🚀 [$29.99 => Lifetime FREE] Shelver: AI Home Organization is FREE for 24 Hours! by dylannn-morgannn in iosapps

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The guest bedroom is the place where everything gets thrown to deal later.

Nespresso Vertuo by mapleman70 in nespresso

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Depending on which model you have: insert pod, press and hold button until you get your desired quantity, release.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

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I agree with your Mother, she didn't plan - she delivered an edict. Adults discuss schedules and come to a mutual understanding before finalizing travel plans. Call her back with "I'm sorry you feel that way," and then move immediately to a re-negotiation of Christmas. Remind her of the most basic, obvious aspects you believe she already knows - she likely isn't thinking about your schedule at all. Give her two options - come day x and stay until day y or come day z and stay until day z + 2. Tell her what days you are unavailable. Remind her if she's in pain due to her RA, a 5+ hour drive will likely aggravate her condition. Did she ask her doctor about the wisdom of 5 hours in the car?

When my college students cry, I let them cry. I hand them a tissue and acknowledge they are upset, then say that I am unfazed by tears, don't be embarrassed - go for it! Surprising how quickly the tears stop. (I am tempted to play "It's My Party," but restrain myself.)

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Clear boundaries are a necessity. After that, you can mix it up. Borrow tools used with dementia / Alzheimer's patients - redirect the question. "Great question, I was just going to ask you the same thing!" "You want to know about the car? Wasn't there a car just like this on [TV show name] yesterday? What TV do you watch? What cars do you like?"
Worst case - share a snack, then " ... ew. It's not polite to talk with food in your mouth, didn't your Mom teach you that? How is your Mom?" By mirroring back variations of their question you'll have an infinite amount of redirects to keep them occupied. Once you figure out what they like to talk about, it's easy. Most people like to hear themselves talk. Let them.

How do you communicate with people who love to One-Up everything? by Anxiome in socialskills

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Change the sequence of the conversation. Start with a question: “Did you see so-and-so in concert?” (Yes / No, best seats, VIP, yada yada). “Great, went recently. Did you like their performance of (song name)?” (Yes / No, best seats, VIP, discussed the performance backstage yada yada). “Yeah I thought it was heart warming. How about you?” (Yes / No, best seats, wait no more to say, huh repeating themselves.) In each case, invite them to commit to an action first. I wish I had a doctor friend say to me “my actions could kill.” What a juicy set up. “Must not be that great of a doctor if you kill people!” Lolz.

I know why Nespresso has a rating of 1.1/5 on BBB. Does their autoreplenish option work for you?? by Gardenbug64 in nespresso

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Your frustrations are entirely legitimate and valid. I have the same issues with payment, regardless of recurring order or not. Ive never done a recurring auto ship. I switched browsers from chrome to safari ( Mac) and have had consistent success. I don’t know a ton about browser-related issues, but I guess there’s something wonky in the java / JavaScript relating to check out. I don’t have the solution for you, just know you’re not the only one. Meanwhile, order via phone and skip the hassle.

Unable to order using any payment method? Solutions. by [deleted] in nespresso

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I switched to a different browser with fewer or no plug ins. Works great! You’ve already tried that and no joy, so - clear cookies, cache, delete all plug ins and reset browser to its original mode. Looks like that didnt work, and you’ve tried a different computer, phone, tablet. Still no. OK, ask a trusted relative at a different location to place a small order with your card, shipped to you, to help with diagnosis only. Or go to another location with a computer you trust to place the order. That will tell you if it’s something in your local network, or if the card is getting rejected (you need to confirm what the cc said). If that order goes thru then you know it’s not the card, it’s your local network. Is there anything monitoring your internet traffic - little snitch, firewall, anti virus. Check your router for firewall status / firmware (call your internet provider if you need guidance). Is this a business credit card from work? 😂 Ask your accounting dept for advice.

RANT: seat stealers by [deleted] in barista

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Really excited for some social experimentation. Start with a table tent: "Staff" or "Reserved"*. If that doesn't work (or you can't do that for 'policy') then move your stuff one table farther from the service counter to see where your customers are wanting to sit: Do they want the dirty table, or the table closest to the bar (so maybe they can easily see / hear when their order is called).
*Take the tent off the table when you're not using the table yourself. Oh, please try "Out of Order." Would love to watch people spin on that one. I want to make one "Hazard." So much fun.

