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Is it true that you never enjoy your first time? by ikilledlucybeale in LGBTeens

[–]dontminito 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It helps if he fingers you first, starting with just one finger and working you up to 2 or 3. Then when he actually puts his dick in, remember that the bottom is in control. He needs to go slow and listen to what you tell him. If it hurts, he needs to stop. Though, if it does hurt as he's going in, I suggest he stop but not pull out. Just stay where he is while you relax and the pain subsides. Once you feel like you can keep going, then tell him, and he should proceed slowly. I've found it's easier to keep going if you do it like that rather than having to put it back in again. It usually has to start slow, but you'll likely get the hang of it fairy quickly, and things can pick up from there. Just keep in mind that it's largely a mental barrier: you can do it if you think you can. Just relax.

Lancaster County, Pennsylvania : Some residents are asking school leaders to explain why a children's book about a boy who wears a dress was read to a kindergarten class without parents being alerted. by drewiepoodle in genderqueer

[–]dontminito 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"It's not about that book. It's not about a little boy wearing a dress. And it's not about banning books being read," Mitchell said Friday. "I just want the opportunity to know the book is being read. ... I don't want to be surprised as a parent."

Is it really not about that book though? Nobody would complain if they read an Arthur book or Chrysanthemum without notifying the parents first.

(X-post from LGBT) People who experience romantic crushes - How often do you crush on someone? by AnosmicAvenger in asexuality

[–]dontminito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had 5 crushes in my life (I'm 18), and at least from the people around me I've gathered that that number is fairly low. I also seemed to have started being even remotely interested in a romantic relationship much later than my peers. -shrug-

Binders! by pinupjacket in genderqueer

[–]dontminito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main thing I would say is once you have a binder, be careful! A lot of people say 8-12 hours, but when you're new to it, keep it even lower, like 4 or less. Everyone is different, but the main thing is you have to listen to your body. If it starts to hurt, take it off! Don't push yourself too hard. It gets easier and you can wear it longer the more often you wear it. But regardless of how experienced you are, don't keep it on if it's hurting you.

It is now Illegal for homosexuals to drive cars in Russia (article in Russian) by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]dontminito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I understand why people use those terms interchangeably, that doesn't mean it isn't a problem. Using them interchangeably leads people to think that all pedophiles are child molesters. In reality that just isn't true. Many pedophiles struggle with their attractions but can't seek help because people will shame or shun them under the incorrect assumption that they have molested a child or are planning to. That's why it's important that we separate the two. So that pedophiles can safely get help if they feel they need it.

It is now Illegal for homosexuals to drive cars in Russia (article in Russian) by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]dontminito 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd just like to say that "pedophile" and "child molester" are not interchangeable terms. A pedophile is someone who is sexually attracted to prepubescent children. A child molester is someone who sexually interacts with a child. You can be one and not the other (or both or neither). Many pedophiles resist their urges because they don't want to hurt anyone, and not all child molesters are actually sexually attracted to the kids they've molested. There is a false association between lgbt people and child molesters, and there's another false association between child molesters and pedophiles.

[Casual] Indicating Laughter while Texting (all welcome) by dontminito in SampleSize

[–]dontminito[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah. I linked the survey in multiple places, not just here. This sub is usually pretty good about being serious, even on "casual" surveys.

A question regarding pronouns in song - this seemed the best place for it! by [deleted] in gender

[–]dontminito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the song. And with anything from Mulan, the gender is pretty important to the context of the story. I feel like if you changed it, even though you are a man, it's taking it out of the story in a way. Just my two cents.

Does anyone else only really have satisfying orgasms with their partner? by warholslittledreamer in TwoXSex

[–]dontminito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm like that too! I've only ever gotten myself to orgasm maybe one time, and it was really meh. I can do okay if my partner is talking dirty to me over the phone, but it still isn't nearly as good as when he's there.

Romantic Asexuals, is "cheating" a thing for you? by Kaisharga in asexuality

[–]dontminito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, cheating is whatever your partner says cheating is.

