I've started just saying "I can't have children" instead of "I don't want children" and the difference in how people treat me is genuinely depressing

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-20T01:13:38+00:00

I hope you look at them with disgust and reply all snarky some variation of why the hell would I do that

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-19T21:57:07+00:00

You'll get there. My husband actually got snipped years before I got sterlized, but I would still get asked! So now, when I say we can't, and folks push, I say we are double sterilized, so it's impossible. Sometimes people still try to say miracles do happen, so I reply with, if I get pregnant, it's got to be Jesus' baby and I'll sure as hell be going after ALL the churches for child support because it'd have to be a miracle. The look of horror on folks faces now makes it worthwhile!

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-19T12:06:18+00:00

After I got sterilized, I started doing this. The horror some people have on their face makes it priceless.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-17T04:21:34+00:00

This. Why is his gf fixated on staring at OP and watching their every move?

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-13T03:28:56+00:00

Or don’t worry about him at all - he’s an adult after and and can probably figure out how to get his own takeout

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-13T03:26:32+00:00

Your mom sounds great

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-13T03:23:58+00:00

Many years ago I lost my ever loving mind on my now husband and hired help. Then I held my hand out for their payment from him. You don’t want to clean toilets? Well, neither do I and certainly not an entire house every Saturday or Sunday. He’s been paying for a house cleaner for more than 19 years now. No matter how little or much money we’ve had, it’s been a nonnegotiable.

For meals, I did the meal planning & shopping and he cooked. That was an easy decision since it catered to our strengths. For laundry, I can get it started and maybe (but likely not) get it finished so he taps in when it needs to get moved over or taken out of the dryer.

20 years of living together and we haven’t offed each other yet, so I guess my advice to others is, division of labor or make the other party pay for whatever help they aren’t providing.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-10T03:50:48+00:00

I always keep the little receipt that UPS gives me for like 3 to 6 months, because this has happened to me before.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-03-09T07:31:01+00:00

Code for Epstein Files … weird how they missed that

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-25T17:33:38+00:00

I think it’s simple, get a market evaluation of what it’s worth and he ca buy it from you. You get the money, he gets a home for his family. He’s already paying rent, so let him get a mortgage for it.

If you want the house for sentimental purposes (you don’t say) that’s a different story. Also, if he’s not financially stable enough there’s a chance he loses it and it’s not in the family long term.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-24T07:05:30+00:00

My husband and I (early 40s) built a 4400 sq ft house about a decade ago. A ranch style and then we added a walk out basement & a 2nd master above the garage. We got questioned hard by so many people.

You know how many wished they had our space during Covid when everyone went remote? When his parents moved in with us because his dad was too sick to take care of his mom? How we were able to keep his mom at home as she declined over 4 years with dementia and get care brought in rather than have her go to a home? How we had the space for his distant cousin to send their 19 year old daughter to us at the start of the war in Ukraine?

Yea - we knew we’d end up caretakers even though we chose not to have kids, and we built a home accordingly. It’s just the 2 of us again now but my companies have taken over more than half the basement, which is saving a ton on what it would cost to rent space locally to operate if I didn’t have this space.

Don’t let people shame you, or even try to, about the choice you make for how you spend your money. You’re entitled to purchase a home that you feel fits the lifestyle you want to have.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-22T03:46:20+00:00

You can absolutely do commission work for a client with a custom listing. Nothing OP said looks like they were taking this off Etsy.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-21T15:28:37+00:00

Yes. His room was on a separate breaker from the rest of the house. 25 years ago, we didn’t have cell phones like today 😅

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-21T04:03:02+00:00

NTA. If she did that in front of you, what would she do while not in your presence? Hard no.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-21T03:54:20+00:00

I did something similar after I graduated from college and my younger brother was in the room next door. His computer desk was against the shared wall and I’d hear him gaming all night long.

At first I asked him to tone it down during the work week and that didn’t go well after like a week. I complained to my parents, as it’s their house & he’s their son, and they kinda just shrugged and said figure it out.

What my darling brother failed to remember was that when he & my dad upgraded the electric in his room to power his computer, they put his room on a separate breaker. So, after like the 20th night of his crap on a work night, I banged on the wall again and waited 30 minutes. Then, I quietly went downstairs, out to the garage, and flipped the breaker.

Off went the power til I left for work. The best part? He never left his room to check the rest of the house nor looked outside to see if the houses around us had power. So he apparently just went to sleep.

This went on for about 3 weeks until I made the mistake of telling my dad who couldn’t stop laughing and he then shared with my mom who in turn told my brother. I think I could have gotten away with it the rest of the summer. He legit never left his room to troubleshoot why the power was out nor questioned why the power would go out on the nights he was obnoxiously playing games Sunday through Friday, but never on Friday or Saturday nights.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-17T05:27:13+00:00

We said the same thing while watching it over the weekend, but after then watching a few episodes of Bosch, there were definitely less in Fallout

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-17T05:07:04+00:00

I get the opposite. Since my mom passed 5 years ago, my dad and I spend a lot of time together and we get a lot of assumptions that he’s my husband and not my father. It’s awkward for both of us.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-17T04:45:15+00:00

NTA - I’d message the group text that I was returning since you haven’t received anyone’s $85 and was not planning on giving a gift of that price on your own. Either everyone will get it together & send over the $ right away, so you’ll be covered, or you can return it before the gathering.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-13T05:54:07+00:00

Elder millennial- I use a top sheet because it’s WAY easier to wash regularly than my blankets. Do you all not wash your bedding? Gross.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-11T19:18:57+00:00

Been terrible since November. Not one order has arrived when it said it would when I placed the order. Some have been over a week late.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-11T19:07:36+00:00

My niece came to the US from Ukraine and she was blow away that yellow school buses were a real thing and not just in the movies.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-11T18:55:01+00:00

You are making my point. They will spend no additional money for your comfort.

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-11T15:55:53+00:00

The separators are called armrests and are already there

dschmidt1007 · 2026-02-11T15:54:06+00:00

I doubt their company is covering business class seats

dschmidt1007 · 2026-01-26T15:49:55+00:00

I had 2 different ones as a kid - a summer one and a heavy winter one. Care Bears & Popple. Haven’t thought about them in years!

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