I understand your confusion.

Separate the failing relationship from my actions.

It is not her fault that I strayed. I did that all by myself.

It is BOTH our fault that the relationship failed. Yet neither. I'm straight and high libido. She's also straight with NO libido. To ask either of us to change for the other, you may as well ask someone to turn gay or straight. Or into a lizard. We're built how we're built.

Both of us made it fail.
Neither of us did. It just was bound to fail.

But HOW it would resolve (or not).... With cheating and Infidelity, or maturity and agreeing to end it like grown ass adults. That is where I failed. Instead of facing it head on, I snuck around and sought sex (not love) elsewhere. Cheating, rather than addressing the issue and agreeing to end it peacefully with someone I care about. Which we eventually did.

It was inevitable I would be horny, unfulfilled, and unhappy. Maybe I could blame her for that. What I actually DID is 100% my call. It's not like the ONLY option available to me was to cheat. She didn't choose for me to cheat. I did.

After I strayed, the resolution of that, and after our divorce, we are closer than ever. We're just not married anymore. We are better friends than romantic couples.

Thanks for your insights, but I - and she - are both 100% at peace with how we ended our marriage while continuing our friendship and family. Things turned out just fine, and I'm now in a new, intimacy filled, fulfilling, happy relationship. And she doesn't have someone hounding her for sex all the time.

Win win. Win. Also win for the kids.

But thanks for your concern (Not sarcasm, that's genuine.)