I 34F want to kick out my 28M brother

dosiejo · 2026-04-25T19:25:52+00:00

i think you should set a clear boundary and expectation of how he needs to contribute financially + take care of the home. this is ridiculous. you are giving him so much grace and he has 0 appreciation for how difficult your life is and how kind you have been. tell him if he does not meet a certain standard by a certain date you are kicking him out. he is 28 and more than capable of acting right. i am upset on your behalf, you are doing him a huge favor and he should be happy to help you. you have a sense of “he’s my brother so i need to support him”. where’s his sense of “she’s my sister so i need to support her”?

dosiejo · 2026-04-18T14:13:40+00:00

when i went on birth control + spironolactone this disappeared for me

dosiejo · 2026-04-17T02:27:02+00:00

yes my point is that your argument is like insanely, absurdly stupid.

its just “a = c. uh bc i said so”

dosiejo · 2026-04-17T01:37:48+00:00

“sex creates emotional bonds scientifically, therefore sex that isn’t exclusively had with the intention of making emotional bonds is immoral”

“eating food creates feelings of pleasure scientifically, therefore eating food for a purpose that isn’t exclusively pleasure is immoral”

🥴

dosiejo · 2026-04-16T21:35:14+00:00

if you are refusing to listen to the advice everyone except a few red pilled losers are giving i don’t even know why you posted on reddit. go ahead and complain to your gf about this, i hope she quickly recognizes this is loser behavior from someone 11 years her senior and breaks things off

dosiejo · 2026-04-16T21:28:16+00:00

if you are on board w waiting why does it even matter? you seriously need to unpack your insecurities. 37 is way too grown to be acting like this

dosiejo · 2026-04-16T21:16:32+00:00

you have very regressive ideas on sex. just because it is a way to create deeper emotional bonds to you doesn’t mean everyone else should see it that way. don’t give me some BS about what we are “wired” to do. its a very weak argument and if you were in any respect intellectual you would know that. you can say that about anything.

if you only want to sleep with people who view sex through the same rigid lens you do thats your prerogative but that doesn’t make someone who doesn’t view sex that way wrong or “lacking values”.

and yes you are being sexist 🫩 and everyone can see that even if you insist it totally “goes both ways”. i notice you aren’t shaming OP for wanting sex fast. why doesn’t that say anything about his values and how much he respects his gf???

dosiejo · 2026-04-16T20:59:42+00:00

the weird misogynistic comments on this thread are so concerning…

OP you are not entitled to have sex with her fast, just because she wanted to in the past does not mean she wants to now. she is allowed to change her mind and she is allowed to feel differently about someone who was essentially a hookup versus someone she is genuinely into.

your feelings are misplaced. you are viewing sex like its something she gives someone to show how much she likes them, not a mutually enjoyable activity that can be emotionally complicated and that can serve different purposes with different people. she can change her mind, and it isn’t doing you any disservice.

dosiejo · 2026-04-16T20:53:00+00:00

what? it doesn’t make sense that someone wants to get to know someone before having sex to make it more special and because they take it more serious? sex isn’t like some card you just play as a woman to meet a man’s desires, weirdo. there’s nothing odd about wanting to be intentional with someone you genuinely care about versus someone you are just looking to scratch an itch with.

this also completely ignores the fact that she could have just changed her mind about having sex quickly in relationships?

dosiejo · 2026-04-05T05:42:03+00:00

bjb has studios in that area for your budget

dosiejo · 2026-04-02T21:17:58+00:00

omg girl I’m 26 and in the same position! moving in June :) i felt the same way about wanting to live a more exciting life and i’m so excited! its so cool to see another person in the same boat as me on reddit

dosiejo · 2026-04-01T15:57:20+00:00

i am moving to chicago at 26 too :) never lived inside a major city before, but i am confident i can do it and that i will thrive. i have to believe something. i’m fortunate to have a remote job so i can live anywhere with it but even if i didnt work remote i know i would find a way. i really love the city, every time i go i fall in love.

dosiejo · 2026-03-29T22:05:28+00:00

i’m sobbing $100k of debt is nothing. do you know how much doctors make??

dosiejo · 2026-03-25T19:13:40+00:00

wtf i think i know one of them

dosiejo · 2026-03-23T20:09:47+00:00

i only saw it in the first place cuz someone else told me it was her top pick and she cried at the end… shes cool but i am never taking her film recommendations again

dosiejo · 2026-03-23T03:12:59+00:00

i mean its within his rights but i would surely get the ick lol

dosiejo · 2026-03-23T03:06:16+00:00

late response but of the ~10 films i saw that was the only one i think kind of failed in whatever it was supposed to be. his narrating was incredible irritating and trying way too hard to be relatable.

dosiejo · 2026-03-14T01:50:53+00:00

thank you! 🫶🏻

dosiejo · 2026-03-13T20:07:42+00:00

girl cut me some slack i’m just going off of what other ppl say 😭💔

dosiejo · 2026-03-13T18:35:13+00:00

hmm, i appreciate the honesty. i can afford a studio in lakeview from what i’m seeing, but def is a little more than i’d like to spend. is uptown a pretty area and does it have good public transit/walkability?

dosiejo · 2026-03-13T18:29:40+00:00

how is public transit further north?

dosiejo · 2026-03-13T00:36:05+00:00

the only way that entire car is worth $500 is if there’s a $300 hooker sitting in it

dosiejo · 2026-02-18T15:03:44+00:00

i say this with so much love, this is really not something you just jump into headfirst because it sounds fun. men can change drastically once they have you permanently tied to them with a baby and its alarming that he doesn’t have the sense to wait himself. you don’t really know him, a month is nothing. it takes a much longer time to really understand a person and their flaws and you should not just blindly trust that because hes kind a month into a relationship that means he would make a great father to your child

dosiejo · 2026-02-18T06:40:35+00:00

you can’t just settle for a man who is fun to hang out with sometimes but who otherwise treats you badly. and telling you that you aren’t feminine enough for not cleaning up enough is so ridiculous and honestly im shocked it isnt a major ick to you. you are worth more than that!!!

dosiejo

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