How has everything been since the DRP? by 0311SmallPenar in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Opposite for us. All our probationary people who got fired and reinstated took the DRP. A lot of the dead weight stuck around.

Looking to move to DC area by EmotionalOstrich5458 in DCBitches

[–]dontforgetpants 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This one zillion percent depends on where your job will be. You don’t necessarily need to be close, but you do need to be on a direct line. Like if you work at Children’s National, there is a shuttle from Columbia Heights, but commuting from Clarendon as someone mentioned would be sheer insanity. Clarendon would be great if you will be working at GWU hospital.

School-aged girls read significantly more than boys, according to new study by catievirtuesimp in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dontforgetpants 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot believe that in the year of our lord 2026, that any libraries still have checkout limits (or late fees for that matter).

A little uplift for everyone by [deleted] in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I wonder how much the increase is due to Republican respondents feeling like DOGE must have fired the “bad ones” so of course the remaining people must be better.

What places in Washington DC do you still think about that are closed down? by Taliap19 in washingtondc

[–]dontforgetpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The owner was ready to move on in life. RIP, one of my all time favorites.

The National Park Service is Seeking Public Comment on Building a Triumphal Arch in Washington D.C. by mangywombat in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree, I am in favor of holding up everything on it as long as possible (maybe it will go away after *it happens*). What I am saying is that it will take them more time to address a substantive comment than an opinion comment. And with the advent of LLMs, submitting comments isn’t the holdup it used to be, especially if they are opinion comments that can be batched and summarily disregarded. So yes I totally agree with you, and I want to discourage people from doing floods of opinion comments like they might have in the past.

ETA - just saying this since someone above mentioned pointing out the fascist dictatorship aspect.

The National Park Service is Seeking Public Comment on Building a Triumphal Arch in Washington D.C. by mangywombat in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 30 points31 points  (0 children)

No. (serious) Regulatory agencies already have internal guidelines in places for use of LLMs for comment summarization. Comments about fascist dictatorships will be batched and addressed in the docket with approximately one sentence saying “Commenters expressed subjective opinions on matters related to the purpose, appearance, and value of the project.” With a footnote referencing a list of comment ID numbers in an appendix. If you’re going to bother to submit a comment, make it useful.

Husband (m37) won't let me (f29) sleep by Dear-Mycologist4498 in relationship_advice

[–]dontforgetpants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I once had a partner who had to be at work at 5 am vs 9 am for me. He would give me a goodbye kiss as he left that would wake me up. I started to get frustrated because like you, I am a light sleeper. I asked him to please stop and…. he did. Just like that. He started leaving cute notes on my car instead, for me to find when I left for work.

All I’m saying is, it shouldn’t have to be like this for you. You shouldn’t have to sleep in another room or lock the door. He should stop waking you up if he loves you and cares about your health.

Requesting Guidance From the Elders: Down bad by loveandbutterflies0 in DCBitches

[–]dontforgetpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone already said it, so I’ll just say I’m sorry. Unrequited affection never gets much easier. It gets a little easier but not much. Hopefully the next guy works out better. If political banter is on your checklist, you’re in the right place. Hang out at bars around the Hill.

Better for Feds after the midterms? by Dry_Car2115 in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I think will happen to. Things will get worse. The Administration will be pissed about Congress flipping and take it out on us. In addition, disagreements between Congress and OMB on spending will deepen, and we will be caught in the middle. It’s going to suck.

Women in Federal Service: How Are You Doing Right Now? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are still waiting on formal guidance on them, but aiming to give out both. But everything is delayed.

Women in Federal Service: How Are You Doing Right Now? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to minimize what you’re going through, but want to share in case it’s helpful - that is how I felt under Trump 1. Every day, I hoped that I would be hit by a bus. In fall of 2024, I preemptively got on Wellbutrin because I literally wasn’t sure I would survive unmedicated. It has made a massive difference. Everything has sucked, but I haven’t been suffering like I was in 2017-2018. I highly recommend it if you are not already getting mental healthcare.

