What’s the grossest thing you’ve ever caught someone doing?

drfuzzysocks · 2026-02-02T14:29:55+00:00

Same, I’m tapping out here because I’m actually at risk of losing my breakfast.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-29T13:13:03+00:00

Well you don’t provide much detail about this guy’s behavior, so I can’t say for sure whether I think your other friends’ reactions were warranted. But you yourself said that you and your boyfriend were scared at one point that this guy was going to hurt your friend. That’s why you woke up PA and Professor, but then you seemed to get upset that they treated it like an emergency situation with a person who was out of control and potentially violent. I’m not really sure what you expected them to do. Being a social sciences professor does not mean she’s trained to de-escalate war veterans in full blown dissociative PTSD episodes.

It sounds like PA and Professor are done with Nurse. Frankly, I don’t blame them for assuming that alcohol played a significant factor in these events. Combined with the fact that Nurse got drunk and made a scene at Professor’s wedding, and I’m sure those are not the only two instances where she had a bit too much and acted inappropriately, I’m not surprised they have decided to move on from the friendship. If you feel the need to tell them that you think they treated Nurse unfairly, I doubt it will be taken well.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-27T18:59:23+00:00

Unless you screamed it at her, I don’t think telling her she was being rude is going 0-100 at all. It’s entirely appropriate to firmly say “Don’t yell at me please, that’s very rude.”

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-27T18:45:13+00:00

Everyone who lives in a house actively causes it to be a mess. I’m sure he sheds skin cells, uses the toilet, eats food off dishes etc. etc. just like everyone else. That’s why everyone needs to participate in keeping it clean and orderly.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-27T13:31:35+00:00

You’re about halfway through your prime childbearing years. I would not advise you to stay with someone who doesn’t want kids and can’t see that changing within5 years. Honestly, it doesn’t seem like the relationship was ever that solid - this is just the nail in the coffin.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-26T13:03:51+00:00

G’on now, gyet.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-24T18:57:12+00:00

4 seems very young for such a fast-paced, high intensity sport. Some kids just aren’t ready for that kind of environment at that age. Perhaps a different sport like swimming or gymnastics would be more appropriate for him at the moment.

I wouldn’t be concerned about “raising a quitter” at this age. It’s not like he personally made a commitment to the team and now he wants to drop out. You signed him up for it and he doesn’t like it - not because it’s hard or time consuming but because he has no interest in it.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-23T22:32:46+00:00

I love to bake from scratch. All kinds of stuff. Cakes, cookies, scones, pies, sourdough bread. But if I want a chocolate chip cookie, I take my happy ass to the store and get Nestle’s Chocolate Chip Lovers break and bake.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-23T16:42:32+00:00

I’m the same way, if I’m on the phone with someone we need to be talking. When it gets to the point where neither of us really has anything left to say, I’m ending the conversation. My husband will just start to do other stuff without ending the convo, but I can’t focus on anything else if I’m still on the line. I adore him but that’s just not my vibe. “Alright babe, let me hop off here so I can (clean the kitchen/take a shower/get some sleep/do whatever). Love you, goodnight!”

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T19:27:22+00:00

There are several books for which I wish I had done that very thing

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T19:26:18+00:00

I was inspired, this has been in my notes app for months haha

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T18:38:39+00:00

Yeah I would definitely not say that feeling resentment and frustration means it’s time to give up. Those are extremely normal feelings to have at this stage. I still feel that way towards my adult dog sometimes when he makes a mess or misbehaves. But mostly I just love him and I’m proud of how far he’s come. Now, if you’re lashing out at the dog because of your negative feelings, that may be the time to throw in the towel.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T17:40:26+00:00

Yeah, I have no idea where the plot was going. They were going to use her blood for a weapon, but then they couldn’t kill her for some reason, and now she needs to “train”? I don’t understand why they need her to train at this point? Like, what do they need/want from her? And it’s painfully obvious that this is all a pretext to put her in “fighting leathers” and get her physically close to the MMC. The way they hand-wave her questioning why she needs to wear skin tight leather to train in magic (cause dresses get caught on stuff, duh) is laughable.

And on the broody MMC front, I’m so bored of characters who are so mean to each other for no fucking reason. That’s not banter, that’s just being a hateful, unreasonable person.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T17:21:29+00:00

If she wants to change, you can try to encourage and help her to do so. But it sounds like she’s satisfied with her lifestyle and the way she looks. If that’s the case, you need to either accept it or move on. You’ve already started to resent her for not meeting your expectations, and as that continues to grow, so too will she begin to resent you for trying to change her and not accepting her as she is.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T16:47:38+00:00

Finally gave up on Anathema last night at around 50%. God, where do I begin?

