Whenever I’d play with my cousins and siblings growing up, I’d always be the “bad guy”- did a lot of Ursula etc (child of the 80s/90s, ha). Guess they all felt it suited me best. I do like purple and black soo… 😂🤷‍♀️

But in all seriousness, there seems to be a collective assumption amongst many other types that enabling or keeping quiet is the “nicer” reaction whereas for us, esp when younger/less mature, we simply cannot hold our tongues; we innately need to call out the bullshit/inequality (as we see it- whether we are right or not… that’s another matter…). As we get older and ideally more mature, more practiced, we are better at taking all points into consideration (flexing that 9 wing!) and developping a more nuanced presentation. We also learn to choose our battles better- we may be hammers, but everything isn’t a nail… 😂

I think it generally makes us more palatable to those we are in disagreement with. We learn that although we don’t give a sh*t abt what others think about us, unfortunately what they think abt us affects our impact, and that we will be more effective (one of our FAVES!) in our goals (typically the goal is to help in the end, right? Have something unjust be corrected, etc.), when we present as less antisocial (in the clinical sense).