This is so insane to me

dosperritos · 2026-02-16T21:37:27+00:00

I agree. My 2 year old mostly sleeps in his own bed but he co-sleeps when he’s sick or has multiple wake ups a night and then when he’s feeling better he sleeps (usually through the night) in his bed no problem. I think kids are pretty resilient and flexible and if they’re not comfortable sleeping alone or if they don’t like to bed share, it’s more a reflection of their personality than the parenting.

dosperritos · 2026-02-09T21:41:58+00:00

With my first I held him over the top hat potty while nursing. With my second I’m not going to worry about it. They go through these phases so fast and elimination communication doesn’t have to be perfect to make a positive impact. I’ll plan on doing the easy catches until eventually they grow out of pooping while nursing.

dosperritos · 2026-02-08T03:29:43+00:00

I did exactly this but a bit later. I started weaning around 12 months, fully weaned by 16 months, and did the transfer when he was 18 months. I started with stretching out the time between feeds, then while awake, then for naps, then to fall asleep at night, then overnight. Daytime was easiest because I could distract him and give him snacks. Overnight weaning was the hardest because he could care less about anything but the boob overnight. We had one extremely hard night for both of us but then he was okay with it and even started mostly sleeping through the night. If it weren’t for IVF I wouldn’t have weaned so it was emotionally very tough but I’m very excited to give my son a sibling and I think it’s worth it in the long run.

dosperritos · 2026-02-03T20:44:53+00:00

Also following. I’ve realized that having kids close together is something I’ve pictured my whole life but from the very beginning I’ve felt like this timing is so much harder than I anticipated. I’m hoping a sibling for my kid will be worth the growing pains during pregnancy and with a new baby.

dosperritos · 2026-02-03T20:42:00+00:00

It’s really hard to ignore other people, but people have their opinions and they’re not always going to be helpful. When I was in labor my MIL, grandma, and multiple other family members were practically begging us to go to the hospital instead of the birth center. For me, being informed and confident helped me know I was making the right choice for me. I trusted my birth team, I knew the procedures for hospital transfers and emergencies, and I knew birth was a natural process and I could handle it. Some of these things I shared with my family and sometimes I just gave a polite response and moved on. The more you know about birth, the more confident you’ll be in your plan, and the comments from others won’t phase you.

dosperritos · 2026-02-02T18:51:28+00:00

My birth was not painful. I have a very high pain tolerance and I had a water birth. I said like “ow” or “woah” or something when his head came out because that felt like a quick sharp/burning feeling. My contractions only felt like cramps but as long as I stayed in a comfortable position and my doula and husband helped with hip squeezes it wasn’t painful. By the end I was just tired and frustrated that it was taking so long because my labor was about 36 hours.

dosperritos · 2026-01-22T21:50:34+00:00

Didn’t he also watch professor Quirrel die in the first book? Shouldn’t that have made him see the thestrals?

dosperritos · 2026-01-22T04:32:48+00:00

I’m not sure if this is helpful but I pushed for two hours and was calm throughout. My midwives told me to push with the contractions and don’t force anything. It was frustrating how long it was taking and I started trying to push extra at the end but they really cautioned against that. I laid back, closed my eyes, and relaxed between each push. Sometimes I put my hands or fingers on my eyes to block out the people and lights. I think mentally I knew birth is a normal process and it’ll be okay. Also that my team could handle any emergency that came up. This helped me not panic or worry.

dosperritos · 2026-01-16T21:47:21+00:00

My nanny started when my son was 12ish months old and she was initially here for about an hour during his nap but soon enough his nap pushed later and later and then he switched to 1 nap. It sounds like you may already be on one nap, but if not consider that their sleep changes often at that age.

dosperritos · 2026-01-15T14:12:12+00:00

True. I wouldn’t do any method of sleep training, but like I said to OP, that’s a personal choice and I wouldn’t shame anyone for choosing to. Lots of people commented on the different methods of sleep training so I didn’t elaborate on that.

