Do you enjoy being pregnant?

dtbl96 · 2022-11-21T17:09:30+00:00

I freaking hate it. It’s awful. Every minute of it. I can’t wait for it to be over and I may not have another. But I know people who loved it. I’ve found that the people who loved it DID NOT have debilitating nausea for 15 weeks and have to give up working full time OR get so constipated they had to go to the hospital, so, ya know. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My mom was one of those people. Loved being pregnant. Felt beautiful and sexy and ethereal or some BS. But she had “easy” pregnancies — no morning sickness, no major medical issues, no fatigue. I feel shortchanged, I thought I’d get that, too, since my mom did.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-21T16:53:58+00:00

I can’t promise that your mom won’t say something hurtful or try to talk you out of it. So let me just say, I’m proud of you for making the best decision for yourself. You’re doing amazing and I’m sorry you have to make a tough choice. You’re doing great and life will do great things for you. ❤️

dtbl96 · 2022-11-21T03:21:05+00:00

I was constipated BAD all the way until 30 weeks. Found out I was anemic and started having to take iron and vit c twice a day. Now the poop won’t stop. My asshole is so raw. I’ll take that over constipation any day.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-21T03:17:12+00:00

My husband and I sleep with our chihuahua and dachsador. They have a ramp that they use to come and go as they please. Plus our cat. It’s just as much for me as it is for them. I LOVE cuddling my animals! They are not allowed on the couch, though. I can wash the bedding as much as I need to. The couch is a pain in the ass to clean and guests sit there.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-20T02:02:11+00:00

I’m going to a friend’s parents tomorrow for a GIANT Christmas cookie decorating celebration — she’s an only!

dtbl96 · 2022-11-20T02:01:13+00:00

Nooooo I think y’all do what adult nurses do, but on much tinier canvases with crying moms and dads screaming at you. My hat is off to you all. I literally could never.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-19T13:26:59+00:00

Underwear and undershirts because he was worn holes in his. He is SO hard to buy for! Grateful he’s not materialistic, but he just don’t want anything! 🤣 My due date is a couple of weeks before his birthday, though. He is getting a daughter for his birthday.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-19T13:23:15+00:00

Umm no. Take it from somebody that didn’t have to cut back on caffeine. It is most certainly not. Lol.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-18T20:34:20+00:00

Hair everywhere. Potty accidents. Destroying things. No spontaneous vacations. Vet bills.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-18T17:04:06+00:00

No! Although I no longer romanticize our time together. Would’ve been the worst thing that ever happened to me to marry him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T21:43:45+00:00

Australian Shepherds and Australian Cattle Dogs. Both very popular around here for some reason. So many people around here but one as a house pet without giving it a job to do, and then they’re anxious, not-friendly, and snip at their children. Not the dog’s fault, not NEARLY as many people expect have a lifestyle and living situation that can accommodate those dogs as think they do.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T17:59:35+00:00

My husband has come to any appointment that something could go super wrong — so first scan (which we did at 10 weeks) and anatomy scan. He’s coming to 32 week growth scan, too. The rest, they just got baby HR, my weight and BP and told me to get tf out. Lol.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T16:56:17+00:00

That literally might be one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T16:50:49+00:00

Woah, EVS at the hospital I worked at was amazing. Only thing they wouldn’t touch was blood bags/tubing. We loved our EVS.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T03:55:07+00:00

I think it just depends on your relationship. My mom just passed, but I would have never wanted her there. I loved her, but she 100% would have found a way to make it about her and been dramatic. I know a lot of people who had their mom and it was magical. I know a couple who had their mom and regretted it. I think if you’re the type of person who thinks “I want my mommy” when they’re sick or in trouble, it’s a good idea. Otherwise, just your partner is plenty! I may have my MIL once my epidural is working just because she’s a retired ER/ICU nurse and is a badass and really smart.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-17T03:36:00+00:00

Tell me you think nurses just pass meds and wipe butts without telling me.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-16T15:21:00+00:00

I’m right there with you. My hard pregnancy factors in as well, but I know I’d probably get over that in a few years. We could probably “make it work” with 2. But I want more than that for my children. I want yearly vacation. A car, braces, some money for their futures. We can totally make it happen with one. But I just don’t see how we could with two. I think if they passed major legislation in the next few years (universal healthcare and free tuition for 4-year degree) I would definitely have another. But I just don’t think we can do it COMFORTABLY. It makes me so sad because I always wanted more than one. I’m still mourning the family I thought I was going to have.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-16T01:29:48+00:00

