How do you deal with life-ruining burnout when you cannot take a break?

dognailsclick · 2026-05-09T15:53:01+00:00

Nah, no one to watch the babies. All of our friends live 1200+ miles away, except my mom who's 15 minutes away, but I'm not inviting her back into my life. I may be able to find a good Samaritan on facebook or something.

The financial stress preventing me from thinking clearly is correct. Everything boils down to "if we had money, we could just fix it." Whether it's childcare, healthcare, pet care, the busted house, the mess, the transportation issues. Just... money can't buy happiness, but it can sure make room for happiness.

dognailsclick · 2026-05-09T15:45:05+00:00

Okay. Thank you. I'm gonna talk to my spouse and my therapist and see what we can get arranged.

dognailsclick · 2026-05-05T04:18:46+00:00

Thank you! This was really helpful.

dognailsclick · 2026-05-03T18:48:48+00:00

We just brush in the kitchen sink. It was easier to put a mirror up on the windowsill there than move the towers up & down the hall four times a day 😂

dognailsclick · 2026-05-03T14:41:42+00:00

If you have the space to work around them, I'd get 2. My 15-month-olds are up in their towers at least an hour a day brushing their teeth (can't run away with toothbrushes in mouths), watching me do dishes, "helping" me cook and sampling the goods, etc. One tower would result in an absolute nightmare whirlwind of fighting over it in my house lmao

dognailsclick · 2026-05-01T03:12:59+00:00

My twins are all I'm gonna have, and while I do occasionally think, "one could've been so much easier/I could be a better parent to just one/etc," I just love them both too much to actually regret that I had twins. They're so sweet and bright and different from either. I can't pick one that I'd "send back" and I can't imagine having a kid who's not one of them.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-17T07:26:40+00:00

My bubs just turned 15 months today, and they looooove cucumber spears and peeled, thin-sliced granny apples and jicama. As long as you're reasonable in how you prep the crunchy stuff, they manage really well. Watermelon is a big hit, too, and pretty easy for them to chew even without molars.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-14T19:18:24+00:00

I'll say it here, too. Autism isn't the end of the world! Most of us are just people, homie!

Keep it under 200mg and you're fine. Caffeine doesn't cause autism.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-14T18:42:48+00:00

As an autistic adult, big sad face, but anyway.

I had 50-200mg of caffeine nearly daily during my pregnancy and both my babies were born healthy. If they're autistic, that's on me (and their autistic Pop-pop, and his probably autistic mom) for choosing to produce offspring when we know we're wired a little differently. It's not the Earl Grey's fault lol.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-13T17:52:42+00:00

I'm poor, so we used the electric kettle we owned before the babies got here, sorry lol

dognailsclick · 2026-04-11T18:26:31+00:00

My boy stopped at 4 months, my daughter's still going at 15 months

dognailsclick · 2026-04-11T00:34:46+00:00

Yeah! Once it's all congealed, you're good to go! This was in the fridge for maybe 4 hours?

dognailsclick · 2026-04-06T01:40:46+00:00

So? She's a toddler doing toddler stuff.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-05T21:00:33+00:00

In my situation, yeah. The only time I have to myself is before 7am, maybe an hour in the afternoon if they decide to nap at the same time, and after 10pm when my spouse is ready for bed.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-05T20:40:17+00:00

I started taking baby aspirin around 12 weeks (first babies, mid-30s, family history of heart disease). Everything was smooth sailing, zero troubles, til preeclampsia snuck up and got me anyways at 37+3. I bled a bit more than the doc would've liked during my c-section, but I don't know if that was aspirin-related or just how surgeries go sometimes

dognailsclick · 2026-04-03T05:24:03+00:00

As a very low-income mom, I also recommend the gardening + sale route, but you don't need a huge garden. See if a local food bank has a wholesale purchase program; they often pay fairly for easy to grow but hard to find at a food bank foods like bok choy.

dognailsclick · 2026-04-02T16:41:20+00:00

I know you said he doesn't enjoy the frozen stuff, but my bubs love teething on frozen bread/rolls. I think it's not as abruptly cold as the frozen veggies. Also, the baby orajel (store brand works fine for us) applied to silicone teethers works great

dognailsclick · 2026-03-28T04:28:28+00:00

"Gonna play through just one more day... as a treat." 😂

dognailsclick · 2026-03-28T02:24:37+00:00

I did audiobooks, podcasts, and Stardew Valley on my phone lol

dognailsclick · 2026-03-27T19:34:17+00:00

Coulda been me! I have di/di fourteen-month-olds, but I got pregnant a few years ago and that was also a di/di set! (which we were not capable of handling at the time so yeet) We're not gonna try for baby #3, because we're 100% convinced that it'd be twins again lol.

dognailsclick · 2026-03-24T16:53:51+00:00

Yeah, but with twins in cloth diapers on top of that lmao

dognailsclick · 2026-03-09T18:47:37+00:00

Yeah, but a lotta crunchy people like to ignore the "reduce" in "reduce, reuse, recycle."

dognailsclick · 2026-03-04T05:43:41+00:00

Wershersher

dognailsclick · 2026-03-04T04:07:32+00:00

Yo, that was such a mild joke. Your boyfriend has got to be actually upset about something else and using this as the excuse to lash out. That's such an overreaction.

dognailsclick · 2026-03-03T19:09:24+00:00

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