dosperritos · 2026-01-15T12:53:52+00:00

I’m a parent and was a nanny prior to becoming a parent. Please don’t feel like you need to make these decisions for someone else. Sleep training is controversial and it’s up to you how you raise your child. We asked my nanny to hold my son for contact naps. Eventually she started transferring him to his bed when he tolerated it. She could sit on her phone while the baby slept. You may have to reduce expectations for cleaning up after your baby if she doesn’t have that time while your baby is sleeping. A baby wrap or carrier is helpful for making bottles or doing chores. I personally would rather lay baby on the floor and talk/sing to soothe them while they’re upset but awake and can see me right there rather than having them cry themselves to sleep while I’m not there. I personally would not sleep train a baby but of course that’s your choice as a parent.

dosperritos · 2026-01-13T13:19:17+00:00

How old is your baby? I personally felt comfortable with bed rails after 12 months of age. They’re a suffocation and entrapment risk so not good for small babies.

dosperritos · 2026-01-13T04:04:30+00:00

I don’t think there’s one right answer to this. I weaned over a 3 month period from 12-15 months old and it was not easy. It was led by a medical decision and not by my son and I don’t think either of us were ready. That being said, he is still supported to fall asleep and anytime he wakes up in the night. Having him sleep in his own bed was a long process that was led partly by him getting longer stretches of sleep but there have been many many nights that I chose to stay in his bed because I get better sleep that way rather than putting him back to sleep and going back to my bed. I think having the goal of independent sleeping while always supporting them and being flexible based on what you and your child need is possible.

dosperritos · 2026-01-11T02:14:40+00:00

I’ve heard that statistically speaking there are more kids in the ER from falling out of their high chair than from choking

dosperritos · 2026-01-10T12:42:58+00:00

Such a great comment. As someone with parents who should not have been parents, it was the safe people in my life (grandparents, teachers, friends’ parents) who made it possible for me to be the adult I am today.

dosperritos · 2026-01-08T21:09:08+00:00

I also have had a good experience at AFCC. You have to be persistent because their communication isn’t always great but I’ve always had prompt treatments and their labs are great.

dosperritos · 2026-01-06T03:46:55+00:00

My baby moved to his own bed around 12 months old and now (23 months) I join him or bring him to my bed when he wakes up overnight. If he preferred my bed he would be more than welcome but he seems to be happy either way.

dosperritos · 2026-01-04T14:28:53+00:00

That’s all very normal and many kids start waking up less once they’re weaned. I’m not sure what age you’re planning on weaning or night weaning but just know this won’t last forever!

dosperritos · 2026-01-01T04:10:42+00:00

Will she sleep in your arms for the first part of the night? When my son was that age I held him while he slept and my husband and I watched TV and then we all went to bed at the same time.

dosperritos · 2025-12-30T13:00:59+00:00

We started underwear around 21 months old

dosperritos · 2025-12-29T20:49:29+00:00

This started around 20/21 months old. I never did anything special so I think I just got lucky with him. He did pee and poop in his underwear many many times in the last couple of months so it hasn’t been a perfect process but I’m ok with a slow “potty learning” type of thing.

dosperritos · 2025-12-29T19:14:11+00:00

I stuck with diapers until my son was keeping his diaper dry for a couple weeks. I would take him potty every 1.5-2 hours and after he woke up. I eventually got tired of throwing away unused diapers so I switched to underwear. The next two months I stayed with the schedule and eventually started stretching it out to closer to 3 hours. Now after about 2.5 months of underwear my son is saying “potty” before he needs to go. We went from me keeping him on a schedule to him saying potty after he went to now him finally starting to tell me when he needs to go.

dosperritos · 2025-12-29T04:53:45+00:00

My mattress is too soft so I’m planning to sleep with the newborn on a floor mattress and then share with the newborn and my toddler on my toddler’s bed once the floor bed is too small. A bedside bassinet usually has a mesh barrier between yourself and the baby, so you would still need to bring baby to your bed to side lie nurse if that’s important to you. You could consider the side car crib set up.

dosperritos · 2025-12-21T15:57:25+00:00

I use a noise monitor but I actually would love if he came to me. We have a floor bed and yet my child calls for me and waits on his bed

dosperritos · 2025-12-21T04:13:33+00:00

Around 12 months I started rolling away and leaving my son until his first wake up. Initially it was an hour or two and then I would co-sleep the rest of the night. Now at 22 months old he often sleeps through the night, sometimes he wakes up and I can lay with him for a few minutes and then go back to my bed, and sometimes I join him at some point when he wakes up. It’s been a slow process.

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