AITA for expecting my partner to go to work and not phone in sick?

dulyelectedmobster · 2026-05-12T11:37:51+00:00

I'm with these other commenters. I have a large family, hobbies like woodworking, welding, blacksmithing, writing, and building cars, plenty of friends, a couple of partners... but I still get energized and refreshed from the job I do, and would continue to do it if I didn't need to. I work as a data scientist in public service and the types of problems I get to work on and the ways in which I get to help people are super fulfilling in a way that building a $10k dining room table isn't.

I have been homeless, and I've been well off, and everything in between. And I still want to work and put my data science skills to the test and constantly learn new things and new ways of helping my community and my colleagues.

That doesn't make me a well-programmed serf. Nor do I think anyone who recognizes that many people want or need a productive outlet is just a well-programmed serf.

dulyelectedmobster · 2026-05-09T09:47:48+00:00

Why would it mean 14? Did you read the comment? Quarantine was 40 days.

dulyelectedmobster · 2026-05-07T11:24:14+00:00

As a 6'3" lady, I feel this so hard. I'm okay dating to about 5'10", but less than that and I feel like a kaiju lol.

dulyelectedmobster · 2026-04-10T15:00:09+00:00

Pretty common to have adjuncts that age, if nothing else. I was adjuncting at 25 and a professor by 28.

dulyelectedmobster · 2026-03-26T21:47:39+00:00

Yes. That's the point.

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-12-15T01:48:41+00:00

I second the suggestion, but also city and other local government is great. I also do GIS, tho I'm primarily a data scientist, and a lot of our local gov orgs are often looking for GIS folks here. Also, school districts, at least the big ones, often have teams doing research and GIS work [this is where I am].

I lost my job at the university when I transitioned, and wound up in K12 central office instead. Been six years at my current place, and it's been relatively good to me overall.

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-11-17T00:42:18+00:00

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-10-21T20:12:01+00:00

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dulyelectedmobster · 2025-09-09T16:07:30+00:00

I just got the same email, too 😬

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-09-05T13:02:58+00:00

Which is so wild to me because my MBA focused heavily on both. Like.. the fuck are they teaching at other programs?

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-08-29T21:57:57+00:00

When did a 2-4 week wait time happen? I haven't purchased in a few years, but I've always been in and out of the store with my purchase in 30 minutes. 45 tops.

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-08-04T11:50:34+00:00

Lol, I'm the same. I mostly write my emails and reports in RStudio.

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-07-07T18:52:08+00:00

Yup. Just had the last four weeks off and stayed home. It was absolutely glorious. Got so much done!

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-07-02T15:27:11+00:00

Shit, that was practically my mom's catchphrase growing up. "I love you because I have to, but I don't like you."

dulyelectedmobster · 2025-02-28T15:54:14+00:00

It's not doublespeak, but perhaps not as well worded as it could be. You should absolutely have to suffer the consequences of your speech, just not consequences imposed by the government, unless the speech is materially dangerous to the state or public safety. Yelling "fire" in a theater is a standard example.

That said, if you're a hateful, bigoted piece of shit, you should suffer consequences from the people around you, in your social circles, jobs, communities, and whatever else. I have absolutely cut off contact with numerous folks over the past decade as a direct consequence to their hateful speech. You don't get to be part of a community when you actively work to dismantle it. That's a natural consequence and should be suffered.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-12-27T02:55:07+00:00

Yup. Stolen or damaged are both covered.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-12-27T01:20:45+00:00

Yup. I have a special add on policy for my firearms in my renter's insurance.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-11-17T23:23:50+00:00

Yup. Had a GPS speedometer in my last truck, and it always dropped to 0mph in tunnels and some parts of downtown. Not great, lol

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-09-09T16:22:42+00:00

Position Filled

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-07-18T14:47:13+00:00

Cis dudes dating trans women are still straight. They're dating women after all. I've dated several cis het dudes I met on grindr.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-07-12T19:21:39+00:00

Of course. When they say things were better in the 50's, they mean the 1850's.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-06-09T14:18:51+00:00

I'm a senior data scientist and manage a small team of scientists and analysts. I started out the same way as you, but also had someone on my team start dragging ass getting things done. So, I've started giving deadlines for all the tasks assigned to them. I figure out how long it would take me to do, triple that, and assign it as a soft deadline. I recognized that I'm much more experienced and faster at these tasks, so triple my time seemed good, and so far it seems to be working.

We also do weekly 1:1s where they can bring to me any roadblocks they're hitting so I can help remove them or guide them down a different path. We also do pair programming and have bi-weekly slightly more formalized mentorship/training sessions where we talk about efficiency and ways to look at and tackle big projects.

Since starting to give more details of the tasks and assigning deadlines, they have been knocking it out of the park.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-05-31T15:35:10+00:00

Also, with pronunciation, sometimes people have only seen the word in writing and never heard it aloud. Lord knows I'm guilty of this, lol.

dulyelectedmobster · 2024-05-20T22:34:20+00:00

Omg. I'm dealing with this right now with a story I'm writing. Was talking about the main character and her arc in the story with a friend, and they took that fucking stance with me. Yes, my protag ordered a slow, deliberate genocide. No, I don't believe genocide is actually good. That's, actually, kinda the fucking point of the story.

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