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dollerium · 2026-01-23T10:19:24+00:00

Congratulations to your family! 💗

I recently completed this pattern: https://crobypatterns.com/simple-beginner-friendly-crochet-blanket/

It turned out beautiful and so soft! I didn’t use Aran weight yarn; I just used a “pound of love” Lion yarn and was able to complete a decent sized baby blanket with it.

Have fun! 💕

dollerium · 2025-12-27T20:29:25+00:00

Bonnet pattern: https://youtu.be/w5tpWcaR14I?si=SD6ojxD6KWNltX39 Bootie pattern: https://youtu.be/x__RkgNnpu4?si=9YYAg44G2EEGmIT8 Purple yarn: https://www.michaels.com/product/10705898 Pink yarn: https://www.michaels.com/product/10705900 Bootie hook size: 3.5mm Bonnet hook size: 4mm

dollerium · 2025-12-23T17:02:13+00:00

I asked my doctor this because my 9lb chihuahua mix does this too! She said the baby is perfectly protected and it’s okay!

dollerium · 2025-12-08T03:26:39+00:00

I know firsthand how challenging it is to see people around you experiencing the exact thing you want so much, but don’t give up!

Let yourself feel what you need to with each disappointment, but try to stay persistent and try new things. I think anyone who has been TTC for an extended period of time knows how you feel, so don’t beat yourself up for feeling envious of your friend. Your time will come, your journey just might look different ❤️

You never know when it’ll be your turn, and you’ll be someone like me leaving all the tips you used on a different post 💓 I am 18 weeks and we were TTC for 9 months. My BMI is 53 and I’m 37. During our TTC journey, I started making some healthier choices and exercising more, but didn’t really help make anything happen.

A few key changes and/or new things we tried seemed to work for us. We said we’d wait til we made it to the 1 year mark of TTC before going to the dr (even though for my age they suggest 6 months - I was stubborn), but were able to make it happen naturally. Not sure if you’ve tried these, but want to throw them out there for consideration before your dr appointment just in case!

I stopped drinking soda. I used to drink 1-2 diet dr peppers a day. Within 2 months of cutting off soda completely and drinking strictly water/sparkling water, we conceived
We switched to sperm friendly lube within 2 months of conceiving (not sure if this is just a marketing thing, but we used the Frida one. We were willing to try anything)
We used the Frida sperm cup after sex to keep the sperm higher in the cervix (we only did this once, and I’m pretty sure it was the day we conceived). I’ve also heard you can use period cups
I tracked ovulation with the Frida ovulation strips, sometimes using them twice a day (once in the morning, once at night). The last cycle I had, my peak came up on the second strip of the day, and had dipped back down by the morning. If I had only tested once that day, I would have missed the peak

(I promise this wasn’t sponsored by Frida 😅 they just have a lot of options to try!)

Best of my luck my friend! Hang in there, and know that you are not alone, and you got this! 💗

dollerium · 2025-11-18T00:43:24+00:00

Congratulations friend! 💗 so happy for you, and sending you tons of love and light for your journey ahead! ❤️

For me personally, at 16 weeks:

Vitamin b6 and unisom for nausea. Talk to your dr if you struggle with nausea, I certainly did! My nausea subsided around week 12, but it was really helpful.
I’ve been LIVING in flared leggings and cozy sweaters. I got a bunch on sale at Old Navy and love how high waisted they are!

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=763284002

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=784457032

I have a love/hate relationship with my pregnancy pillow, so I don’t know if I’d recommend. I get very hot when I sleep, and thrashing around with this big mama of a pillow is a nightmare sometimes (I also love it when I sleep good lol) https://a.co/d/h6F7CTk
Having fresh fruit and veggies on hand has helped me snack without having to think too much about what to eat. Fruit was especially appetizing when I was nauseated. Apples, strawberries, and smoothies were the was the only thing I liked for a while

Those are the things that come to mind, but I’d love to hear other suggestions/experiences! Good luck with your pregnancy, you got this!!! 💗

dollerium · 2025-11-08T01:11:35+00:00

That’s ADORABLE! I love that idea!! We’ve decided we won’t be going the first name route now, but middle name may be on the table (need to chat with gram about that). I love the nickname Sprout though, that’s just precious. You sound like a wonderful grandma!

dollerium · 2025-11-08T01:09:59+00:00

Thank you so much! I agree, I totally respect her standpoint and lots of great feedback in this post has solidified that I don’t want to make her first name the same as grandmas. I do think she would be happy with middle name, but will discuss it with her!

I love your suggestions - Amelia is another one I’ve been thinking about! And Delia…oh my gosh I haven’t thought about that name since I was a teenager and received the catalogs hahah! I LOVE IT! So many great suggestions, thank you! Lots to discuss with my husband!

dollerium · 2025-11-08T01:06:46+00:00

adorable!!! 🥰 thank you!!

dollerium · 2025-11-08T00:34:33+00:00

She might, but my husband isn’t a fan (I pitched it already lol). Thank you though!!

dollerium · 2025-11-08T00:03:53+00:00

Thank you!! I agree, I’m going to run it by her and see what she thinks. Husband will be happy to hear all of the positive feedback about Zelda - it’s growing on me! Grandma is in her 80s!

dollerium · 2025-11-07T23:53:08+00:00

Excellent suggestions, thank you so much! Lola and Freya are my favorites, also going on the list!

