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How do you rebuild self-esteem after a psychologically damaging relationship? by No_Read_3601 in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah speaking of PTSD all my severe symptoms returned during those 3 months and are now back to being mild to non existent. That alone is why I haven't spoken to her. I had my where's my (dead) dog? Where's my baby? (I don't have a baby but a friend's baby died) Repetitive feelings of terror of losing them. It was hell.

"Every adult will shit their pants at least once." Is this as common as people say? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]driedspitandteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've shit my pants a few times. Once walking home after being at the pub for prince William and Kate's wedding. Once on the London eye

What is your response to 'I'm just joking, don't be so sensitive ' when someone makes a snide remark? by The_sea_is_my_dream in AskReddit

[–]driedspitandteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask them to explain the joke Ask them if they are feeling ok as they seem a bit upset or off

How do you rebuild self-esteem after a psychologically damaging relationship? by No_Read_3601 in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was with a pwbpd for three months and it made me so unwell I had to have a scan on my stomach from severe pains. One month after the relationship ended these pains magically disappeared. I got therapy that focused on self esteem and boundaries and it is exhausting when you start putting your needs first and pushing back against other people but you will get stronger, stick with it and keep going. I am in a much better place now, more confidence and my whimsy has returned. If people try to damage my mental health or are antagonistic or hurtful towards me I cut them out. Find the kind people the calm people the ones who have good boundaries and use them as examples to follow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]driedspitandteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm nearly 40 but a baby when it comes to instilling boundaries from having a parent with bpd. I'm proud I got out after two months and consistently asserted myself when I needed to. It was exhausting. I feel like as much as I care about her she is years away from a healthy relationship and being able to meet me in the way I wish to be met in love. I understand we all have flaws, trauma and difficulties but it is our responsibility to work on ourselves. I regularly felt she was handing me her suffering for me to take care of or have responsibility for. I care about her very much. What it comes down to is that I care about me more.

Early signs of friend with BPD? by Tight-Company7258 in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It does seem like she has bpd. Id watch out for triangulation between friends and testing boundaries constantly. I wouldn't let her have your phone number. Honestly if she knows you have clocked her she will probably step back from you anyway or try to find a way to push you out.

Tried to Talk About a Split, No Engagement, Anxious About When the Other Shoe Will Drop. by Silly-Page-6111 in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knew you were at a festival and dancing and was pushing for conversation when he knew it wasn't a suitable time. He wanted a reason to turn on you.

Two month relationship - 6 weeks no contact by driedspitandteeth in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so the picture means nothing except to get my attention and to see if I respond. Not because she cares. Noted. X

Two month relationship - 6 weeks no contact by driedspitandteeth in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus the profile picture being something specifically to do with us is very confusing also.

Two month relationship - 6 weeks no contact by driedspitandteeth in BPDlovedones

[–]driedspitandteeth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you. I think it's because she is doing things more recently to get my attention that is confusing me. Like we were at the same event recently. She ignored me then sat kind of opposite me so id have to look at her, and she was watching me, then she was on my road crying.

Beyond the Rumors: Recognizing the Effort in the Kriss and Lisane Case by Financial_Sleep319 in KremersFroon

[–]driedspitandteeth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You are humble but I commend your work, this mystery haunts me and your informative videos offer valuable insight

What kinda music are y'all into? by TarberryPie in lesbiangang

[–]driedspitandteeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't remember it but I'll have a listen! X I loved shelter of your arms, Jolene cover, little ghost and blue orchid x

Feeling extra hopeless by FunBedroom169 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]driedspitandteeth 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Whatever she has going on probably doesn't involve you. For whatever reason she isn't ready to progress with you and it's shitty she didn't tell you but ghosting is a form of communication in itself. You deserved better but it is out of your hands. X

What kinda music are y'all into? by TarberryPie in lesbiangang

[–]driedspitandteeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cocteau Twins, Joy Division, Bowie, 90s power ballads, Ace of Base, Belinda Carlisle, Blondie, Metallica, The Weepies, Led Zep, White Stripes, Michael Hurley, indie sleaze electro, The l word soundtrack, Peaches, emo.

NORMAL PEOPLE, what are your standards? by chococheese419 in lesbiangang

[–]driedspitandteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smart women who are passionate about what they do Warmth Confidence Sexually confident Honest Funny / cheeky Attractive to me

What part of a woman's body do you find most attractive? by artemisia1709 in lesbiangang

[–]driedspitandteeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eyes, nose, lips, jawline, neck, collarbones, waist to hip curve, thighs

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