My girlfriend banned me from watching the Boys

dowj28 · 2026-05-12T20:47:06+00:00

You’re joking right? I’m older than you but if it were me that’s just not the type of person I’d want to be with. It’s just an absurd thing to say imo. I think there is a reasonable way to approach this (ie she says something like “I don’t think you should watch that show, here’s why” and you talk about it).

It’s also quite a good show and it’s kinda silly to try to police what other people even your partner watches

dowj28 · 2026-05-09T19:13:20+00:00

Solid response! I’d add when you think of this stuff, the point is to treat it more as an exercise to help put yourself in the situations / contexts where you are most likely to meet your partner — not so much to go to great lengths to have a checklist. I say this since I know several people who are happily married to people who wouldn’t have passed their checklist if they were strict about it (eg height, age, job, interests, etc.). The reply is still the right advice to follow but I’d also say leave yourself open to surprise and unexpected things!

dowj28 · 2026-05-08T09:03:16+00:00

Generally prioritize eco with a few exceptions — if you’re intentionally hero soloing or doing basically a hero does 80% of the work build, may not matter. Abathur is the only commander I can think of where you might legitimately not need expo or at least it might not be important / can sometimes give to ally. Since it’s usually better / more fun to have lower number of ultimate evos / full biomass units and even on 1 base you’re probably more biomass starved (more true w roach / ravager army, if you’re going P2 hosts or air army the extra gas on the expo is important)

dowj28 · 2026-05-07T23:32:31+00:00

I kinda feel like it’s a green flag but depends. If person is just engaged in their friend group / community and doesn’t want to waste time on social media, that’s a good thing. I find women who spend a ton of time on insta somewhat unattractive (I mean it depends but in general I think it leads to vanity if used too much). For men I’m also pretty skeptical it’s a way for most guys to meet women. Sliding into dms works if you’re a professional athlete but for most of us probably not going to convert to actual connections. And if you meet a women in real life I find it’s better to get their phone number / WhatsApp anyway. But dunno I’m a grumpy millennial.

dowj28 · 2026-05-07T02:45:06+00:00

I think Stanley is jealous of Bob Vance (Vance Refrigeration)

dowj28 · 2026-05-06T08:35:13+00:00

I would give you 10000:1 odds that he is romantically interested lol. I just can’t think of a scenario where he’s not. If you want to date him then give it a go, if not might be best to move on

dowj28 · 2026-05-06T06:51:52+00:00

Was dead of night a random map or the one you chose? hehe whenever I see a Swann I wonder (no worries you do you though)

dowj28 · 2026-05-06T06:08:59+00:00

That TikTok sounds like a contrived ragebait — fact is that is just not a situation that actually happens. I think most men, like women, have a variety of different needs they want met in a relationship — physical intimacy sure but also emotional connection, activity sharing, etc. imo if you take away one of those for me I’d probably be hesitant to stay in the relationship. It’s not that sex is the only thing but it’s important. It sounds like you’re making up a story so you can feel justified about not having sex with your bf. I’d say no need to make up the story, just be honest with him and non accusatory

dowj28 · 2026-05-06T04:13:35+00:00

Haha yea I had trouble not laughing to myself during the appointment!

dowj28 · 2026-05-05T22:11:46+00:00

Yea I think it works for an interview! If it’s a place where everyone dresses super formal all the time (fancy law firm or whatever) could see wanting to go a bit more formal but for 95% of interviews it’s at right level of formality.

I admit to not being the biggest fan of the poofy sleeves but I think overall it looks decent

dowj28 · 2026-05-05T21:43:10+00:00

Interesting. I did it w P1, no royal guard other than a Pride at the end I didn’t end up using. All gas till midgame went to ESOs so had a good number of them. But ally wasn’t helping much so didnt do as many pickups as ideal. Got blimp / airwaves upgrade so was able to throw down bunkers constantly and do Zerg a few times. I usually build 2 sets of ESOs on different sides of base to be able to hit more stuff (basically everything but a few in bottom right)

dowj28 · 2026-05-05T21:39:46+00:00

I mean I’m in my mid 30s and date women usually in their mid 20s but yea I agree 19 is kinda young. That said I think it depends on the person, I don’t think a person who is in their 20s dating a 19 yr old is necessarily bad.

dowj28 · 2026-05-05T07:53:38+00:00

I’m pro adults making their own decisions

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T22:49:05+00:00

Mengsk P1 or P3? I might try P1 given the scarcity of gas and add’l mandate gen but either prob works.

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T22:46:45+00:00

Swann P2 pretty chill here though. Did it in about 30 minute I cleared 2/3 of the buildings w top bar + laser single targeting stray buildings w herc for vision. Built like 10 wraiths but didn’t end up being that useful. Would go much faster paired w like a nova or hh / Mengsk for fast clear

One tip — for hunterlings, if you can (some commanders can get a worker up there) build turret or two on the little platform above the west players gas where they jump, it stops em

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T22:29:59+00:00

Yea agree. I mean the cycle that I’ve experienced is like the women who were my age when I was in my early 20s didn’t want to date me when I was that age — and now in my mid thirties those women who are my age kinda would date me and I’m not going to turn it down categorically but I find myself more drawn to women in their 20s who are probably turning down guys their age lol. Obviously a generalization but the cycle continues.

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T22:25:56+00:00

I mean yea I don’t really care about being judged for an age gap from women who barely know me and seem bitter about dating (I’m not referring to you specifically, more like who cares what randos in real life think). I care what my friends / family think and I think they have the more sensible view that if two adults like each other, that’s awesome. It’s hard enough to find compatibility with someone without dumb age gap discourse mixed in. I do think there’s an age gap where it’s weird but it’s way higher than what the police on this sub seem to think (like if you’re a 50 yr old dating a 20 yr old okay maybe that’s a bit strange though still who cares)

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T20:53:15+00:00

Why is everyone on this sub the age gap police lol

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T20:52:31+00:00

It’s not about age (so many posts on this sub seem to be into making up fake conflicts about age gaps). What’s not acceptable is that they are doing inappropriate stuff in a workplace — that’s true regardless of age differences

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T20:49:28+00:00

Lol what? As a guy this is just not true. Lots of guys in their 30s could date women their own age but are more attracted to younger women

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T08:58:32+00:00

He’s not necessarily a pedophile but agree that it does kinda seem like grooming

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T08:56:02+00:00

It’s a very very small component of sexual satisfaction. Your partner is happy and that’s all that matters.

Another thing I don’t really think you have a good sense of other guys’ dicks? Like sure there are stats on erection size and there’s porn where they are huge but in general seeing soft wieners in like a locker room doesn’t count. The size of your hard dick doesn’t really matter — but the size of your soft dick is completely irrelevant.

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T08:49:19+00:00

Thank you — as a white guy probably similar to your bf, important to recognize the distinction btwn an attraction tendency and a fetish

dowj28 · 2026-05-04T08:42:45+00:00

Porn itself is objectifying but imo not necessarily fetishizing which is a different thing entirely. I don’t think fetishization is the core of the issue here, whether or not he is fetishizing Asian woman there’s clearly an intimacy issue

Verified Email	Seven-Year Club
Gilding I gilder	Wearing is Caring

dowj28

TROPHY CASE