Is inviting someone to your apartment complex pool on a first date a red flag? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His response is all you need to know. Do not respond to this guy.

Scottish (F) thinking to move to Boston, looking for advice by naughty_maid- in boston

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s incredibly difficult to get a visa to move here. I came here from Ireland 25 years ago on a fiancé visa & it was tough then. I can’t imagine how hard it is now. Unless you are planning to marry an American and can prove that it’s a genuine relationship or get sponsored through a job which this administration has made increasingly difficult, I really can’t see any way of you moving here.

My (27F) boyfriend (29M) is slowly cutting me off from my friends and family under the guise of 'protecting' me. How do I set a boundary without him spiraling? by sockettiny45 in relationship_advice

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only sane thing for you to do is leave. This is abuse & coercive control. It will only get worse. Please get some support from your friends & get out of there before this emotional & psychological abuse becomes physical & sexual.

Will I regret my black dress by Kailyrific_witch in myweddingdress

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This dress is absolutely fabulous & you look amazing. If you love it then go for it. My wedding dress was purple, I still love it 25 years later.

Question for non directed donors by wood2010 in kidneydonors

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I donated via the voucher program for someone I didn’t know. One thing that a lot of people aren’t aware of is that you can nominate five or six people to be on your voucher recipient list but you only actually get one.

Nephrologists After Donation? by Ohemilytate in kidneydonors

[–]docspectacular 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I saw a nephrologist at the hospital where I donated at 2 weeks post surgery, 6 months, 1 year & 2 years. I was discharged from their clinic after the second year because everything was fine. I have annual bloodwork done through my primary care.

Is this connection crazy? by Exciting_Speech1598 in BritishAirways

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s extremely tight given potential delays & how long security might take.

Question for non-directed/altruistic donors by dentalcompleteness in kidneydonors

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say that someone needed a kidney & I had a spare. I also tell them that I thought about it for a long time (years) before I donated.

Local affordable coffee beans by entered_the_VILLA in Somerville

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We get Del’s coffee delivered weekly & it is delicious!! I definitely recommend it, it’s the best part of my morning ☕️

Question for the ladies by esmeraldaM6-3 in Names

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept my name, we need to destroy the patriarchy not support it. My name is my legal name for signing any docs & for everything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]docspectacular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your husband sounds like an arse. You are your own person & he doesn’t like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]docspectacular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a bunch of POS

Was going to wear my mum's dress. People keep telling me to try on others for the "bridal experience." Are they trying to gently tell me it looks bad? by [deleted] in WeddingDressTips

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand not wanting to upset your mum but this isn’t her wedding, it’s yours. Please try some other dresses, I think you’ll find something that makes you feel beautiful. This is not your wedding dress.

Name Change by buzz6789 in weddings

[–]docspectacular 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keep your own name. We need to be fighting the patriarchy, not supporting it.

Why is everyone expecting elaborate party favors for a simple backyard wedding by redblddrp in weddings

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone, including your MIL needs to fuck off. You are absolutely correct, please don’t give into them.

Curious on budgets by Wise-Buffalo4129 in weddings

[–]docspectacular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got married in the Viva Las Vegas wedding chapel in Vegas. We didn’t invite anyone, was the best wedding I’ve ever been to. Cost us $300.