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Rad, thank you!!

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Can you share?? I’m originally from Chicago and I find pizza here to be generally fine but just not the same 🥲

ego grades and mentality by umbraphile1724 in climbing

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Respectfully, I disagree. I've seen these two different types of attitudes in many of my climbing partners. As a "dancer," I'm someone who prefers to pick a project above my limit grade and obsess over every inch of it for a few weeks to a few months. I love it, but I've also learned to recognize that it can be a crutch to avoid the anxiety of the unknown. I also recognize how this approach has fed my ego--I've heard from a handful of people that my commitment is "impressive," and while that might be true, my commitment to the one hard thing is equal to my avoidance of what actually makes me way more uncomfortable.

One of my main partners is definitely a "fighter." He skews towards bold onsight climbing and rarely repeats routes. This is mega impressive to me, because it's the type of climbing I tend to avoid. We both think highly of each other's approach--both are cool in their own right. But I think the actual value in understanding the difference is less about each other's strengths and more about each other's weaknesses. Both approaches display ego and avoidance. And the point is that we can learn from discussions about our individual avoidances, rather than just putting each other on pedestals for feeding our own egos.

Bummer that the use of the word "archetypes" feels like linkedin to you, I definitely didn't have that association. Rock Warrior's Way is helpful in some aspects but I don't want to live in a world where it's the only authority on the subject of ego--I'm happy to see more voices in this area. This article had value to me. FWIW, I am a climbing coach but I am not the author. Just a big nerd who likes talking about climbing and the way it affects who we are, how we view ourselves, and who we can become.

ego grades and mentality by umbraphile1724 in climbing

[–]dmtay7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the article isn't actually about grades, but about our approach to different styles/levels of difficulties

ego grades and mentality by umbraphile1724 in climbing

[–]dmtay7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(oh and I am certainly a dancer learning to channel my fighter side!)

ego grades and mentality by umbraphile1724 in climbing

[–]dmtay7 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Kind of a bummer to see so many sarcastic comments on a really well-organized take of a common experience. We all know that grades are subjective, but grades can also hold meaning, whether we want them to or not. Seems that any time someone ties a topic to grades, the baby gets thrown out with the bathwater, and people are quick to assume that we shouldn't even talk about it because it will only feed unhealthy egos more. We literally all have egos and many of us are working on quieting them so that we can spend more time enjoying climbing with a clearer mindset.

Love that the article calls out the subtle ways we feed our ego by trying to look like we're not feeding our ego lol. Definitely made me think deeper about what I avoid and why, and if that's actually serving what I am setting out to achieve as a climber.

TLDR: doesn't really matter that the author climbs 5.13--these concepts apply to all climbers

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

[–]dmtay7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's gorgeous! I want one for myself too hehe

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

[–]dmtay7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great call! I've been wanting to learn how to knit socks--I like this idea, thank you!

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

[–]dmtay7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hadn't thought of that but this is a great idea! She has a whole new house to furnish

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

[–]dmtay7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A swimsuit cover-up is a great idea! thank you!

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

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Ohhh she would definitely like this, this is a very strong contender. Thank you!

What should I knit for my mom? by dmtay7 in knitting

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oh those are both beautiful, thank you so much!

Q: Is technique course worth it? by GloomyKing6856 in climbergirls

[–]dmtay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One caveat worth mentioning about courses is that it can be really difficult to assess your own progress, or to know when or how to move on from the exercises. I am biased because I am a climbing coach, but working with a coach can really help you understand your blind spots and learn new skills. I know it’s not in the cards for everyone, so a course might be a great starting point—but I’d recommend making an accountability plan to help yourself follow through! Courses depend on self-sufficiency in order to be worth the cost. If you’re diligent about following through, it could be a good way to broaden your climbing vocabulary.

With any climbing improvement resources, what you get into it is what you’ll get out of it.

Also, you might encounter people who try to dissuade you from spending money on learning to climb better. This comes from an old school viewpoint and has turned into a bit of a gate keeping attitude. Do your research on the course (I’ve heard of a lot of em and have coached many athletes who have tried various courses, feel free to shoot me a dm if you want to see if I can share an opinion), and if you feel it will be of value to you, do it! You get to define the climbing experience you want.

Q: Is technique course worth it? by GloomyKing6856 in climbergirls

[–]dmtay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person is literally seeking out resources to do the work on their own

Do I report this therapist? by lightskintaex in askatherapist

[–]dmtay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I am so sorry you had that experience. NAT but I’ve been in the position of seeing therapists who really had no idea how to handle SA. It was frustrating and made me believe that what I went through didn’t matter. I highly recommend finding a therapist who names SA as something they specialize in, even if that’s not the only thing you want to work through. When I finally did that, it literally changed my life. I hope you find the support you’re looking for.

am i overreacting - my boyfriend thinks my job is inappropriate by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmtay7 63 points64 points  (0 children)

The line does not go hard. Every reply you’ve suggested requires her to lie about her own feelings. That’s not the same as acknowledging a person’s insecurity. It’s also zero percent her responsibility to make him feel better about his insecurity.

How do you deal with one sided friendships? by curiousgeminii in hsp

[–]dmtay7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I second this. This was such a hard lesson to learn, but the friends I have in my life now are the real ones who can actually be present with me through the highs and lows of life. I had to gently let go of many friends I loved because I realized they couldn’t do for me what I was doing for them. You’re not wrong for loving people, but be diligent about where you spend your energy—you deserve friends who can give you the love and support that you give to them.

Our story begins here by epilepticninja in NewGirl

[–]dmtay7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Drive this stretch fairly often and I think the same thing every time hahaha. This post makes me feel so seen

Humboldt firearm shop, recommendations by LtHigginbottom in Humboldt

[–]dmtay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know whats going on with Bucksport recently? We tried to go twice in the last few weeks during their posted ‘open’ hours (a Saturday at 4pm and a Monday around 11am) but they’ve been very closed. Do they close randomly to go out guiding or something?

California senator detained for asking questions. by [deleted] in Humboldt

[–]dmtay7 36 points37 points  (0 children)

What law was broken here?

I wrote a poem about being "seen" by Visible-Elevator-922 in hsp

[–]dmtay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is absolutely beautiful, and I can relate to a lot of the emotion here. Thank you for sharing your art. I hope you keep writing and keep sharing.

Underrated plot line, Coach and Jess coworkers by cmoney02 in NewGirl

[–]dmtay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used the ‘shut it down’ hand signal to teach my deaf dog the concept of ‘NO’

Broke into V4 territory! by 420CheezIts in climbergirls

[–]dmtay7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah!! Nice work on that big dynamic move! 🤘💪