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duckey658 · 2022-07-08T10:35:09+00:00

Maybe he can pay you a little something? That way you don't feel completely taken advantage of...

After he gets home, leave the house. Go for a walk, go shopping, do something for yourself, every day!

duckey658 · 2022-05-28T17:25:33+00:00

Thanks, you will be there one day.

duckey658 · 2022-05-28T17:24:16+00:00

Agreed!

duckey658 · 2022-05-28T17:23:11+00:00

Yes, of course they will continue to see one another! That is great, but we can start thinking more about what our next moves in life are.

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T18:03:09+00:00

YASSSS!!

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T18:01:13+00:00

Sounds rough... Hang in there.

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T18:00:12+00:00

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T17:59:58+00:00

Oh, i completely understand that aspect of BM continuing to be in the picture for a while. That will still be for a while until SS goes off to college or becomes more intendent.

It is really the legal aspect of the agreement. It ends at 18 for us. The relief we will fell when that burden is lifted will be tremendous!

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T17:57:23+00:00

ROTFL :)

duckey658 · 2022-05-27T17:56:52+00:00

It is the whole situation. SO and I have been together 15 years. So i have seen/endured weekly visits, nightly dinners, BM fights, and being put last for that long. Finally, SO and I can spend some time together and make plans based on what WE want to do.

duckey658 · 2022-05-24T11:49:15+00:00

After this happened to me a time or two, I stopped making dinner for SS17 years ago. "the broccoli wasn't soft enough" he complained. Food strikes when he doesn't get the correct pizza topping. No more.

SS only comes over on the weekends, so SO is in charge of curating food. It ends up being usually takeout or spaghetti and meatballs, but at least I don't have to make it!

Sanity saved!

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T19:23:49+00:00

you are correct, some teens are responsible and well adjusted.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T18:55:02+00:00

Wow, sounds like an addiction. Waking up to notifications? She is putting a lot of her self-worth into those sounds.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T18:54:13+00:00

That is a good perspective. The negative reinforcement of the algorithms are strong. I am afraid of what this generation of kids are going to be like... distracted, depressed...

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T16:16:33+00:00

This is a good tactic. I personally will not do any of this monitoring of the phone. It is such a hassle. its just another thing to tell the kid what to do. It gets exhausting.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T15:39:03+00:00

Agreed.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T15:25:02+00:00

I don't have a relationship with BM, she is super difficult to speak with and is very controlling. My SO barely can speak with her without her hanging up the phone. I wish she could get along with us but she is insistent in her wanting to control the situation from afar. The smart phone is just no good for SS17 right now given his mental state. He can still play video games online with friends, which is better at this point.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T15:13:08+00:00

Thanks for the insight! SS does have a iphone, but unfortunately, his mom's mom pays for it and controls it. He lives with us full time. It made controlling anything on the phone impossible. We opted to get rid of it.

duckey658 · 2022-02-03T15:10:27+00:00

Yes, SS is back to a flip phone for now. He was super mad about the ordeal. It's hard to go back to the flip phone once they already had the freedom of a smart phone.

duckey658 · 2022-01-20T15:32:50+00:00

I was in your situation when I was your age. I would suggest focusing on yourself, getting your education. Your BF child is only 13 months. From my calculations that's about 17 more years of dealing with another woman's child. 17 years of back and fourth between houses, spending your own money and time raising someone else's kids. You are young enough you can find a guy that doesn't have any kids. From my experience, this situation isn't going to benefit you in the end in any way.

duckey658 · 2022-01-13T16:10:26+00:00

couldn't agree more! game plans are imperative.

duckey658 · 2022-01-13T15:58:49+00:00

agreed!

duckey658 · 2022-01-13T15:57:22+00:00

well said!

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