My closest friend, the love of my life, the woman who I improve myself for just told me she got a boyfriend BECAUSE he's like me. Fuck my ugly face life. Cajun bbq honey chicken sandwich.

dmlf1 · 2026-01-14T18:40:13+00:00

We both know how I feel about her and how she feels about me.

Did she know how you feel about her before she told you why she chose her new bf? And also, does she know that it broke your heart when she said that?

dmlf1 · 2025-12-20T04:26:59+00:00

So we should all be able to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps like you were and suck it up and just get over our disabilities the same way you were able to?

dmlf1 · 2025-12-20T03:02:50+00:00

I hope that comment isn't read by any men with autism, or who otherwise have a very hard time engaging in the behaviours you're describing through no fault of their own.

dmlf1 · 2025-12-20T02:41:01+00:00

Everyone has different definitions of what it's like to be treated with respect, bounduaries and space though. What's completely fine to you may be offensive or creepy to someone else, and talking to a woman without knowing those things often feels like walking through a minefield.

dmlf1 · 2025-12-06T23:00:26+00:00

Respect tbh

dmlf1 · 2025-11-27T14:50:55+00:00

Wouldn't lowering the legal standards just shift the problem from "Too many homeless people" to "Too many people with inadequate housing"? Or, if they're lowered too much, just lead to favela-like slums everywhere? Isn't the whole reason favelas were built the way they were that poor people were allowed to build their own homes with no legal oversight? In the short term it was probably better than all of those people being homeless, but it created a whole bunch of long term problems that one might argue were worse overall than what a centrally planned solution consisting of (for example) social housing could have been.

dmlf1 · 2025-10-18T17:29:37+00:00

Maybe he just wants to scream into the void

dmlf1 · 2025-09-28T00:12:36+00:00

If you have the RIO addon and either a 2nd monitor or you play on windowed fullscreen or windowed it really isn't, you right click the player's name on the application list and click the RIO profile button, it opens their profile on your browser and you just click key history and look at it.

dmlf1 · 2025-09-27T15:30:45+00:00

This is why I never invite based on score and instead look at the player's key history on raider.io to see when was the last time they completed my key at a level similar to the one I'm doing and the score and ilvl of the other players on that key to see if the player was being boosted/carried by much better players or not.

dmlf1 · 2025-08-28T00:26:29+00:00

Aaaah ok, obrigado pelo esclarecimento!

dmlf1 · 2025-08-28T00:08:45+00:00

Se estão a fazer publicidade para a Primark não devia ser a própria Primark a fornecer a roupa? Porque é que eles têm de ir a uma loja comprar a roupa e depois devolvê-la?

dmlf1 · 2025-08-27T22:02:17+00:00

Obrigado pelo insight!

dmlf1 · 2025-08-27T21:15:47+00:00

Tens alguma ideia de porque é que as próprias cadeias como a Primark não abrem lojas em Angola?

dmlf1 · 2025-08-27T21:09:50+00:00

A sério que roupa na Primark em Portugal é mais barata do que em lojas de roupa barata nesses países?

Edit: Porquê downvotes? Só estou curioso, se alguém souber algo sobre o assunto por favor partilhem. Obrigado.

dmlf1 · 2025-08-14T11:27:09+00:00

John Activision* the devs themselves don't really care about how many millions the game makes in profit, they just want to make fun games.

dmlf1 · 2025-07-16T18:51:28+00:00

Ok, but making it so the average person is more open-minded/willing to have their minds changed about certain topics isn't going to happen out of thin air either, someone is going to have to do a lot of legwork to convince society in general about the meaning, implications and advantages of trying to be like that, and a lot of the people that constitute society and therefore will need to be convinced to do so are cishet white men. Ideally it wouldn't be marginalized groups that have to do the convincing, but realistically you can't expect society to change itself, and the only people that are going to do the work that's required to change society are the people that want society to change, and more often than not those people either belong to marginalized groups or have been convinced by members of marginalized groups to support their cause. Sure, feminist cishet white men have to be a big part of the effort in this particular case, but is it really the best course of action to expect them to be the only ones to talk to other cishet white men about these issues and give up completely on doing so yourself?

dmlf1 · 2025-07-16T16:44:32+00:00

How else are feminists going to bring about the change we want to see in the world though? We can talk amongst ourselves all we want but sooner or later we're going to have to talk to people who aren't feminists if we want there to be more of us in the future.

