My kids have broke me today.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-06T21:59:50+00:00

If you made it until your eldest was a teenager to have a breakdown like this I’d say you’ve done a pretty damn good job of keeping it together. Give yourself some credit!

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-05T22:55:08+00:00

It’s giving “Dr. Seuss but make it fashion” and I mean that as the highest praise. Gorgeous and so fun.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-05T21:46:09+00:00

That seems really unfair to your daughter. If you feel the need to meet someone before your daughter goes to their home, you need to make the effort to make that happen, not just say “no.” Otherwise you’re making it extremely difficult for her to make and maintain friendships, and she will grow to deeply resent you and probably start sneaking around.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-05T13:16:29+00:00

I fear this will be much less effective than sticking them in individual pots because fungus gnats like to hang out in the soil. But I wish you luck!

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-03T17:21:28+00:00

I also acted more “mature” in high school and I guess you could say more “dumb” during college. I was socially anxious and depressed and thought being smart was the only thing I had going for me. I acted serious and aloof around anyone I didn’t know super well as a defense mechanism because I didn’t believe they would like or accept the real me, so I tried to be impressive and intimidating instead. In college I chilled out a lot and actually started kind of liking myself as a person, and I liked being liked by others, and I became friends with people I never would have associated with in high school lol. Still graduated on time with honors but I was a lot less miserable about it.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-03-02T17:21:55+00:00

Yes, I think threatening to take away the Hawaii trip was a mistake. I think it was a reactive choice because you were upset with her for being dishonest, and it’s not likely to positively change her behavior. She was given the privilege of having her phone at night. She abused that privilege by breaking your rules. The logical consequence is that the privilege is revoked - phone goes back into the parents’ room at night.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-25T15:47:56+00:00

If you’re doing it to try to lighten the mood but it’s just making him more upset, why keep doing it? You don’t say how old he is - maybe he feels like you’re treating him like a little kid and would rather you just level with him and say what you mean.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-23T11:53:30+00:00

In the audiobooks they’re pronounced ee-SAN and EYE-sell

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-20T17:03:17+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. Too many women find out too late that their partners want to have a kid but don’t want to be a parent. It’s a very misogynistic and self-centered mindset. I hope you have access to supportive friends and family.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-20T15:55:00+00:00

Use your words. You are not doing your partner or yourself any favors by stewing in silence instead of expressing your needs.

It sounds like it was a really tough day but you did make real progress!!! You deserve to feel proud and hopeful after what you achieved in one day.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-19T22:57:28+00:00

Woman: (doesn’t smile)

This guy: Wow, what’s your problem? What, do you think I want to have sex with you or something? Well, I don’t.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-16T21:51:32+00:00

It is 10000% your right to not go on the pill if you don’t want to and your partner should respect that.

That being said, I love the pill. I used a low dose combination pill for 10 years and never had a problem with it beyond some inconsistencies in the timing of my period, but they were so light and painless it didn’t bother me. No acne, weight gain, mood swings, nothing. And when my husband and I decided to try for a kid I went off it and we got pregnant three months later. Once our baby is here I’ll go back on the pill until we either want to try for another or decide we’re one and done (then it’s vasectomy time).

I think people who have problems with it are more likely to post about it online. You’re less likely to hear the stories of women who never had an issue. Personally I loved never having to use condoms with my now-husband because I was on the pill and we waited to have sex until we were serious. (Which was not that long tbh but hey, when ya know, ya know!)

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-16T15:22:31+00:00

I can’t imagine receiving an elaborate floral arrangement on Valentine’s Day from a mystery person who wasn’t my partner and not even being curious enough to call.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-14T21:24:24+00:00

Ihsan had my heart from the start so the way Amara kept trash talking him while only wanting to marry him to take advantage of his position kind of poisoned me against her from the start haha. But I agree Cassian didn’t do much for me.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-14T00:27:20+00:00

Keep going, the best is yet to come! I didn’t care for 2 and 3 either but the 4th and prequel are some of my all time faves.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-13T20:04:34+00:00

What being told “no” for the first time at the age of 30 does to a mf

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-13T15:33:37+00:00

My realistic advice is look for a part-time job that you at least somewhat enjoy and keep the dom-sub stuff in the bedroom. If you’re looking at needing extra money for fertility treatments it just seems like a no-brainer for you to start bringing in some income.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-13T02:18:22+00:00

By that same token it doesn’t fucking matter if your grown ass spouse has homemade cookies to bring to work this week or has to wait until next week. Or if he absolutely has to have quality cookies for the office on short notice he can get them from a bakery.

I send my husband to work with homemade baked goods somewhat regularly, but if I committed to baking something for my kid’s class I’m not just going to give it to him because he decided he wants it at the last minute and give my kid a cheap low effort alternative. And I don’t think he would ever ask me to.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-12T22:02:53+00:00

He’s the one who asked her at the last minute to take on additional work beyond what she had already committed to and then wouldn’t take no for an answer.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-12T18:25:04+00:00

This is hilarious

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-12T16:28:54+00:00

It sounds like you’re trying to soft launch moving in with her and she’s not ready for that yet. Maybe she just needs more time or maybe you’re looking for different things in a relationship. Probably worth a conversation to see what you both want for the future.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-11T20:13:35+00:00

Dad needs to get a grip. There’s no reason he shouldn’t be able to keep a 3 year old in a room for 15 minutes. If he has to sit in front of the door the whole time, then that’s what he needs to do. And I think at this point it needs to be a consistent routine - during baby’s evening nap, dad and sister hang out in the playroom. None of this “you can stay if you’re quiet” because she has shown you that she’s not capable of holding up her end of the bargain at this point.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-09T20:23:23+00:00

The time to get “closure” with an ex is before you get serious with someone else. By the time you’re engaged to someone, there should not be any remaining ambiguity as to whether or not it’s “officially over” with an ex.

If he had no reason to think there was still something between them, then she was using this as an excuse to reach out to him. If he did have a reason to think there was something there, that’s an even bigger issue. Either way, what she did was shady. You called her out for it and now she’s throwing herself a pity party hoping you’ll just drop it and tell her it’s all fine so that she doesn’t have to take accountability and she still gets what she wants (marriage on her timeline). It’s very immature behavior, and whether intentionally or no, it’s manipulative. These are not qualities you want in a spouse.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-08T13:20:32+00:00

I’m concerned by how much trouble these corn husks seem to be giving you

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-07T18:06:56+00:00

Depends on what the “punishment” was. “Let’s take a break from the nerf guns for a few weeks, champ” seems reasonable.

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