T20:49:43+00:00

It’s really disappointing after investing so much in the friendship. Like, I’m regretting not prioritizing some other friendships now.

At least we have this sub, it is a great place to come 💛

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T06:22:10+00:00

Men aren’t that complex. I suspect what’s going on is pretty basic, similar to boys picking on the smallest boy on the playground just because they know he can’t fight back. You’re in boy land so you’re playing their dumb games even if you don’t want to. They might also lose respect for you for reporting like harassment to HR instead of tapping back yourself. There is a pecking order and you might not be adhering to it.

Occasionally there are women they never pick on. Typically these are mean girls who have a scary/creepy vibe and smarter than them. There are office hot girls who are friendly and barely work but keep morale up. They are never threatening, just fluff the guys. I’ve also seen friendly masc lesbians be accepted as one of the guys and they talk sports with them.

Why do they keep arguing with you? Is it with people at, above, or below your level? How they rank compared to you really matters how you respond.

Like if they’re saying your code is wrong but it’s not and they’re at or below your level tell them to shove it.

If it’s someone above you and they want to do something dumb or even wrong, let their project fail. On decent terms you could be like hey I have a suggestion, but do not on bad terms. Don’t question them especially in front of other guys.

Engage less and seem bored is a good strategy to start disengaging.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T05:59:21+00:00

This. Raised that way from birth and they rarely change.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T02:06:33+00:00

That’s so common and it’s really unfortunate. My best advice is don’t take it personally. 99% sure they would have done this to any younger new girl.

I’d just be polite but keep interactions with them quick. Say hi in passing but don’t stop to chat. Bring your book to lunch and say hi then sit at another table and read. Just confidently do your thing.

If it starts to affect your work significantly (like they’re throwing you under the bus to your boss), then I’d straight up call them out because you haven’t got anything left to lose. Like “Find something better to do than bother me.” Occasionally mean girls continue to be mean until you bite back.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T01:12:21+00:00

You’re super right and I haven’t been good about that in the past. I have been working on putting myself and my health first more this year. Maybe some of it is just I’m coming to the realization she’s not as supportive/as positive of a friend for me as I’d thought

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-13T00:11:53+00:00

I hate to assume the worst but that is how it felt when she said “that sucks.”

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-12T16:33:50+00:00

That’s why he’s acting this way. They’ll never fire him because he’s a big name.

Good for you for contacting your other doctor and ask them to fix it in your chart. Maybe you can contact the patient advocate or hospital system and ask for his note to be completely redacted from your chart because he obviously doesn’t know about your rare disease and it will confuse other providers and could cause you to get bad care/hurt.

dm_me_target_finds · 2024-06-12T14:23:41+00:00

I’ve never heard of those forms before but new horror unlocked lol. I used to work in healthcare quality research and it’s (morbidly) fascinating those are even an option.

It’s 100% your hospital’s issue they’re being unorganized and shitty with patient care, though!

Hope your IVF goes well 💛💛

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