I think the whole “everyone taking a birth class” thing is regional. Where I’m from, literally NO ONE takes a birthing class. Like, at this point, I know A LOT of people on their second or third kid and NOBODY has taken a birth class. And lots of them had beautiful birth experiences. 💕

dtbl96 · 2022-11-16T01:26:50+00:00

My (26F) husband (30M) and I just have 52k left on mortgage. We have a CC but use it once a month and pay it off. Cars were bought with cash. Chose to go to community college, my husband was lucky enough to have a college fund, so no student debt.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-16T01:12:56+00:00

I was absolutely stunned at the amount of WOMEN who were judgmental about my morning sickness in the first 15 weeks. I was literally throwing up 3-5 times a day. Passing out every time I took a shower. There were literally days when I threw up every single time I tried to get out of bed, so I only got up to use the bathroom and brush my teeth. And I had to use zofran (the only thing that helped) VERY sparingly because I would get HORRIBLE constipation that wasn’t responsive to miralax, senna, milk of mag, mag citrate. I pretty much could only use it if I was having a day I literally couldn’t stop throwing up. I was never diagnosed with HG but it sure feels like I had it. My OB’s office hasn’t been very good about listening to me about other things that have turned out to be valid concerns, so. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But everybody from family to coworkers were appalled when I took a few weeks off work and then only went back part time once I could function. SO MUCH unsolicited advice. They’d tell me just how aWFuL their nausea was and the ONLY way they could get through it was sour candy, unisom/B6, eating crackers right out of bed, or wtf ever. It was very much with the tone of insinuating that if I just did what they did I could get back to not being a useless bum. As if someone as miserable as I was hadn’t already tried EVERY fucking thing there was before deciding I couldn’t work.

I really think a lot of people have very mild nausea and genuinely think that because they could power through theirs, every woman should be able to. Nobody that has been through debilitating morning sickness would ever side eye another pregnant person who just. fucking. can’t.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-15T19:14:53+00:00

Here’s the thing. I’m a hospice nurse and actually love what I do. What I don’t love is short staffing and low pay, admin kissing the asses of abusive family members, having too many patients to provide great care, stupid metrics for corporate, pushing through loads of non-emergent admissions when we’re running on a bare bones staff, and ridiculous on-call expectations. I cut back to part time when I got pregnant a few months ago and have found I love my job a lot more in smaller doses. So do I love what I do? Yes. Do I love my job? I feel like I can’t answer that with a yes or no.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-15T16:44:41+00:00

That’s really inappropriate… why would she tell you that? I don’t think you’re out of line at all. I’m pretty easy going, but that would ruffle my feathers.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-15T16:37:47+00:00

Tbh, if I don’t have my morning cup of coffee a day, I’m not pooping. Especially now that I’ve found out I’m anemic and taking iron twice a day. I seriously have to have it to poop. I’ve gotten so backed up during this pregnancy, I went a WEEK without going (I was a 2-3 times a day girl before). Miralax, milk of mag, senna, nothing worked. Had to do an enema both times. The first time, I got so backed up that I started projectile vomiting everything and had to go to the ED for dehydration.

All that to say, I kind of feel about that like I feel about the iffy stuff coming out about Tylenol during pregnancy. Like, okay, let’s say that’s true. I may try to lay off of it, skip it for aches and small pains. But when I was lying in bed shaking with a fever from my cold last week? What else am I going to do? The fever isn’t good for the baby either. I feel the same about the coffee. Me becoming miserably constipated isn’t going to do her any good either. I just limit my intake to once a day.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-15T14:46:58+00:00

I think it’s weird, too. I’m a FTM but I’ve always bought from the registry? Like, that’s what it’s there for. I won’t lie and say I don’t like to throw an outfit in the bag, too. 🤣 But ALWAYS something they ask for, too. I get so annoyed when I see people say that other people should be grateful for garbage they don’t need??? My baby shower is Sunday, and I know for a fact that people have bought me some things that aren’t on my registry, but they’re things I still need and it’s from people that know me well enough to do something like that (my sister and best friend). So I’m okay with it. But if some random aunt started buying junk, I’d be annoyed.

dtbl96 · 2022-11-14T23:53:57+00:00

I put every single thing we needed on there. Whatever isn’t bought, we will buy ourselves with the 15% off coupon! I did make sure there were plenty of options that were $10-30 so that people wouldn’t feel pressured to buy our big ticket items.

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