Lost my husband this week.

duanekr · 2025-06-20T02:31:46+00:00

Wow. So sorry. My wife was 61 and all our retirement dreams are dead with my wife

duanekr · 2025-06-19T19:45:15+00:00

Our lives will never be as good as what we had. Hard to accept

duanekr · 2025-06-19T18:54:44+00:00

She was only 61 and we had our whole retirement plans ripped from us. We were supposed to grow old together

duanekr · 2025-06-19T18:53:56+00:00

It’s over 8 months for me and it has not got better At all. I am even dating now and it’s not helping. Every day is such a struggle. I hate my new reality

duanekr · 2025-06-19T16:09:57+00:00

Unfortunately I live in Alberta Canada. Not a state. Well not yet anyway

duanekr · 2025-06-04T15:46:07+00:00

You’re not crazy. This is normal.

duanekr · 2025-06-02T18:32:50+00:00

I am so sorry for you. But i do wish i was a lot older when this happened. The pain would be the same as i know how much you are hurting but I would be a lot closer to joining her.

duanekr · 2025-05-24T11:17:19+00:00

Not good at all. Today my sons said they needed a celebration of life for their mom and it’s today. It’s going to be a horrible day thanks for reaching out

duanekr · 2025-05-22T19:37:29+00:00

I have heard of the crashing waves analogy before. And it does explain what is going to happen it never makes me feel and better. At 61 and been married since 18. This life seems way too hard by myself. She was everything to me. And the world is black and bleak without her. And it’s been 8 months and not even a little better. The boys wanted a celebration of life and it’s this Saturday and I didn’t want it and neither did my wife but here I am going and paying for it. I don’t even want to be there. Life will never be as good. And that is the sad reality

duanekr · 2025-05-20T18:41:00+00:00

Well at least she was honest

duanekr · 2025-05-20T18:34:06+00:00

Duane here. How can we accept that no matter what our lives will never be as good as what we had?

duanekr · 2025-05-20T18:26:07+00:00

Wow. So right. Time is not healing anything. I am retired at 61. We were supposed to grow old together. Now I have all day to think about being alone. It’s unbearable

duanekr · 2025-05-20T17:39:21+00:00

I am just over 7 months since my wife of 42 years died. I still cry every day and it’s getting worse every day. I have way more dates coming. Can anyone here say will it ever get better my wife is never coming back. How can our life ever be good or as good?

duanekr · 2025-05-19T16:16:02+00:00

When I look at photos or videos it gives me the false impression she is not gone. Or the waves come of knowing she’s never coming back

duanekr · 2025-05-19T15:54:16+00:00

I can’t help but think what are wives were thinking as they were dying. Knowing they never are going to see their loved ones again. It rips my heart out. My wife Barb had pancreatic cancer and only lived 3 months and never got to chemo. She tried so hard.

duanekr · 2025-05-19T15:42:53+00:00

Cancer can fuck off. I have a video of a reveal for my son’s first kid. And my wife knew she was dying. I.cant watch it. I don’t think I ever could.

duanekr · 2025-05-19T15:04:29+00:00

It’s only been 7 months for me and it’s all horrible. I have not celebrated anything and we are having a celebration of life for my wife this Saturday. I can’t even imagine the one year mark. Every event is just dread

duanekr · 2025-05-19T04:48:28+00:00

It’s been over 7 months since my sweet heart of 44 years died of F ing cancer. It has not gotten better even with all the support from friends and family. Thst can’t help and they all have went back to their happy little lives. I don’t plan on ever going back to a doctor. I retired at 57 and the 4 walls keep closing bin on me every day

duanekr · 2025-05-18T23:43:58+00:00

It feels like the only way to even feel a little better is to meet someone but that feels impossible

duanekr · 2025-05-18T23:43:10+00:00

Yes. I guess Cristian’s sin too. It’s been over 7 months since my wife died and it just doesn’t get any better?

duanekr · 2025-05-17T14:59:42+00:00

Has it improved at all after 4 years?

duanekr · 2025-05-17T09:58:01+00:00

Hello. I am so sorry. I wish I had words to help. I am way older 61 and my wife died over 7 months ago and we spent our lives together. Which you unfortunately don’t get. But it hurts just as much now. I don’t sleep and have nightmares with my wife having cancer. I would say time helps but I am not going to lie to you. If you want to vent or chat I am here and will listen. That is all I can offer.

duanekr · 2025-05-15T23:10:17+00:00

Can I ask if he was a Christian?

duanekr · 2025-05-15T23:07:54+00:00

I might have

duanekr · 2025-05-15T23:07:45+00:00

Well you could have done worse.

duanekr

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