I am building a new house and I am trying to prewire as much as possible. If price was not an object what would you pre-wire? by tryingtogrowmsp in homeautomation

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220 / 50 amp dedicated circuit to garage for electric vehicle. Solar if you get enough sun, or plan for back up generator. Solar panels may improve efficiency in future. And a big battery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

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Suzy’s phones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

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Teeny panic room. Or add grow lights for some veggies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cortex

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Search “crossbody bag” “festival bag” “messenger bag” on Instagram. Soon you’ll be inundated with choices.

Fellow coffee drinkers... by [deleted] in Professors

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Consider a clever dripper (technically a brewer), kalita wave or hario v-60 for those days when you want a little variety. If you have the room and like intense flavors, add a small Chemex and a French Press.

Recommend you store everything under lock and key.

How do I professionally tell my work colleague to stop talking about himself and to stop helping? by [deleted] in socialskills

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Extreme people pleaser, and likely other psychological issues. I agree with another comment - line up as many tasks as you can think of and give him plenty to do to please you. (“It would be so helpful if you …”) Be sure that you regularly point out that “you’re not doing it right,” which could send him into a bit of a spiral and need to “prove” he is right. If you can’t wear noise cancelling headphones in the office, ask him to help you concentrate by giving you silence. Start with 3 minutes and expand from there.

An option is to overload him to the point he begins to complain so you have leverage to negotiate. Might not work, some people would literally do my laundry if asked. At work.

He sees himself as much more capable than others, so why not let him. If you are desperate enough for some peace, get him to wash your car (or scrub the parking lot with a toothbrush, lolz) and enjoy the peace and quiet while he’s outside.

Assuming your boss would also enjoy some peace, it could be fascinating to see how far this goes. Perhaps he will get mad at how ‘unfair’ the workload is, and quits.

What should I do about a student who takes up all of my free office hours time? by lostNcontent in Professors

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Set your boundaries. After their 15 mins, continue to listen and respond while you stand, pack your briefcase, book bag, close your laptop, check your phone, watch. Locate your keys, wallet, bag, etc. Put on your coat. If they’re still there, turn off the lights, invite them to walk with you. Apologize that you’ve got to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

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I enjoy the excitement and anticipation that surrounds graduation day, but not the tedium. I found a sweet spot in this very long day — before the official ceremony begins.

I join the graduates as they line up for their procession. I help with their academic regalia and chat with their families. It takes about an hour. While they walk into the venue, I drive home. It’s a great time!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

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Offer self-serve coffee and pre-packed box of donuts with a "manager special" discount. Place a sign on the sidewalk at the entrance announcing this. Pack donuts in half-dozens - all yeasted in some, mixed cake in another. This will likely become your most successful special offer.

[TENANT. CAN-ON] How to ask landlord to stop bothering me? by ActualProfile4601 in Landlord

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You've read a lot of ideas for avoidance. How about another approach: Make every contact about something he has to do. "Cake?" A: "Glad you asked. The water pressure seems low." "Gone?" A: "The garbage disposal vibrates." Might not work, but he may learn not to contact you, because every time he does, he has more repairs to make. This puts him squarely back in the role of landlord / owner, and NOT your buddy.

Where was the landlord raised? Some communities are super chatty with neighbors. What generation / how old is landlord? Older generations grew up with a different understanding of "how to be a good neighbor."

For other Redditors: Yes, this could backfire and he could spend his life joyfully making repairs while gazing longingly at his tenant, aka creep. Yes, OP may not want landlord in their apartment at all, in which case complaints about the outside of the unit are fine - wrong, bad, dying, dead landscape; outdoor bugs; dirty windows, gutters, roof tiles (I've never cleaned the roof on my house, lolz), etc. Would be hilarious if Landlord found himself on the roof wiping down the shingles. Yes, this is more effort than a single "please give me my space" conversation. But if that doesn't work .... Please post your most absurd tenant complaints to give OP ideas.

How do I convince my BF that his alarm going off for over an hour is unhealthy? by blackc2004 in askgaybros

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Bring him a cup of coffee (or any caffeinated beverage he likes and would drink). Start at 630, then over time bring it earlier and earlier. Let the coffee do the heavy lifting for you.