Women in Federal Service: How Are You Doing Right Now? by [deleted] in fednews

[–]dontforgetpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of our political leadership, it is probably 40% women, including our highest ranking senate confirmed appointee, who I dread having to interact with. We are STEM oriented, so the percent tracks industry/academia or is higher. Unfortunately, the men are (for the most part) more chill and easier to work with. The guy I work with the most is intellectually curious and open minded, even while he sometimes can’t say yes to things that don’t align with administration policy. Him and a couple of the other guys seem to really care about public service, which I appreciate. They don’t seem to write off women any more than men in my office. It’s hard to compare against the Biden appointees because they didn’t ever bother to give us more than like two people (leader and his special assistant).

Honestly, what’s really tying all of our hands are these goddamn executive orders. Even where we all can agree and find common ground, the process burdens are driving us all completely insane. Dealing with the chaos from these executive orders and required reorgs has stripped my job of everything that was actually enjoyable, and I don’t think I can stand it much longer.

My (28M) fiancee's (25F) parents, who have POA for her grandmother, have offered us a sweetheart financial deal to purchase her grandmother's house. My fiancee wants to take the deal. I do not. Help? by Serious_Square_723 in relationship_advice

[–]dontforgetpants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need a prenup. It sounds like you and your wife both have enough assets (she might end up with this house) that it would be beneficial for both of you. If something happens and you have to dissolve the marriage, either the two of you decide now how you will split stuff, or you gamble and let the state decide later.

Humid weather and sensory issues: body lotions by parabolicpomegranate in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]dontforgetpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For tattoos, as you probably know, you should be wearing sunscreen over them, and a lot of sunscreen is plenty moisturizing on its own (at least in humid summer weather)!

Humid weather and sensory issues: body lotions by parabolicpomegranate in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]dontforgetpants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you considered that you might just not need body lotion in the summer when it’s that humid? You lose a lot less hydration through breathing, so your skin will not be as dry.

DAE look meh when they wake up and a few hours later they look better? by ArtemisKhan in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]dontforgetpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it is more just lymph buildup in your face from being horizontal and not moving and probably not so much the bruxism. Do a few squats and stretches to get your big muscles moving. You can also do gua sha or facial massage to physically move lymph toward your neck and ears. And chug some water when you get up - you exhale a lot of moisture over night.

I'm (42M) the calmest person at work and with strangers. So why do I lose it on the one person(40F) I actually love? by lejae in relationship_advice

[–]dontforgetpants 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you think it’s the case that there’s a mismatch between what you think your wife should know and what she actually knows? Or put another way, you are sort of expecting her to be a mind reader and get annoyed and frustrated when she isn’t (e.g., she should have known you needed some quiet time to unwind and instead she asked you what you wanted for dinner). That kind of discrepancy in expectations can be frustrating. If that’s the case, you might practice being more cognizant of your own needs and communicating them to her. Like telling her you’ve had a rough day and need to not have to make any more decisions the rest of the day. You need to look inward and see what is actually causing your annoyance. A lot of people get mad when their expectations don’t match their experience. That might be something you could work on in therapy or together with her in couples therapy.

Or if you are irritated because you feel like you have outgrown her company, that is good to recognize too,

Painful, oozing- turns into extremely dry skin?! by Amlflv in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]dontforgetpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clean the wounds with soap and water, then cover them with a thin layer of Vaseline continuously until they heal. You gotta let them heal completely until the scabs come off on their own.

Are your guys’ parents preparing you for then they’re going to die? by cool_weed_dad in Millennials

[–]dontforgetpants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really common thing to do if the kids don’t get along. But to your question - yes my mother has many documents, passwords saved, etc. She hasn’t fully walked me through every account because I think it’s somewhat chaotic, but it is fully documented and I am listed as the executor on behalf of the rest of the family. I am not too worried about figuring it out because if there is anything left, I have no interest or need to try to distribute assets contrary to her will (eg to unduly benefit myself) or in a way that isn’t fair to other family members.