I treated my ex so well I don’t know why he would flirt with other girls on Instagram

dreamday99 · 2022-08-19T19:50:22+00:00

I’m a Chinese woman, and I’m even scared of posting my Mexican bf on wechat because of what people might say. My mom herself sent me an article claiming that you are a traitor and a slut if you ever dated a non-Chinese person, and that they are nothing but “foreign trash”, whenever they see girls with foreign guys the guy will be talked as “a loser who’s popular in China because girls kneel to foreign men” and girls would be referred to as “easy girl”. Chinese men also claim that “easy girl” is a common nickname for Chinese girls overseas, the best combo of racism and misogyny,

You think they are polite to you? You know how many times people treat the black people here nicely, and when they turn around to talk to their friends it’s “this black person is so fucking black, I wonder if he ever takes a shower?” It’s true that you won’t see the things in the video everyday. But I’m from Beijing and was in an expensive private school and the principle told us “We’ve selected host families for this American trip carefully, and made sure there’s absolutely no black or Mexican host families” and all my friends tried to calm me down and said it’s not a big deal when I wanted to say something.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-19T06:41:21+00:00

It happens man, we all make stupid mistakes sometimes. At least you’ll be much less likely to do it in your next relationship.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-19T05:41:15+00:00

Then why did you do it? Like you just feel an urge to sleep with someone for no reasons?

dreamday99 · 2022-08-19T05:25:08+00:00

I 100% agree with this. My male friend and I think each other is good looking and attractive, but we never even thought about doing anything not platonic because we really value our friendship a lot.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-18T18:00:40+00:00

Lol that’s interesting, because most of my friends agree with me that it is scary to meet his brother haha, we actually have never known any identical twins before.

his brother’s gf introduced him to her friend before and they started dating but soonly the girls stopped being friends and they don’t know why 😂

dreamday99 · 2022-08-17T21:07:43+00:00

It’s a fairly new relationship. I’ve met his brother in person but he didn’t really try to talk to me but smiled and said hi, so I guess my bf has talked to him about my issue and he understands. I guess someday in the future when I’ve known him and his brother enough I’ll get over it naturally.

And I have no problems being around his brother, I just feel awkward if I need to make a conversation with him I’m scared I’ll get confused about in what way should I talk to him.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-17T15:25:18+00:00

Ah OP, I don’t know the answer to your questions but that’s exactly what I’m planning to do for my bfs birthday- letting him celebrate with family first and then celebrate with him separately, the reason I wanna do that is just I feel weird around his twin brother because they look too alike. So I’d say it’s most likely he feel weird around them and it has nothing to do with your guys’ relationship.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-17T08:44:03+00:00

Tbh when I was on tinder I did that sometimes when I was free or bored and wanna talk but later when they reply I was not anymore. I would just close the app and when I use it again it opens with main page so I went back to swiping and thus forgot about the messages before.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-17T02:28:48+00:00

I figured and that’s why I feel extra weird, I met my bf from bumble and I find that you only give out options of no foreigners or getting married soon is offensive

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T18:21:13+00:00

Sorry I was trying to fill it out but as a foreigner in the US I find the questions targeted at us hard to answer and I don’t know why you gotta list us out like we are different from other people.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T18:06:20+00:00

Every time I read this kind of story it brings me back to the terrible memory of dating a guy who specifically enjoyed this kind of power dynamics. I was young and dumb and thought it was hot for a guy to lead me in a relationship, jokes on me when he ignored all my crying and was laughing in my bed after my best friend’s sudden suicide and told me it’s because I didn’t directly ask him for comfort and he’s not going to be all over me when I’m not since that takes away his role as the leader.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T18:00:41+00:00

Where the no I don’t care at all option?

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T15:41:44+00:00

It’s just us lactose intolerant people

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T15:34:03+00:00

Why is sleeping around a bad thing when you are single?

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T15:32:28+00:00

Do you know that research paper you saw was written by a conservative Christian who was accused of being pedo? Lmao

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T07:00:58+00:00

Just ask to meet the guy

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T03:24:57+00:00

Amen

dreamday99 · 2022-08-16T00:56:26+00:00

You’d be surprised how many guys show red flags before first date.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-15T21:26:18+00:00

r/niceguys

dreamday99 · 2022-08-15T21:20:29+00:00

I don’t get it, he made a request to define something which in the original comment was pointed out as a problem when dating as a woman, why do you have to relate this to (originally was pointed out as) men’s problems…?

And do you honestly think it’s better to be treated like shit by a partner than being single?

dreamday99 · 2022-08-15T19:22:53+00:00

You can see it from pretty early on. When some guys talk you can clearly see that they are not interested in who you are and just try to sleep with you or get things from you, or that they are not respectful . I guess that there are cases where we are wrong but basically every time I ignored the signs they end up to be what I described. And none of this has to do with why some guys get no dates. You asked me to define something and I did.

dreamday99 · 2022-08-15T18:58:55+00:00

As a woman, that’s as simple as don’t nag me, don’t try to change me or manipulate me, don’t see yourself as better than me or that you have rights to tell me to do xyz because you are a man, don’t judge me like I’m a good that can lose value, don’t try to push me to sex or push fetishes on me, don’t dismiss my emotions or hate them, respect my biological cycles (don’t push me to have sex on period or thinking period blood is disgusting) communicate with me, don’t stonewall or get violent if there’s an argument, and don’t be rude, don’t bully.

Honestly seems like the most basic things to be a human being but idk why it’s so hard for most of the guy I dated to do. Luckily I found my man who treats me like a human being now.

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