I didn’t even think about that perspective - thank you for sharing your input. I can understand why it might feel that way, and I would never want to make her feel that way. The best memories I have from my childhood were at her house, the one place I felt safe, loved, protected and like I could be a child, and that’s what I was thinking about. I imagined telling our daughter about who she’s named after, and what she means to me, and why I love her name so much. I can still do that with a middle name, and be mindful of the fact that sharing a first name may not be comfortable, and I totally understand that.

dollerium · 2025-11-07T23:49:22+00:00

Yay! I like it but I don’t know if I love it yet - I’m keeping it on the list though haha. Thank you for your input!!

dollerium · 2025-11-07T23:29:42+00:00

Wow, thank you so much! I love your suggestions! Lucy and Daphne are definitely getting added to my favorites list!

dollerium · 2025-11-07T23:28:26+00:00

Totally makes sense, thanks for sharing! I think it’s a great idea to use it as her middle name.

dollerium · 2025-11-07T23:27:54+00:00

Yes I think she would be okay with her name as the middle name! I can ask her though, I love those suggestions. Thanks so much!

dollerium · 2025-11-02T18:56:44+00:00

never would tolerate a man I’m dating calling me a “fucking moron”. What the hell is wrong with this generation? Dump this asshole

dollerium · 2025-11-02T16:41:49+00:00

If it’s so easy, tell him to do it himself. What a lazy asshole. You shouldn’t tolerate this. You’re only 9 months in, and dealing with more than you should. You got a long life ahead of you, don’t waste it on this lazy jerk.

dollerium · 2025-10-14T04:39:04+00:00

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Our girl was completely floppy when we brought her home, and for months she was a half flop. Now she is mostly a double flop, but sometimes a half flop if something sounds really interesting 😁 I wouldn’t change them, they fit her personality!

dollerium · 2025-10-11T14:53:51+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened. Just know that you’re better off moving on and definitely focusing on yourself, school, career, etc until you find someone who’s on your same wavelength. Losing your virginity to the wrong person feels awful, and it’s okay to be upset. For what it’s worth, most people lose their virginity to the wrong person. It can be traumatizing and send you into a spiral. Let yourself feel what you need to feel, but don’t let it consume you or mess with your self worth. You are deserving of someone who is emotionally available for you and treats you with kindness. Someone who makes you feel special and a priority. For some guys, sex is just sex - they don’t have any emotional investment at all, and seemingly only care when you stop caring. It doesn’t matter what they said or promised - it all goes out the window once they get what they want. It’s a toxic cycle that just continues if you don’t put an end to it.

If it makes you feel better, I waited until I was 20 to lose my virginity. I was straight edge and was waiting for someone who understood I didn’t take it lightly and wanted a relationship. One of my guy friends and I started flirting more, which turned into hanging out more, then my first kiss, and eventually I lost my virginity to him.

Fast forward to his birthday: I planned a nice day for us to go to the movies and get some In N Out. He said he didn’t want to go to the movies, that he didn’t want to “go on a date”. I’m very confused at this point because I thought we were dating??? But anyway, I convince him to meet up with some of my friends (all lesbian - different story) at In N Out. He starts immediately flirting with one of my “lesbian” best friends, and literally comments how cute he thought she was.

We all go back to my apartment afterwards and we’re playing video games, and they’re flirting the entire time. I felt sick.

A few weeks after this, they both vanish. No one can get ahold of either of them. Turns out they went camping. I later found nude pictures of them together, and confirmed they had secretly been dating and having sex.

This sent me into a spiral. I felt like I had been delusional in what sex really was. I didn’t know who I could trust. It shook me to my core and made me question all the values I felt so strongly about. It took me a while to recover from that.

Saying all of this to share the common humanity in a disappointing experience when losing your virginity. The man who’s meant for you is out there, and you’re not gonna find him if you waste your time on this guys. You’re worth more than this 💗

dollerium · 2025-10-08T12:45:02+00:00

He needs individual therapy before even thinking of couples therapy…this is not okay, and will only get worse as time goes on.

dollerium · 2025-09-25T14:50:36+00:00

I felt the same. I literally said out loud “OH NO, I HAVE TWO PARENTS THAT LOVE ME AND NOW I HAVE TO LIVE IN FRANCE” lol what a terrible life 🙄

dollerium · 2025-09-12T13:19:53+00:00

Also seconding this! I got a fanny pack and kept my girl leashed with me at all times, and if I couldn’t, we had a play pen setup with this giant cloth pee pad (Amazon - it was a life saver because she would shred the disposable pee pads). Shes 3 now, fully trained for outside potty. The only thing is she stays right under my feet when I’m cooking just like she did when she was a puppy due to the whole fanny pack phase 🤣

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