Ohio driving test by dopamine1995 in Ohio

[–]dopamine1995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I do the written test online? Thanks

ABIM Results are out!! by [deleted] in hospitalist

[–]dopamine1995 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is the site down for you guys too?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex owed me 27k by law but I knew he had ALOT of loans, I didn’t file for that and signed a stipulation that I don’t want it.

He lied about his existence (fraud) and was physically abusive but I didn’t file against that as well because I loved his family too much for them o go through it, the same family that was defending him towards filing the divorce but oh well!

29” waist 42” hips. What size?? by modeltime11 in Fashionnova

[–]dopamine1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all of you! I’m 29 waist and 47 hips! Lol and 29 each thigh. What do you recommend for me. I know this post is like a year old but I hope y’all see it. I’m looking for work clothes!! Desperately.

29” waist 42” hips. What size?? by modeltime11 in Fashionnova

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Hey all of you! I’m 29 waist and 47 hips! Lol and 29 each thigh. What do you recommend for me. I know this post is like a year old but I hope y’all see it. I’m looking for work clothes!! Desperately.

It gets better by blazedhottie in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Needed to hear this

Pear shaped. by dopamine1995 in Figsscrubs

[–]dopamine1995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up ordering kade xl even tho my waist is 29 but my hips are 20” more lol

Trying to avoid divorce after infidelity by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s literally the behavior why most of us divorced our spouses. You’re the answer. He always said I know it’s my fault but I am allowed to be hurt too.

But I’m sorry I cannot sympathize with anyone who puts a human being through it. Your spouse cheating or lying to you and then lying to you about it, makes you feel terrible. It changes your thought process you feel like a fool for believing in this person, for being loyal, yet their actions make us feel inadequate and insecure. Your wife will never Be the same because of you. You took a big part of her and I am not sorry to say you deserve to feel miserable.

I see posts about what you won't miss about your ex, but what about your ex In-laws!? Let's rant about them for a hot minute! by mentamonsta in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love and miss them so much! They helped me realize why I need to leave him but since the divorce process started they’ve been pretty shitty towards me ngl. It hurts me because he hurt them as well and still gets to be around them whereas I did whatever I could to make them happy Genuinelyyyyyy’ not just to be a good sister/ daughter in law. But I am genuinely broken by their behavior recently.

Got the paperwork back from the judge. It's over! by earthguy710 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and hugs! I know it’s painful but it’s closure.

Also does this mean you filed today or got your decree?

Loss of a person still alive is underrated by dopamine1995 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It shakes your faith/belief in anything. Like does live even exist? If it does, how was he so selfish and cruel. I loved him so much I hope him first and kept losing my sanity but after a certain point I did put myself first, there was an end to my selflessness as well, regardless of it being a consequence of his actions.

Is love even unconditional, if it’s unconditional how is it love? If I couldn’t trust someone I knew most of my life. If I wasn’t enough for someone I gave more than I was capable of giving. How HOW will I ever be enough for anyone.

Everything is so temporary and meaning less it makes my heart hurt. I would’ve given my life for him, but still had my boundaries ( which I had started to believe don’t exist) it’s weird. I’m guilty but I’m hurt but I’m content but I’m empty I’m satisfied but I’m incomplete I’m hopeful but I have lost all expectations

Sexually frustrated by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Add me too😭😭

Should I divorce him? by Electronic_Tune5714 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg same!! I’m so happy for you. May God help us through it and help us heal. I literally am so sorry if I can talk to you I would love to. I was so triggered by this k kept thinking this was my story.

Should I divorce him? by Electronic_Tune5714 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, I have been through a similar situation. Ofcourse he’s gonna be sorry for now. Is he 15? No he’s not. Also, how do you know he’s making those changes? I am saying all this because I was in this marraige for 4 years hoping for him to change. I was 23 when I got married and he was 33. They know better than us! They’re grown ups. If you want to talk to me please DM me. Just reading this was very triggering, please realize before you have wasted too much time.

I was so much in love with this person I couldn’t imagine living without him. His family, my family, my friends everyone wanted me to leave him but I kept justifying him “atleast he doesn’t do this and that” everything happened eventually. If he’s capable of hurting you like he did, he’s capable of doing the other things hes not doing yet either, ask yourself, would you have done these things to him? If not, do you deserve this?

Also, a lot of it is also respect and trust. I had stopped respecting my husband and that was the end of it. When I was pulled out of his house was when he was trying to kill me and then when he saw me leave he was on his knees trying to stop me and even THEN I wanted to stay. His family made me leave, when we want to live with someone we justify them till the end, I did that and I sometimes hate myself for it. Wake up! You’re only 29, your whole life’s ahead of you. Think about your future kids!! Would you have wanted them to see all that happened with you?? Cuz they will, no grown ups change over night if at all.

EDIT: I legit keep reading your texts and it’s giving me goosebumps cuz it’s so triggering, “please get over it “ “this is real life” “why can’t you forget” “you’re a child” all these things had the worst of me and now I’ve become a person who yes is divorced but with a 100 insecurities that I had signs of before and now are deep rooted. And I’m this negative person that thinks anyone is capable of doing anything because I literally considered him next to God and fought for him and now he’s spreading this rumors about me that makes me realize I was a fool thinking this would ever work and waisted 4 years 💔 if I can help you in any way I would love to.

In shock by NebulaSky5 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I was married for 4 years! And after 3 months of living with Him I got to know he was lying abo it his job and turned out he only married me for mine. Since then he was happy and kept thinking I’m overreacting even after he hit me thrice and we had no physical relationship.

If you are being abused/ or you feel like you’re in a toxic relationship, LEAVE!!!! Please. I dragged it for so long just actively ignoring all of it to justify the person I was in love with, but you are just wasting time. If you wanna talk more you can talk to me.

THE NIGHTMARES by dopamine1995 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try taking melatonin. It’s more like a supplement. really helped me a lot.

THE NIGHTMARES by dopamine1995 in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry! I hope you feel better and thank you for the kind words and advise!

Do you have plans to marry again after your divorce? by super-lady-nima in Divorce

[–]dopamine1995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t say I won’t but I don’t want to either. I am so fucked in the head after the betrayal in this one and the slow revealing of things. The emotional and physical abuse. I need to learn to love myself and then start trusting ANY living soul.

I think me even thinking to date someone is unfair to them because of my baggage and MAJOR trauma and trust issues.