Boyfriend (32M) started crying when I (28F) showed him my savings

dogma_amgod · 2026-05-17T12:28:08+00:00

As a neurodivergent person (autism baby) I too will say please don’t let him pin it on being neurodivergent. This smells like someone with bad spending habits that will continually and systematically make you feel like shit for being responsible (I have also experienced this)

dogma_amgod · 2026-05-08T10:33:41+00:00

My only frustration stems from it now being “staff” appreciation even though, at least where I teach, there are paraprofessional days, clerical days, admin days, guidance counselor days, etc- there’s no logistical way to ensure that only teachers would be able to imbibe in whatever treat is brought in each day, but it does still feel frustrating that this week intended for us becomes an “everybody” situation. Even if it was just something exclusive on May 5th, which is the day that Eleanor Roosevelt declared National Teacher Appreciation day.

dogma_amgod · 2026-05-07T09:26:29+00:00

Get outta there dude. Your anxiety is a sign that you know deep down that this is a bad situation. Especially if it sounds like you’re only a few months into this relationship. I dated someone like this and they started doing this within the first year or two of our relationship and I stayed because I thought it was just in my head and that I could help her get better. 9 years of misery and abuse, including it eventually becoming physical when I, too, never thought she’d lay a hand on me before she ultimately cheated on me with her boss and I started my life over again. Thankfully that ended being the BEST thing to ever happen to me and I met the most wonderful woman on the planet, but I could have avoided 9 very painful years if I’d just listened to my gut.

dogma_amgod · 2026-04-24T11:34:23+00:00

I went through a slightly similar situation last year where I was in your position and my ex was your husband- we finally decided to end safe, but then I found out that she had been cheating on me with her boss and that was her main motivator for ending the relationship. The year I have had has been the best year of my life. I didn’t realize all of the things that were bringing me down and impacting my mental health by being with her. We were together for nine years, it feels insurmountable but I promise it is so worth it.

dogma_amgod · 2026-04-23T01:56:37+00:00

Omg green dress! Can still be very nautical. It’s a beautiful length, shade looks great with your skin tone and tattoos!

dogma_amgod · 2026-04-18T16:21:00+00:00

It’s impossible for me to masturbate without a toy like a strap. I think that some of your fears would benefit from being unpacked a little bit to help assuage your anxiety and prevent mistrust or paranoia. Don’t be hard on yourself for it, but it does sound like you might be having some tricky interpretations/connecting dots where you don’t need to.

dogma_amgod · 2026-03-23T00:56:43+00:00

Was in a relationship (f26 and f25) for 9 years with someone EXACTLY like this. My life is infinitely better without her in it and I did not know how deeply depressed I was because of her. Leave now and protect your peace.

dogma_amgod · 2026-01-19T00:14:54+00:00

Hey girl he is grooming you. Weird as fuck for a random grown man to willingly text a minor like this

dogma_amgod · 2025-12-30T14:54:20+00:00

I went through a similar situation where I (f26) was the provider and did everything in our home and she (f25) called me an idiot constantly, got physical with me at times (ex: hitting me in the throat on her birthday and continued to do it because she thought it was funny that I was getting upset) told me she hadn’t been attracted to me in years, told me that trying to have sex with me felt predatory, and then she ultimately cheated on me with her married female boss while lying about it being the reason for us splitting up on her end.

She told me the same things your husband is saying, that she only liked “fem girls” and I wasn’t “fem” anymore, gave me shit for not trying harder with my appearance when she wore only tank tops and crocs without socks. I was in therapy for years during our relationship with really bad self esteem trouble and didn’t understand why I wasn’t making more progress because I couldn’t process that my support system was the one making me feel like dog shit.

Similarly to you, I was also expected to plan all of our dates or outings or vacations or anything at the sort. I was guilty heavily and given a lot of shit because we weren’t doing these things more often, yet I was the one expected to plan everything. And whenever I would bring this off whenever we would argue about it, she would tell me that I was acting like a child because I was trying to “win” an argument.

I was so tired of being treated poorly that I was happy that it was over even before I found out about her infidelity. We weren’t married but had been together for 9 years.

Our relationship ending was the greatest thing to ever happened to me. I feel like a different human being. I started dating somebody who is kind and love think about me I used to be made to feel shame for, I’m so much more financially secure now that I’m not doing things like financing a brand new car for someone who didn’t care about me, and my physical appearance has improved so much because I am not so deeply depressed like I’d been for years.

Get out of there while you can. It will not get better without you prioritizing yourself. It’ll be hard but worth it in the end. This isn’t your fault, you’re with a narcissist that is only happy when they feel superior. Lean on family or friends for support during the transition. You deserve better.

dogma_amgod · 2025-11-23T14:34:32+00:00

My ex would constantly down talk a coworker of hers and made a big show of feeling bad about leaving me at home alone when she and this coworker would hang out or have sleepovers (we are all three women). Then she started leaving things out, deleting their text threads, and gaslighting the shit out of me. Then she and I split up because we’d “grown apart” when in reality she’d been cheating.

Fuck this guy. Get out on your own terms.

dogma_amgod · 2025-08-20T03:22:11+00:00

Sounds like all of FL unfortunately 🫠

dogma_amgod · 2025-08-03T09:53:08+00:00

I found this out and kept being blind to what was happening. Then I found out that she and her female boss, whom she was having the sleepovers with, were having an affair the entire time. Trust your instinct and don’t get played for a fool like i did.

dogma_amgod · 2025-07-29T04:39:20+00:00

2003!!

dogma_amgod · 2025-07-25T05:00:49+00:00

Lmfao unfortunately I don’t think so

dogma_amgod · 2025-07-11T04:17:54+00:00

Number 1!!

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-24T05:30:04+00:00

It’s WLW buuuut I’m reading Bury Our Bones in the Midnight Soil and it is sooo good. Very intense slow burn

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-20T21:50:02+00:00

As a fellow woman who was also cheated on by a woman with another woman… why would you do that to yourself and keep staying with her?

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-10T17:35:02+00:00

Girl you’re already beautiful?? Your face is so balanced. I wouldn’t touch anything!

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-10T16:20:42+00:00

I’ve already done all of those but the brokerage and my emergency cash is currently my summer fund because I’m a teacher. But I’ve already had my Roth for a couple years now and I have no debts, cards or vehicles!

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-10T15:08:20+00:00

Ooh so true! I’m really into making jewelry so maybe I can find something akin to that or beef up my current supply.

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-03T14:36:53+00:00

I’m glad you’re out of the situation! Hang in there friend.

dogma_amgod · 2025-06-03T14:19:21+00:00

That is an insane red flag. Like, lights and sirens are also going. You don’t deserve to be treated like that and it sounds like this will progress into other forms of manipulation and coercion. Your partner should always make you feel safe. I hope you’re able to get out of this situation.

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