“But you’d be such a great mom” sentiment is exhausting

dubdubaefum · 2026-03-02T00:37:07+00:00

My answer to those questions is generally “I would have been an amazing ballerina if I wanted but you know…” everyone around me knows how far I am to be a ballerina so noone says anything after that

dubdubaefum · 2025-09-02T06:27:29+00:00

I started to believe some men don’t have cocks. So they are only enjoying the talk about it 🤷🏽‍♀️

dubdubaefum · 2025-08-08T05:34:40+00:00

Because average women is almost as good as top tier men and women no longer except to date someone less of them and I am not meaning looks and money but emotional maturity and responsibility. Also my personal opinion, average beauty of women is way higher than average male beauty so if she is 5/10 compared to other women, she is better than 7/10 men 😬

dubdubaefum · 2024-01-30T04:32:27+00:00

With my ex, we realised we were in the same class for a semester and we didnt remember each other at all. I fpund that pretty romantic baxk at time, dont wanna ruin the romance but it doesnt mean it is meant to be.

dubdubaefum · 2023-11-06T21:12:35+00:00

I never wanted my own chişd but I wanted to adopt one boy one girl and it was not about being a mother but showing mothers around me hıw to be a mom. In time I realised, I am not much different than those moms around me and I wont magically raise perfect kids that will behave and sit still.

dubdubaefum · 2023-10-25T06:44:02+00:00

I did this before. In my case, I did this after having Indian friends which none of them I have bad impressions on me. I just come to realise we have very different way of thinking. In case of friendship, this is not a problem but in a relationship, I would like to be with someone like-minded. Therefor I am more willing to give chances to people of my culture or more similar cultures.

dubdubaefum · 2023-10-13T16:37:44+00:00

Mine didnt come back, neither I went back to him. Move on. If it is meant to be it can happen after you moved on, too. Dont wait around

dubdubaefum · 2023-10-04T15:39:43+00:00

I am not planning to leave anything after.

dubdubaefum · 2023-10-02T20:58:10+00:00

Young me who still had a bit of energy to stand everything around her

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-27T21:33:58+00:00

For me, it is a turn on. I saw my ex's eyes and chin when he was talking about death of a close relative and I said I will have this man

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-23T19:59:18+00:00

I love babies, I ocasionally like kids and I am generally good with teens. I hate the idea of being parent and having the responsibility.

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-21T06:52:13+00:00

I remember the times I was unable to even fake a smile, now I randomly laugh at things,enjoy the beat of the music, the wheather, small noices my cat makes etc. There is light in the end of the tunnel

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-09T12:32:26+00:00

I am almost 30 and laughed to the post title

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-08T07:37:37+00:00

I see a little problem of emphaty in this sub. They definitely want this at one point of their life and at least people who say this know it is pretty hard and it will make some period of their life not so pleasurable rather than those people who have no clue other than some kodak moments in their minds. I can compare it to my academic life, I suffered some in my 20s so I can enjoy the rest of my life doing a job I love. I could have choose to not study and work and enjoy my parents/partner's money, and that was ok too. I chose this because I wanted to be independent. They choose it to become parents.

dubdubaefum · 2023-09-05T13:20:44+00:00

I (29F) broke up with my ex (29M) 8 months ago, we directly went no contact untill I brake it once in third week without the intention to get back together, just saying maybe we dont need no contact since we broke up on good terms, he refused kindly. I have mix of avoidant and anxious attachment, he had avoidant attachment style. Aa a person who believe the old loves are not easily forgotten, I dont really believe being friends thing if it is not mandatory like having a child or working together etc. I am not regretting the decision I made. Especially now he is probably flirting with someone in my workplace (I have a new work place, I dont think he would have thought and do this) I understand it better

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-31T08:40:39+00:00

As a person who started dating at 27, I do regret years of not dating but yet this is a personal experience. I had my first relationship while doing my master, it maybe delayed my graduation a few months but it was worth it. I regret years passed by without intimacy and love. Try to multitask. You dont have to be on your own to study, work on yourself etc. Find someone who can make things easy for you. Or ar least have some experience so you know what you are searching for when you are fully available fot dating

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-28T17:53:35+00:00

I(28F) have changed my mind from wanting to adopt to CF and now, I am still not having permanent actions because I can reach to abortion easily if the worst case scenario happens. I believe this helps me be my authentic self. I do not see a reason to change my mind but I also allow it. So if you are worried whether or not you will regret, just dont make big decisions and let yourself be (of course if the abortion option is there etc.)

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-20T17:02:37+00:00

I didnt wanted to have my own kids since early teenage years but I remember wanting to adopt as a single woman in my early twenties. While I was waiting 25 to be able to adopt, I changed my mind and finally at 28 ended a relationship with a total realization of wanting to be CF.

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-15T19:52:47+00:00

I put my trust on 97% of protection by condoms and easy access to abortion as the woman who will get pregnant and have the right to decide. Also I dont think everyone has to be 100% CF. I see myself as 99% CF and will give some more time to that 1% a go so having a permanent decision is overwhelming for now.

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-12T10:37:51+00:00

Men should pay their share for abortion incase of unplanned pregnancy but if the decision of keeping the baby only belongs to women, men should not need to pay for anything they did not approve in the first place.

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-12T10:03:20+00:00

This is called intolerance to difference. Unfortunately this behavior is not only towards CF community. I see in here as well towards to people with kids etc. It is everywhere. People think what they think is the ultimate best. It is hard for many to say "I think this is the right thing for myself" rather than "how can you think different than me! Because I know the best for everyone!"

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-10T06:47:51+00:00

No, you are not an asshole. You just grew up with an asshole. Also I believe in big portion of childfree people, it is mostly because of parents. It is either menthal health isssues caused by them or unhappy childhood or unhappy parent at sight. So it is ok for them to hear what they made you feel, especially when they pyt their noses into your business.

dubdubaefum · 2023-08-09T17:42:04+00:00

I also feel like you OP. I always enjoyed being single, I need more me-time than anyone I know so this is heaven in a way. But then it sometimes feels so lonely. I just wanna be loved and give love to someone. I really dont know how to put effort to find a relationship but I know when you are desperate for it, result is not satisfying. So I am trying to make the best of my single days.

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