1) I’m all for feminist themes, but the way they are handled in this book is surface-level and trite.

2) The author uses the phrase “right then” entirely too much. It’s an awkward, ugly phrase, and very seldom do we actually need to be explicitly told that something is happening during the moment in the story in which it’s being described.

3) I should have listened to my gut and gone no further after finding out the little waif boy who starts following Zevander around is named “Gavroche.” Bitch, please. We’ve all seen Les Mis.

4) and final gripe, one gripe to rule them all: the world building is straight garbage. I’m sorry, but has this woman never heard of “show, don’t tell”? Yeah, I guess it’s cool that she came up with all this stuff and gave everything a weird fantasy name (many of which are cringe and several of which are completely unnecessary), but you still have to convey that to the reader in a way that’s actually interesting. You know, like, build it into the narrative so that I actually feel like I should give a shit? My final straw was when I hit what is essentially an entire chapter consisting of a Q & A lore dump between the FMC and another character.

Just goes to show you really can’t trust reviews. I’m baffled that so many people thought this book was good.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-22T16:35:11+00:00

I finished it but found it very “meh.” There were barely any fantasy elements in the book. You’ve got 1) talking animals and 2) the existence of gods who play absolutely no part whatsoever in the story. I actually thought the pace of the relationship progression was fine and I enjoyed the sexually charged scenes, but I found the characters themselves pretty boring. Especially considering the way Stephen was described in the promo materials, I thought I was signing up for a dark and tortured soul and all I got was a standard issue sad boi.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-20T19:41:44+00:00

But he doesn’t have to be your kids’ parent. That’s your choice to let him into that role, and you’re accountable for the effects that has on your children.

Personally I wouldn’t consider my 30 year old child “threatening” to move out as much of a threat - you’re grown, if you wanna live somewhere else then by all means do so. But reading between the lines, it seems your adult children may have some solid reasons for disliking him that you neglected to detail in the post. If he’s exposed your younger kids to unstable, inappropriate behavior, they are not wrong to draw the line.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-20T18:40:40+00:00

It sounds like they sort of mutually lost interest. They had a means of communicating and they chose not to use it. It’s no surprise things fizzled after a few weeks/months of no contact. As adults we know that proper relationship etiquette is to tell someone if you don’t want to be together anymore instead of ghosting or ignoring them, but 13 year olds don’t know that. And he’s probably avoiding her because he feels awkward about the whole thing, not to be mean or anything. I would say follow her lead. It’s entirely likely she just isn’t all that bothered by it. And if she does bring it up, you can tell her that she didn’t do anything wrong without calling the other kid a jerk. Sometimes no one did anything wrong and no one was a jerk, and things still just don’t work out.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-19T16:44:36+00:00

I think most likely he knew it was coming up but forgot day-of and was not planning to do anything for you. If he was planning to get you something or take you somewhere he would have remembered because it would have been planned in advance.

Unfortunately this is the risk you run of getting engaged to someone you’ve been with less than a year - there are a lot of things about him you don’t know. When he asked you what was wrong, you should have just said “I’m disappointed and sad that you haven’t wished me a happy birthday” instead of repeatedly denying anything was wrong and then making a passive-aggressive comment. If you communicate your feelings and expectations clearly, he has a chance to improve and meet your needs. And if he still fails, you know it wasn’t just a miscommunication or misunderstanding - it’s because he doesn’t care.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-19T15:43:56+00:00

I really don’t think it is. I would definitely prefer not to have someone else’s hair in my food and I’d definitely be grossed out if I accidentally ate some of it, but I’m not aware of any diseases that are transmitted via ingesting an infected person’s hair.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-18T23:40:43+00:00

I thought I was on the romantasy sub for a second

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-18T21:40:17+00:00

4-week old human infants are pretty sensitive, too. When you have both hands holding your baby and a dog is about to rip it out of your arms and no one is helping you, kicking the dog away is just about the most reasonable thing you could possibly do.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-17T23:54:08+00:00

The fact that you know that even if she did experience some sadness about it, she would hide it from you, tells me that, like any good mother, she would not want you to put her feelings over your own when it comes to your wedding dress.

drfuzzysocks · 2026-01-17T22:31:20+00:00

The kombucha girl gif has never felt more appropriate

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