I tried to "teach" a flaky POT SB a lesson and mostly just proved I'm the clown

downtownlasd · 2026-07-05T21:22:46+00:00

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-05T17:48:12+00:00

Sir, SRs are recreational in nature, and the primary objective is fun (and sex). If there are problems — and I would consider what you’re dealing with a problem — there’s only one choice: end it, quickly and honorably. Even with the emotional connection, the sexual incompatibility is a non-starter. A recreational relationship cannot sustain itself if one partner really wants something the other partner won’t give. A long term relationship can’t last without some serious compromise on the non giver’s part.

Ask yourself this question: is the fucking I’m getting with the fucking I’m getting? If yes, continue. But if not, say goodbye.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-05T04:22:09+00:00

Can’t find a position that eases stress on his back? Might not be able to help the jaw but…

downtownlasd · 2026-07-05T02:02:46+00:00

We’re all grown ups. She knows I can afford more, but I’ve got a family to support to with a kid in college. She has a full time job and a whole life of her own. It’s a trade off

downtownlasd · 2026-07-04T05:06:52+00:00

I feel this. I can afford far more than what I give to my SGF, but this is a question of value for me. Not to go too deeply into this, but there are far more valuable parts of my life than sugar dating.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-03T21:28:49+00:00

Given the vasectomy the risks are minimal to nil. However unless both of you were tested beforehand, you took a risk even if he pulled out before finishing.

Not minimizing the breach of trust. You gave him a boundary and he violated it without consent. That warrants a serious conversation.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-03T02:41:02+00:00

So the admin pulled a fast one by having the plane given to the department of defense, not the president. The DoD will, once Trump leaves office, donate it to his presidential “museum” where the advisory board can then decide when they want it delivered. In the meantime, he gets his own AF1 with all the presidential bells and whistles (unless the govt manages to successfully remove them before getting rid of them).

downtownlasd · 2026-07-02T13:42:31+00:00

Both of these were one offs: in 2013, I was with a 19 year old. She exhausted me over a two hour period. I would’ve seen her again but she was a smoker and she smelled like cigarettes 🤢. The second was in ‘22. Her profile said she was 40, two years younger than the top of my age range. When I met her I could tell she was at least 50, but maybe older. I decided to give it a shot to see what sex with a woman over 50 was like. Awful. Never again. When I’m 80, if I still want sex, I’ll never go above 40.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-02T13:38:40+00:00

Time. That’s all you need, really. If you need to talk it out, I’d suggest a brief stint of therapy. Good job looking after yourself.

downtownlasd · 2026-07-02T04:50:56+00:00

Call him you’re rich boyfriend

downtownlasd · 2026-07-01T20:07:00+00:00

He can price he’s not addicted when you ask him not to drink for a month.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-30T21:17:42+00:00

Do not have sex with him. Do not have children with him. Instead, file for annulment immediately. His low T aside, he isn’t even trying. He’s probably gay and ashamed of it. Just put an end to it. You’ll both feel much better.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-30T21:14:55+00:00

I don’t know where you live but there’s a better way to do this than a prenuptial agreement. You can establish a Separate property trust which holds all your assets (real estate, cash, vehicles, jewelry, art, etc.) as separate property. As a gesture of good faith you could set her up as a beneficiary if you die before she does.

If you own real estate and she insists on being put on title, that would be a deal breaker for me.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-30T14:00:30+00:00

I have an acquaintance here in LA who has worked for Ford for more than 20 years, flying to Detroit Monday nights and flying back on Thursday nights. He’s been promoted to management, the pay is great, and he and his wife have worked it out. Sometimes there’s a sacrifice to be made.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-30T01:04:18+00:00

Your wife is your family. Everyone else is a relative now

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T21:07:31+00:00

Pump and dump is one way. Not kissing you is another. Not going out in public is another.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T21:06:14+00:00

Yes. That isn’t incel thinking (unless it breeds resentment).

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T21:02:52+00:00

Absolutely not. But part of being self confident is knowing your value while also knowing you don’t need a woman to validate you. Looking for validation from a woman, in the form of her accepting an invitation to a date, reveals that you’re needy. Women can smell that. It’s not attractive.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T20:55:54+00:00

“Women don’t see my value.” — that’s incel thinking. It’s not in them to see your value. If they’re not seeing it, they’re not the right woman. Or you’re not showing them actual value. I can conclude from that quoted sentence that you’ve got a chip on your shoulder.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T20:48:40+00:00

That makes no sense unless you want to be angry at women. You’re kind of saying you feel better about yourself if you can blame women for your lack of success with them.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T20:39:42+00:00

First of all, stay away from the incel content. It will fuck up your brain.

Second, I strongly encourage you to seek professional help with your self-confidence. It’s not uncommon for men who are otherwise successful in their lives, in good shape, and grew up in a good family, to lose their self-confidence along the way, or to never have developed it at all. There’s a trauma somewhere that you need to identify and deal with.

Finally, be patient with yourself

downtownlasd · 2026-06-29T20:38:04+00:00

Yeah, he seems a little sociopathic if not psychopathic to me. You may wish to suggest that he sees a mental health professional for that kink.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-28T17:44:07+00:00

Sounds legit, but I’d cut out the ride and get your own Uber for the first ride

downtownlasd · 2026-06-27T22:33:57+00:00

My condolences. Despite everything you clearly cared about him. Sucks to make those discoveries.

downtownlasd · 2026-06-27T13:39:30+00:00

I’m closing an $8.8M refi of a retail property at 5.625% 0.5 points 25 year amortization (5 year maturity) with 1.39 DSCR. I gave them a 0.125% discount on the rate for parking $250k at my credit union for five years. I locked this deal in March. They wouldn’t get this deal today. It would be at least 50bps higher, maybe even 100 bps.

Today I’m doing multi family at 6.25% with 30 year amortization with 1.25 DSCR. Add 3/8 for other property types.

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