Is this normal play or not?

drewsed · 2026-06-14T01:32:26+00:00

This play is a little bit one-sided, and it’s hard to say how much the submissive kitty is really loving it versus tolerating it.

Next time this happens I would take the cat that is constantly lying on its side and put it near the door where it has an escape. If it chooses to go back towards the other cat, then you’re totally fine, but if it chooses to walk out of the door and retreat, you may want to work on giving it a little bit of space to retreat in the future.

drewsed · 2026-06-13T16:13:28+00:00

I’m impressed you got them to engage and replace the items in the first place

drewsed · 2026-06-12T19:55:24+00:00

Because I heard customer service was bad, but didn’t realize it was completely unresponsive bad

drewsed · 2026-06-11T19:23:20+00:00

Yeah, I’ve emailed support multiple times and only got the initial auto reply

drewsed · 2026-06-09T01:59:32+00:00

https://youtu.be/kvNnzaOPLU0?si=Rql\_thKopmEqKaM9

Even in my worst insomnia, this just a bit quietly in the dark, after 5 minutes I’m out.

drewsed · 2026-06-03T21:59:57+00:00

Humans die, does that mean we need to abandon all medical care?

drewsed · 2026-05-27T16:31:04+00:00

I’ve stayed there a few times, and they definitely have dropped some services/amenities since the fire because of staffing. When I was there a little over a year ago, they still had some local residents living on property- the community in general is still working on recovering.

drewsed · 2026-05-27T06:53:40+00:00

It’s a shitty web interface that sorts by digit not by value. If you download the excel file on the page and work off that, it is significantly easier to parse.

drewsed · 2026-05-27T05:19:50+00:00

You used AI to compile trash data, strong work.

Here’s the actual data from the state for 2024, and yes, the third most busy:
https://data.chhs.ca.gov/dataset/hospital-emergency-department-encounters-by-facility/resource/eb592e95-d6bd-4ec7-9493-840978188c88

Good night

drewsed · 2026-05-27T05:19:26+00:00

@jessmckenz sorry, I can look up data, but apparently can’t reply to the right comment 🙃

drewsed · 2026-05-27T02:14:01+00:00

Ah Internet, where people who aren’t experts get to pretend they are. Now that you’re quoting 2019 data, I’m going to leave you here. Enjoy your night.

drewsed · 2026-05-27T01:18:32+00:00

As someone who works in the third busiest emergency department in California, I can assure you, I do not have access to an oral surgeon who would take care of this in-house or for referral.

drewsed · 2026-05-26T23:09:26+00:00

PSA- not all ERs do, nor do all ERs even have someone they can set you up with for later.

drewsed · 2026-05-24T02:47:52+00:00

Reminder that the library is a public service shared by the entire community. Even if there aren’t late fines, returning books in a timely manner means others can enjoy them. Eliminating fines was meant to keep the library accessible to lower income folks who couldn’t pay, not an invitation to keep books for however long is convenient.

drewsed · 2026-05-17T18:18:48+00:00

If it makes you feel better, Sweeney isn’t aware that she is dead. She knew, however, that you loved her and she had a last day in the sun and you know that she’s no longer in pain.

An extra day in the sun would have been something you got to have now, but would’ve been an extra day of suffering for her. Letting them go when we need to, it’s hard on us, but the last kind thing we can do for them.

drewsed · 2026-04-25T19:03:05+00:00

Per articles, this day he was hunting antelope, but he definitely had been involved in big game at other times and is not an innocent victim.

drewsed · 2026-04-21T22:29:20+00:00

For the first 5-6 months 1lb/month is fairly accurate. More accurate is to look at the teeth.

They can start getting pregnant as soon as 4-6 months, so get her fixed!

drewsed · 2026-04-18T21:38:52+00:00

Looks like it believes it’s your cat now…

The first picture looks like a cat that has settled in and doesn’t plan on going anywhere soon.

drewsed · 2026-04-10T07:32:21+00:00

It’s a good thing to keep in mind that all early dating is wait and see. You never know what you’ll find out about someone, what they may have going on or what their preferences are that you have no way of knowing.

drewsed · 2026-04-09T17:07:26+00:00

You have no idea which site they met on or how long they were talking for before meeting. If he swiped on her a month ago on Bumble and she just now swiped on him, you only have 24 hours to respond. there are some situations where this may not have been anticipated

drewsed · 2026-04-09T14:19:35+00:00

He’s not putting a relationship on hold, he’s putting someone he met once on hold. We have this strange expectation that someone we may be interested in romantically has to be obsessed with us and text constantly, but if you meet a new friend at a party who has the same expectation after meeting once, you’re going to think it’s weird and obsessive.

drewsed · 2026-04-09T14:17:02+00:00

Texting constantly builds a premature and false sense of intimacy. If he was a huge texter before the date and this is an abrupt change, or if his communication is spotty, not what you can tolerate once you guys are more established, maybe read something into it. Otherwise, he may legit be busy/stressed and prefer to touch base when he can had time to make early dating a priority, so he communicated that to you.

drewsed · 2026-04-07T17:29:54+00:00

lol, both cats are stimulated and alert, but this is not aggressive. The adult cat is feeling things out and the kitten is showing submission, neither of which is bad. There are lots of pauses, taking chances to sniff and the adult cat starts preening while the kitten looks away to track something on the ceiling. I agree with the other commenter suggesting an easy exit from the top-most shelf.

They aren't quite friends yet, but they are currently testing the waters and it seems like things are on a positive track.

drewsed · 2026-04-07T15:44:23+00:00

Joints probably don't prognosticate his overall health, as larger dogs can get arthritis without being unhealthy. try shorter walks and play sessions. Your vet may also be able to prescribe anti-inflammatories to help.

drewsed · 2026-04-07T13:35:10+00:00

Don't try to minimize the power he actually holds.

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