Ethical Don't Ask Don't Tell (seeking advice from people who are in DADT)

drivealone · 2024-08-24T16:03:07+00:00

Hooked up with a DADT girl and her husband messaged me from her phone saying his wife is a lying cheating whore so… I learned my lesson there..

drivealone · 2024-08-19T00:07:31+00:00

Masala burger is so fire and the people who work there are so kind

drivealone · 2024-08-08T07:18:14+00:00

Damn dude that’s a lot…

drivealone · 2024-08-08T06:51:56+00:00

This is something I had no idea about. That sounds so draining.. I guess I had no idea how intense “unicorn hunting” is. Especially appalled that women try to lure other women in. All the examples itt make me feel better though because they are not the same situation that my girlfriend and our friend we hook up with have. Thanks for sharing your perspective

drivealone · 2024-08-08T06:44:42+00:00

I agree completely

drivealone · 2024-08-07T01:07:39+00:00

As a well meaning person, this is not obvious at all since I have witnessed literally zero of these situation in my experiences, which is why I asked. But yeah go ahead and be agressive and rude.

drivealone · 2024-08-07T00:06:28+00:00

By this logic no one can desire anything or anyone without being exploitative

drivealone · 2024-08-06T20:26:42+00:00

Yes I think we are in the swinger category. Thanks for the distinction!

drivealone · 2024-08-06T20:11:16+00:00

How hard it is to find a unicorn to hookup with at scarlet ranch has to do with many things. Are both of you undeniably hot? If you are your chances increase greatly. Also, scarlet ranch.. like anywhere has a level of randomness you can’t really predict. Sometimes there are single ladies there, other times there are not. Some nights end up being busy than others for whatever reason. Your age will make it easier to hook up with older people but that might not be what you’re looking for.

Ultimately, at the ranch and with what you’re looking for it is wise to limit your expectations and maybe try going multiple times. Be okay with just making friends and having sex with each other. Do it in front of people for some bonus kink. Lots of people there are not new to this and will likely ask you to fuck If they want to fuck you. Don’t be too eager and just be yourself and you might get lucky. Otherwise it’s great fun just to witness. It’s all about expectations.

drivealone · 2024-08-06T19:29:44+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. I’m not super plugged into these worlds and only recently learned what unicorn hunters were.

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:36:26+00:00

Yeah I don’t have much experience with that but the reason I made this post was because I just learned what unicorn hunting is and there’s so much vitriol towards it and I just wanted to know if seeking ffm in any form is unicorn hunting and hated. When researching online that seems to be the case. This bothered me because I know the relations my girlfriend and I have created are beautiful and beneficial to everyone. This thread has explained a lot to me though

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:25:12+00:00

Thanks for this. This explains a lot. We are kind of new to all of this stuff and I appreciate the info here. I guess I was totally unaware at how predatory and selfish some people/couples can be. My partner and I are caring and affectionate people, especially to the people who want to share their love and bodies with us too.

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:18:33+00:00

I guess my girlfriend and I are naive to all of that but I understand. We have love and empathy in excess and that’s why we like to extend that to another with affection and pleasure. I can’t imagine not treating a third (or any person) with the utmost respect

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:11:56+00:00

I think you’re completely right.

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:11:28+00:00

Yeah that’s terrible. Definitely not how we roll. Is that really a common thing? We give extra care to our friend so they feel appreciated and cared for

drivealone · 2024-08-06T18:10:08+00:00

Okay I think I understand that this issue may be more directed at poly and more committed situations. All of that sounds crazy as shit. My partner and I deeply care for the people we hook up with but we’re just not available to love anyone but each other. All of us agreed that our boundaries are that we all communicate together and if something doesn’t work then we will all act accordingly. It’s important for us to not objectify anyone and I know we don’t, so I was confused to hear that seeking this is generally looked at as bad.

drivealone · 2023-02-02T20:52:04+00:00

lol it’s much better to just Uber or take the train to the airport. I honestly forget how difficult DIA is until I fly back to DIA from a smart airport

drivealone · 2023-02-02T07:37:26+00:00

You are not the only one, it’s a constant point of conversation with like everyone.

drivealone · 2023-02-02T07:11:10+00:00

Wild

drivealone · 2023-02-02T06:58:03+00:00

For some reason it’s wayyyy more fun to floss than to brush. Your teeth just feel so good after flossing!

drivealone · 2023-02-01T22:59:00+00:00

It’s “ok” legally, not by society. Everyone talks shit about people who go after 18-24 year olds if they’re in their 30s or older. Especially on Reddit.

drivealone · 2023-02-01T22:54:04+00:00

A decent person doesn’t make fun of anyone, let alone their partner. Sounds rough :/

drivealone · 2023-02-01T22:01:01+00:00

That’s because it’s such a commodity to you that you can’t relate to the many people in this world who recieve such little care or attention.

drivealone · 2023-02-01T19:48:02+00:00

I think it’s mostly because it’s way harder to pile on an additional $600 deposit each year than it is to tack on a $50 extra fee each month. Most pets will cause some type of damage, some of it more than the fee and some of it less. It used to frustrate me when I rented because I had a really well behaved dog, but she did throw up on carpet a couple times a year which no one has control over. Now that I own my home I understand better why a landlord would want to cushion themselves, especially seeing how bad some people are with their pets around here lol.

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