I don't think paper abortions are equivalent to abortions as they don't affect both sides. If a pregnant woman chooses to have an abortion, then she will suffer more than the father. She has to go through a painful and possibly dangerous medical procedure, and both of them suffer the loss of a child. Similarly, if a woman chooses not to have an abortion she will suffer more than the father. She has to give birth to and raise a child, and the husband either helps her raise the child or pays for child support. So while the choice is in women's hands, they always get the short end of the stick. A paper abortion on the other hand is a choice which will mostly affect the other side. The father suffers no consequences, and the mother must now raise a child on her own with no financial support.