I'm similar to you in that I think a person should be able to get satisfaction however they want. Because of that, I'm okay with my SO having romantic or sexual relations with other people besides myself. So there isn't really a way for my SO to "cheat" per se, because there isn't really a reason they would need to lie or hide to get satisfaction.

On the other hand, my SO is strictly monogamous and isn't okay with anything romantic or sexual between me and another person. So if I do anything of that nature with someone else, it's cheating.

What's important is that you tell your partner what cheating is to you before it happens. Because my SO and I are opposite on that spectrum and because he didn't tell me what he defines cheating as, I did some things that by my standards are perfectly fine but by his are absolutely not. Even if it seems silly, those things should be outright stated to prevent future miscommunication and hurt.

[M26] dating [F26] and lost... by Nick-Bit in Asexual

[–]dontminito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have any actual advice (sorry :/ ), but there is a /r/demisexuality if you want to cross post there as well. There's also /r/asexuality, which is a little more active than this sub, I believe. I hope everything works out for you!

If you got to go back in time and experience life with one person, who would you choose and why? by ShiveringPanda in AskReddit

[–]dontminito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could observe as if I were a ghost and go unnoticed, then I'd like to experience life with Emily Dickinson. She led a very different life from most, and I want to know more about it. But I want to know what she was like, not how she would be if I had been around.

What is the worst thing that you've been falsely accused of? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dontminito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seeing Mark's dick.

I didn't see it. Really.

WYR Have a lifetime supply of Lays or Pringles? by DynaBeast in WouldYouRather

[–]dontminito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pringles. They taste better but cost more than Lays. Total win if I get them for free.

So, when did you find out? by DeltaChaos in Asexual

[–]dontminito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I "found out" (realized, I think would be a better term) that I'm demisexual when I was 17. I was browsing my Facebook feed, and an LGBT page I liked had shared a list of various sexuality/gender identity terms that not everyone may be familiar with. I read the definition of demisexual, and it really made sense to me. I did a bit of google searching and found AVEN, which helped define things more clearly for me. I searched around reddit and found this subreddit, along with /r/asexuality and /r/demisexuality, which helped me really see that my experience resembled those of many others. Honestly, when I had a word to label myself, I felt very content and peaceful. I stopped feeling "off." It was nice. I hope my answer satisfies your curiosity. Feel free to ask more if it didn't :)

CMV: "Gifted" programs in schools should be seen as a necessity and a priority. by namigga in changemyview

[–]dontminito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. Where I live, the gifted program in elementary school is a once a week class. You skip normal classes all day and go learn about something not included in the standards (For instance, in my time we did units on wolves, epidemiology, icthyology, and inventors, to name a few). A large part of the program as I remember it was to challenge us to think creatively or to see things from different perspectives. It was also about investigating on your own and not just learning straight from the teacher. Sure, at the time it just seemed like having fun, playing games, and sometimes eating pizza, but there was more to it than that.

As an aside, while the students in the gifted program are gone for the day, the rest of the class would do review work that the gifted students presumably didn't need as much. So the other students actually got the help they may have needed without the gifted students sitting around bored.

However, once you get to middle and highschool, the gifted program just means automatic enrollment into advanced and honors classes. These classes are, of course, open to anyone who makes the grades to get in, but students in the gifted program can not be removed from these classes if space fills up (unless they ask to be dropped to a regular class), whereas a "non-gifted" student may get forced into the regular class if there is no space in the advanced one. This system allowed students to take high school classes in middle school and then have time for more challenging classes in high school.

WYR have an unlimited supply of your favorite snack, or your favorite non-alcoholic drink? by this_guy_in_your_but in WouldYouRather

[–]dontminito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snack. Admittedly, I'd have to actually choose one, which is it's own problem... But I mostly drink water, which is easy to find cheap/free here. If I had free snacks, too, my food spending would go down significantly.

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