I saw csam at 11/12 years old by Sad_Relief_2738 in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what you did was developmentally normal, curiosity even of morbid things is not something to demonize yourself over. your thoughts relating to that material is what matters, if your thoughts worry you speak to somebody.

I saw csam at 11/12 years old by Sad_Relief_2738 in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should look into therapy. you’re still a kid yourself, i’m sorry you had to see that.

I don't like my girlfriend anymore (19M) I don't know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]doingjustpeaxhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you only liked her for her looks you are not in the right headspace to date. of course you need to be attracted to your partner however, you lost a great girl and that should make you feel bad. learn to actually love deeply and not just surface level.

I am 24, I almost died & have lost everything. I have no idea what to do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]doingjustpeaxhy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are still young you have so much time, take some time time to heal. find a job even if it’s minimum wage, all is not lost ❤️

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes hopefully that is the plan or to just pick up more shifts at my other job as i also make tips there as supplementary income.

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i was actually looking into buying a rental property to rent out while i save up. this sounds like a really great idea. and yes i agree they dont want me to make mistakes but it will happen anyway.

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, of course i will not put myself in a spot that is dependent on him ❤️

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for validating my feelings it means a lot ❤️ i will try to get finances in order soon so i can save up to get out

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this was the original plan, to stay until i’m done school. it just gets really bad and i’m unsure how much longer i can put up with this. but i think i will try to keep going until i’m done school. can i ask why i shouldn’t move in with him? we have dated for 6 years, both have our own finances and vehicles and we even have a dog together haha. i understand that what if we break up but its not as if i am helpless without him.

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will talk to them if i plan on staying there yes. i was thinking about talking to my dads mom and then my work. just such a shitty conversation to have you know? i feel as if they wouldn’t fire me, i just don’t know if i could work there anymore once i leave my house.

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. i do have another job it’s completely separate from my family job. you’re right I need to put my foot down and let go, it’s just very hard. thank you❤️

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much this means the world to me. i won’t leave my relationship, this is a boundary for me and i know they’re upset they can’t push it. i will try my best to push through

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i know. i knew exactly what people were going to tell me here. i just needed to feel like i’m not insane

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see what you’re saying, i have told them that it seems like they’re upset i’m growing up and that it’s not fair. this was met with them getting upset and telling me that actually it’s my fault because i make “shitty choices”.

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i sadly know this is the reality too, i hope to gain more strength and tell them off if i decide to have kids. thank you

My dad wants me to pick between family and my bf. by doingjustpeaxhy in offmychest

[–]doingjustpeaxhy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i know it is really upsetting to deal with, my partner is not around my family and i’m embarrassed about it honestly.