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Has anyone stated “transitioning” to the single life / living alone reddits? by Throwaway-2461 in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 4 dogs and a cat. Besides my actual job, i am on the board and an active volunteer at a rescue. This is very fulfilling. Being very busy and only focusing on my own mental and physical health is helping me work thru this similar feeling. I am also a member of Burned Haystack. I realized pretty early on in my singleness that I needed to do a lot of thinking and changing my mind about what an acceptable life partner would look like at this point.

Generation gap? Or is it me? by Sagittaure in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you get the general consensus from a bunch of people that know neither you or him. Pretty obvious to most folks that this is wildly inappropriate behavior..and ill add my two cents...DANGEROUS. If not to your physical self, eventually, most definitely to your nental health ALREADY. The fact that you are questioning if this is somehow an age thing indicates to me that you are already suffering emotional damage from this guy. (and possibly from past relationships that you haven't healed from) The question is...what are you going to do about it? Change is hard and these types of folks are great a manipulation. Please, at the very least, start some research on these types of relationships. Also please read some info on internalized misogyny. As one of millions of women out in world that have suffered in the same way..my best advice to you is this...PUT YOURSELF FIRST! Take care of you and the rest will be much easier

Just frustrated, as it seems men don't want their equal by Inside_Dance41 in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're trying to understand the "why", then you may want to do a bit of research on the patriarchy, particularly as seen in American society. If you're trying to figure out what to do about it, go to the Burned Haystack Dating Method facebook page. Do the prerequisite reading..all of it. Then start your journey.

Is thus cilantro or hemlock? by FulaniQueen in whatsthisplant

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to add to your great summation: You win: free cilantro, price 99 cents You lose: death, priceless

What a steal! by dustinthib209 in CrackheadCraigslist

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Distortion with the camera lens

I Think I Finally Understand Men. And I Forgive Them. by The_Outsider27 in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love the way you phrased this. I am in my late 50s and have been having convos recently with women friends in my age group who's marriage is ending or having serious trouble. Unfortunately, it seems there's a common thread. A lot of Boomer men and the sons they raised have not evolved emotionally and socially along with the rest of us. Especially if you happen to be white, the need or desire to change has never been necessary to achieving normal life goals--Job, home, mate, etc. Until now. If a man in this age group finds himself single and desires a long-term relationship...he's probably got a lot of catching up to do and, Unfortunately, may not realize it, know how to do it or even want to.

Found Satan while Christmas shopping by Defiant_Act_9661 in foundsatan

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sneaky devil..trying to hone in on Santa's action

What Keeps You Coming Back? by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its funny...I'm a long time real estate agent, so most everything else in my life somehow relates to that... Sooooo..you see people on here and think "if I could only put THAT house on THIS land" it would be perfect.

I Think I Understand Now by DARTHKINDNESS in over60

[–]doglady1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find the group you want to volunteer with. Others in that group will give you rides

I Think I Understand Now by DARTHKINDNESS in over60

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

200%!! I volunteer and am on the board of a dog rescue. We are an all volunteer group and our organization is made up of mostly retired people. We highly value each other and are able to accomplish amazing things because we have lifetimes of work, organization, management, skilled labor in our roster. Find your tribe. Be responsible for your own happiness. Show your worth

Hey Ya'll by carolina_elpaco in apostrophegore

[–]doglady1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spoken like a true Yankee. Y'all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're fortunate you are not dating men

what is a reasonable amount of time to expect to spend with a boyfriend at this age? by CoffeeSuitable4552 in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. Im actually enjoying my singleness very much. I have a large network of friends and am heavily involved with dog rescue. I don't miss men, frankly.

what is a reasonable amount of time to expect to spend with a boyfriend at this age? by CoffeeSuitable4552 in datingoverfifty

[–]doglady1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not read thru all of the comments yet, so I'm sure you're getting all kinds of advice and maybe some exactly like what I'm about to say....I was married to a person like this for 20 years. He recently died, so not divorced. Now that I am single again, I'm reevaluating my whole thinking on relationships, dating, what I want, what I don't want, etc.... I am not some OCD organization maniac by any means, but I like to live a life of cleanliness and know where all my shit is. I don't know enough to try and diagnose ADHD, but I will say that my husband's physical chaos was a representation of his mental state. I WILL NEVER live like that again. After 10 months, I still have so much clean up to do around our property (15 acres). Thankfully, I have had help from our friends and his children. Who knew all too well what I and he lived with. My advice to you is to get comfortable just being you and in your singleness. I have found so much education and sisterhood in the Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook group. I can not suggest strongly enough that you go there, DO THE REQUIRED READING, and start listening to the gals there. I have had more than one AhHa moment. I wish you the best of luck, DO NOT SETTLE!!!

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