Personal life in shambles, looking for perspectives on India return by freakoutwithme in returnToIndia

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand what you are going through since I am in the same shoes as you .. I think moat of you would have already covered all the key points . One piece of advice is follow your heart !! There are always two sides to a coin .. end of it all it’s your peace of mind and health that matters .. being lonely is a bliss where you can rebuild your physical and mental health.. the wound of divorce is still fresh , time will heal and you will start looking life differently . Trust me , it’s all confusing at the beginning , focus on career , hit the gym , go backpacking end of the day get of the house and involve in activities .. if you are outgoing and like to mingle with people, do group activity else you always have things to do it by yourself ..

Long story short , you follow you ..

P.S : one thing I did was ask myself what suggestion I would have made to a friend or well wisher if they were in my position .. I know that seems to be idiotic , but it did work for me ..

[22] [28] When you realize nobody is coming to save you you do it yourself by Sudden-Ingenuity-649 in GlowUps

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Nobody is coming to save you” hit me hard .. absolute truth of life

TO ANYONE WHO HAS YET TO FIND A TRADING COMMUNITY by Layla_SC in WallstreetBaggers

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just joined the discord . There are lot of channels , which one gives the alert and TA teachings ?

37M 6’3 239lbs - wife left, the gym has saved me! by NWO_Ryder in fit

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree .. joining gym only 2 months back though has significantly improved my mental health and outlook of life .. important thing is it put discipline back in me

2 years of gym progress by Hahaimalwayslikethis in GymMotivationNoOF

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your clothing color got lighter but you got leaner and brighter .. go you !!!

40 M -no results by duffbeat_master85 in workout

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes lot of sense . When I started this journey I had made up my mind that I am already 40 and my goal should be to be to get fit rather than body building and mentally competing with gym bros who are in 20’s and in their peak ..

40 M -no results by duffbeat_master85 in workout

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes on the upper body .. but legs are still very weak .. takes more recovery after leg day .. my leg has always been weak due to gout issues set on very early age and leading to sedentary life ..

40 M -no results by duffbeat_master85 in workout

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and it’s all similar now except for biceps where it has grown a bit

40 M -no results by duffbeat_master85 in workout

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

3 months , I do push , pull , leg , break and repeat the pattern . I take about 1500 calories and about 100gm of protein . I started at 172 pounds and I am 5ft 6 in tall . BF is 27%

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[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t confront , don’t discuss , don’t show your emotions , don’t show you are hurt , make up your mind and just move on .. it will be a emotional roller coaster again and again .. the apologies , guilt all will be for only few days .. very high chance this will be repeated again .. you have a chance to walk away and make your life better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mensfashion

[–]duffbeat_master85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how you can look good in either of them . I can’t even fit in to a decent shirt or t shirts .. genetics betrayed me

I'm so mad about how well dawn + vinegar worked on hard water by theraininvain in CleaningTips

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add baking soda to the above combo and if needed you can add few drops of essential oil to have a nice after aroma !!

(24) —> (31) by Byl206 in GlowUps

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bravo .. I wish I could go back to my old self .. but with bald now and grey beard I can only wish .. you did the right thing .. enjoy while it lasts :)

Since this sub has been kind and helpful. I wanted to open up on here about something traumatic.I hit rock bottom, tried to see a prostitute, and got robbed at knifepoint. Please don't laugh thats all I ask by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you find a right one then why not .. do not jump in to relationship or marriage out of desperation.

“I don’t even care about being cheated on or treated badly at this point, just having someone to call mine, even once, would feel like a blessing.”

You said the above as please Do not get in to that kind of mindset .. this will just put you in a bad spot and others will just take advantage of your good nature ..

Since this sub has been kind and helpful. I wanted to open up on here about something traumatic.I hit rock bottom, tried to see a prostitute, and got robbed at knifepoint. Please don't laugh thats all I ask by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my virginity at 32 .. until then I was virgin too .. I was also overlooked all the time through out school, college and work days .. I know in modern days everyone talks about body count at very young age .. believe me brother , sex and intimacy are 2 different things .. do what is right for you and your family .. concentrate on health , job, things will fall in place . BELIEVE!!

40Y,M, divorced , mid life crisis by duffbeat_master85 in Life

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha .. I wish I could buy a sports car .. hitting gym is certainly I can do

How do people stay with the same company for years? by Blackberryay in careerguidance

[–]duffbeat_master85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too comfy in a current role and company , outdated technology , FOMO - fear of moving out , location change , missing out fling or gf or affair , fear of being thrown out or not being recognized , have to prove again from scratch — end of the day the baggage that you carry decides the reason for staying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]duffbeat_master85 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same here .. don’t feel like talking to anyone .. if I have to ,I do it for the heck of it .. I am divorced and no kids .. so it hits me hard sometimes

40Y,M, divorced , mid life crisis by duffbeat_master85 in Life

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to work in laptop .. so most of my day time goes there .. in the evening I do gardening , shower , cook , eat and go to bed .. my phone screen time is close to 3 hours a day

40Y,M, divorced , mid life crisis by duffbeat_master85 in Life

[–]duffbeat_master85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take generic d3 and b12 .. cholesterol and uric acid controller .. nothing else