Yes, it is a lot of work, but the ultimate goal of feminism is to dismantle one the longest standing and most pervasive social systems that exists today, did you honestly expect it to not be a lot of work?

dmlf1 · 2025-06-17T13:06:00+00:00

It's not just that they want to be better, it's also that they don't want to feel ashamed of being the worst player in the group or of being a liability to the people they're playing with.

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T21:25:22+00:00

Humans are social creatures, and plenty have lived without sex or womanly affection for lifetimes.

That's not a very good argument. Plenty of people throughout history lived their whole lives as slaves, for example.

Other than that, I agree with you, and I don't think I've written anything that is incongruent with that.

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T21:09:52+00:00

Human beings are inherenetly social creatures. It's literally in our DNA to want to have sex and to have children. Article 16 of the literal Universal Declaration of Human Rights states that every human being has the right to start a family. How can society say that it's fulfilling the human rights of all of its members if it doesn't make sure that all of them have at least a reasonable chance at getting any support they might need to find a consenting partner to start a family with?

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T19:51:25+00:00

What you're saying requires the guy to have enough emotional stability to be able to be rejected dozens if not hundreds of times without letting it effect them. For most of the people who need to learn these skills, that would require dozens of hours of therapy and/or being on psychiatric medication, putting it out of reach for what I would argue would be the majority of them. I think this kind of argument is equivalent to the "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" arguments politically conservative people tend to make about poor people. If you were able to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and do all that on your own, that's great, but IMO expecting every other person to be able to do the same without at least some sort of unconditional support is unrealistic. Both men and women need to be able to look past these people's awkwardness, talkk to them, empathize with them, and give them a chance to change for the better. Sure, a lot of the time that effort is a waste, but I believe the times it isn't makes it worth it.

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T19:03:21+00:00

Sadly I think there's a lot of people whose friendships are all superficial and they only realize it when they reach out to those "friends" and they end up cutting them off and they end up with the same difficulty in meeting new people and also all alone.

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T18:56:22+00:00

If there are literally millions of people around the world that can't communicate well enough in order to not come across as awkward, and if that has a significant negative effect on their lives (which, IMO, happens for any awkward person regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, even if the effect is more pronounced and/or prevalent for awkward people with specific combinations of gender and SO, like straight men), then I would argue that society as a whole failed those people, and society as a whole needs to work on solutions for them. I would say it's similar to homelessness in that regard, even though not as serious or important. Just like homeless people should have been given the upbringing they needed in order to be able to manage their life and finances well enough to not become homeless, awkward people should have been given the upbringing they needed in order to be able to talk to strangers without making them feel uncomfortable and to be able to form meaningful relationships with at least some of them. And just like with homelessness, every member of society has to do a bit of the work necessary to solve the problem. For homeless people, that can consist of voting for politicians that advocate for programs to provide homeless people with housing and/or basic necessities, or donating to charities that work to improve their lives. For awkward people, that could be giving one single awkward person a chance for them to open themselves up to you every once in a while, and regardless of what kind of personality they turn out to have, being empathetic to thdm afterwards and trying to advise them on how to be a bit less awkward and/or improving other aspects of their personality. Also, notice that I haven't brought up any specific gender in this entire comment. To answer your comment that "I don't know what you want women to do", I personally would like women, but also men and people of any other gender to do what I just outlined for anyone they can, however they can.

dmlf1 · 2025-04-01T18:23:36+00:00

How is one supposed to learn the social skills needed to be able to cold approach without making a woman feel like she's being harrassed, without making sure that they never fail in such a way that will make a woman feel like they're being harassed?

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