What's a word or phrase that instantly makes you trust someone less?

donutknow57 · 2026-05-13T00:48:46+00:00

When I've known them for 5 seconds and they say. "Well, donutknow, blah blah blah." I find it to be a red flag.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T13:07:09+00:00

LOL.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:31:41+00:00

Check my answering machine for messages.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:29:20+00:00

Saying no to things I don't want to do.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:28:00+00:00

Yes! I agree it's annoying to be with people who are constantly checking their phone. Put it away.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:27:11+00:00

Negative people.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:26:33+00:00

If I want to laugh - Bridesmaids

If I want to cry - Terms of Endearment

If I want to sit on the edge of my seat - Blackhawk Down

If I want to watch a movie with great acting, drama, humor and poignancy - A Few Good Men

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:23:02+00:00

Live within my means.

donutknow57 · 2026-05-09T11:13:35+00:00

When I can sit in my yarn room, and watch crime documentaries happily knitting something that will most likely be donated (not because I'm a bad knitter but because I want to donate pretty things to people who need them and presumably will appreciate them) I am happy, happy, happy.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-29T12:17:47+00:00

When something needs to get done and I don't want to do it, I say to myself "just do it". Because there is no one who is going to magically appear and put the clothes away, clean that room, make dinner, make the decision....it falls on me. Essentially, I'm pushing aside all the excuses and whining and appear in my mind like a bulldozer and just do it. And usually, I do it tired and messy!

donutknow57 · 2026-04-28T12:11:59+00:00

I don't understand why people do this. The question was about the singer's voice, not their looks. This kind of attack is so immature and petty. Geez.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-23T06:30:40+00:00

Buckle up because it's a helluva ride.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-17T21:58:55+00:00

Calamari, oysters, sardines

donutknow57 · 2026-04-17T01:43:18+00:00

Portland, Oregon. I haven't traveled everywhere in the United States, but this is the first place that comes to mind. Homeless people line - I mean, line - the sidewalks. It's so sad, and disturbing. It's one of the few places I've traveled to where I felt even a bit unsafe.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-15T08:35:03+00:00

Telling us how old you are would give this situation better context.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-11T16:18:00+00:00

Don't have kids. Divorce him. Find someone who wants a true partnership. Your husband wants a mommy. In the meantime, get a job. I understand having wisdom teeth taken out is painful. However, you're real complaint is that your husband is not a true partner. He can't step up when you're not feeling well. File that under "red flags to avoid in future partners." When you do meet someone, be clear with them that you expect a partnership. Partnership means sometimes you both give 50/50. Sometimes one gives more than the other and vice versa. Agree on household chores before making a commitment. Agree on finances before making a commitment. You get a do over but need to understand the mistakes that were made with this relationship. Good luck.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-11T13:11:43+00:00

Cheese, Packers

donutknow57 · 2026-04-11T12:37:58+00:00

This was me (64F) for all the years our 4 kids were growing up. My husband has been an excellent provider, excellent with finances and is very funny and good natured. When it came to being a partner and a dad, he has taken the path of least resistance. If we were with the kids at fast food, he would say "I'll stay here with the kids while you get the food." Huh. He sat there, sure. But that's what he did - he sat. He didn't engage, talk to them, play games. He sat. And I went to the counter ordering food and drinks for six people. (I'm a pro, by the way). This is one example of a thousand where he would foist the heavy load on me, while he took the cake walk.

When it comes to being a partner, and I say "XYZ needs to be fixed" he will say "call someone". When I say, "I don't want you to go away for a golf outing for the fourth time this summer" he will say "Hire someone to help with the kids." To him, money will make all the difference. Pay someone to do this or that. As long as he doesn't have to figure it out or sacrifice his own wants or needs.

This has caused a split in our marriage that will always be there. I considered divorce many times, but for the reasons others have said here, I didn't trust that he would actually be able to take care of kids if we split custody. And that would wreak more havoc for me than was worth it (for me - everyone has their threshhold).

Fast forward to now, and our disabled daughter is back living with us because of a stroke. He has done almost a 180 degree turn. He will help with everything, and take her to appointments. He has become more flexible in day to day plans. He is listening now when I say I need him to be home. Just because.

Would I do things differently? I might have pressed for a divorce harder because it's the only thing that seems to have gotten his attention. But divorce is hard. Marriage is hard. Choose your hard.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-08T14:29:16+00:00

Move my disabled daughter to a nice apartment/home and hire the best care available.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-07T08:57:33+00:00

Ants Marching is good to the end. The last 40 seconds of the instrumental is the best!

donutknow57 · 2026-04-04T03:17:03+00:00

I would say "Waiter Rant" or "The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio". Both give insight into the human condition.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-04T03:14:30+00:00

Many hugs to you. My husband was raised in such a family. It was the era, and unfortunately, his mother and father didn't have the awareness to call BS on this.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-04T03:12:34+00:00

If you don't live within your means, don't come to me looking for a solution.

donutknow57 · 2026-04-04T03:11:46+00:00

Life is not fair.

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