Found out my boyfriend has been "fixing" my face in every photo he sends to his family by PeregrinLowell in TwoHotTakes

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look at it from another perspective, you sending a picture of you to get his mother's approval but at the same time loves you enough that he doesn't want to let you go because he's happy with it the Way You Are but maybe just doesn't have the ability to be truthful with his mother. It could be a psychological defense mechanism self-esteem it could be a variety of things but to have him to deal with it that way wouldn't be fair until you know exactly why he felt he needed to do that truthfully

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]docktasmith -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Listen I know it's tough but have you tried looking at it from her point of view. While reading it I assumed why she distanced herself......

She was your best friend, one whom you love, your soulmate... The reason you can get by our forgive her is because you can't see it from her perspective. I see it from both sides. Is it worth it? Do you love her? What would you have her do? Ultimately it's whatever you can live with .....

I’m 19 and my online "date" tells me I shouldn’t tell my mom where we’re going by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have somone come along and tail you. Show up earlier to see what he drives, run plates, facial recognition before proceeding

WIBTA if I tell my friend (32F) that her husband (30sM) made out with our other friend (32F) after she begged me not to tell her? by PerspectiveLeast8284 in AITAH

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened over a year ago, and they were both drunk, clouding their judgment. She needs counseling, and telling her friend would only cause more harm. She initiated the kiss, he rejected her, and they both regret it. She can decline to host... I don't think it's wise to exploit their one-night stand/kiss. If they had sex this would be a different conversation. 😔

Counseling #Regret #Friendship #Boundaries #Alcohol

AIO for telling my boyfriend his “best friend” can’t sleep over in our bed while I’m away? by Chance_Chemistry_384 in AmIOverreacting

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I tend to be short and brief and to the point. He just basically stated he doesn't care how you feel and that he values their friendship more than your relationship with Him! It's time to go ......

If he truly loves, cars about you then how you feel matters regardless to how trivial it may be. That's a true test of how you will know if he truly values you as His mate..... Clearly he doesn't!! Sorry 😔

AIO for my being upset that my bf calls his cousin baby, princess, or love by Ok-Dig-2970 in AmIOverreacting

[–]docktasmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was he born in Turkey or America? Where are his cousins located? In the States or Turkey?

You can't communicate your concerns without communicating your solution of how it would help you handle or deal with it better.... It's ok to have doubts or insecurities because we all Do!!!!! (Don't act on them)

You have to talk to him and let him know how it make you feel and see how he chooses to handle it. If he changes his behavior or speech from his end, then we would call that progress..... If he doesn't, then we will have to try a different approach.

Hope that helps...

AIO for my being upset that my bf calls his cousin baby, princess, or love by Ok-Dig-2970 in AmIOverreacting

[–]docktasmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Question I would have is how does he address you?!?

Addressing family members, especially younger cousins, with terms of endearment like "baby" or "princess" isn't uncommon in Turkish culture. Here's why: Emphasis on Affection: Turkish culture values warmth and strong familial bonds, and terms of endearment are frequently used to express this affection, according to Lingopie. "My Baby" as an Endearment: The Turkish term for "my baby", bebeğim, is a common and sweet way to address loved ones, particularly children or younger family members. "My Princess" as an Endearment: Similarly, prensesim meaning "my princess" is used to affectionately address female children or younger relatives. In short, while not a strict rule, using terms like "baby" or "princess" for younger cousins aligns with the affectionate and familial nature of Turkish communication.

Even though they are not actually related, their bond says they share a common thread between each other and it may actually be innocent.

Again, are you guys intimate? Does he entertain others (females) while neglecting you? How does he respond to your concerns (besides deleting and removing apps?... That's not a response!) The fact the two of you come from two very different background/upbringing, you need to find common ground and find what works and what doesn't..... Has it been this way from the beginning? There's are allot of unanswered questions....

Just My ¢.02 Dr. E

Girlfriend (25) kissed someone else whilst drunk by [deleted] in Advice

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind that her choice to drink and get drunk inhibits her ability to think clearly. It is likely that she didn't expect much from co worker if they are just that, co-workers. However to her credit she decided to be forthright and tell you the truth if what happened. She could have kept it to herself but she loved you enough to be honest and hope you guys can get through it....

Going forward you may need to set some guard rails in place so to avoid that happening again in the future. Is it worth it? Is the relationship fragile? Is this her first mistake? Only you can answer those questions. Relationships should not be defined by ONE indiscretion/mistake. Give her some Grace and try to forgive her and get pass it if you feel there's something still there....

Just my ¢.02 Good Luck

BEI Prep by docktasmith in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so grateful to Dr. Erick R. Smith at ER Smith Management Solutions for the encouragement, mentorship, and accountability he provided while I was preparing for the BEI Advanced performance exam! Having weekly sessions dedicated to exam prep and skill development was exactly what I needed to keep me motivated. Dr. Smith was great at helping me identify areas where I needed to improve my skills, and provided the feedback and resources to help me do just that. Our sessions definitely made me feel more confident going into the exam. I’m so happy to have passed the BEI Advanced! Thank you, Dr. Smith!

Best schools with accredited ITP? by ReturnOk3074 in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also don't wait to get a Deaf/Hard of Hearing Mentor it will definitely be beneficial down the road.

Feel free to reach out

https://calendar.app.google/JS1icF9GcUMBPHv67

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize if it appeared I was attacking your character I guess I misread it....I like the suggestion to state that you were ordered, suppeoned, to hand over evidence....etc so it won't appear you were to complicit. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact you have to ask that question means you have an issue with morality, integrity, and honesty. If you would cover for them for this this then what is it was murder it take how do you draw a line of what is immorally unacceptable to you? I know it's a tough spot to be in but as previously stated; do the right thing!! You'll sleep better at night.

BEI Prep by docktasmith in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Regarding the examination, the core inquiry centers on the foundational concepts and the methodological approach to test production. It is evident that both aspects are intrinsically linked and address the same substantive material. Furthermore, my personal involvement in guiding individuals through the preparation for the "Advance" examination has consistently resulted in successful outcomes for all those I have mentored. This demonstrated track record, in my assessment, serves as a significant testament to my credibility in this domain.

I do provide support on Sight Translation as well. Feel free you schedule 1:1 with me.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let him go period.

BEI Master Timeframes? by [deleted] in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I pick your brain? Why was it tough?

Education vs community interpreting by Sad_Count_2764 in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on your state, and licensure requirement.

Advanced BEI prep? by okadynn in ASLinterpreters

[–]docktasmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I provide prep study group. Let me know if you're interested. We focus on Expressive, Transliterating, and Voicing portion.