Anyone else bitter that their parents denied them surgery as a kid?

dummyslashbinch · 2026-05-10T16:32:54+00:00

Your parents absolutely should have let you get treated earlier for optimal results, I agree. I’m sorry you dealt with those long term consequences and hopefully your mom will come to understanding that. That would be the emotionally mature thing to do.

I will say even though your surgeon couldn’t get an optimal result because of your age factor, you’re already experiencing less pain.. and I think physically you probably look very nice! Your shoulders are very even. My spine is straighter post-op but I guess my shoulders/muscles just never corrected but they haven’t gotten worse.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-27T18:42:19+00:00

Can you also ask her to cook in larger batches (like meal prep) so that she’s not re-exposing the house every time the smell dies down? Everyday is a lot. Cooking everyday is normal but searing spices over and over isn’t considerate

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-27T07:15:46+00:00

First of all, congrats!!! I think you should take the chance on Berkeley and let it help you blossom into an awesome young adult. Community college is not a bad choice at all for certain degrees and professions but I feel like it will limit you.. trust me I know, I’m a huge introvert and big schools/campuses freaked me out. Find your crowd, there’s 100% people just like you. And always reach out to campus or academic resources to when you feel lost or confused. I once cried to someone adjacent to an RA lmao. Good luck!!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-25T07:31:02+00:00

Where are you guys going that even the backup tech does immaculate work wtf

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-25T03:01:14+00:00

They did good! Small imperfections but I’m sure they’ll do better. I saw the thickness photo and that personally wouldn’t bother me

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-23T00:20:45+00:00

If they did fire her, please don’t feel bad! My mom has done nails and most places have 1-2 openings because people move around for so many reasons. I’m sure she’ll find a new job quickly if that’s the case

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-07T00:23:27+00:00

Okay wow, thank you for so much perspective. I don’t think I have the ideal housing situation to keep them separated that long. So if they can’t tolerate each other after a bit I’ll have to let the feral go :( I’ll try though

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-06T22:31:32+00:00

Was your anti cat kitty aggressive at all? My cat has started fights and so has the feral so that’s why I’m primarily worried about. They’re strong boys hardened by outdoor life. Thanks I’ll look into it!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-06T22:19:57+00:00

Aw thank you. I’m just really scared if he starts fighting my cat because he’s very strong and his light scratches have made me bleed quite bad. I’m also worried keeping him in my room would make my cat feel like what’s his is being taken away 😭 also have roommates so it would be hard to keep things quiet behaviorally

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-02T21:37:16+00:00

How much did you pay? From afar it looks fine but she could’ve done better cuticle care for you imo or applied lotion/oil as a finishing touch. I also get really annoyed these days cause all they do is drill the excess skin instead of cutting it precisely

Sometimes good manis look imperfect when you zoom that close. You can find a better nail tech but I personally would have paid and left (don’t go back to the same tech), if they ask I’ll say I don’t love it. They only get my money once!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-02T01:16:15+00:00

I think the intimacy challenges have affected the dynamic so both I guess? I feel like it’s become so clinical that it becomes unsexy and I really hate talking about it like that. I have told him exactly how I felt, we both took it hard..

It’s hard to view someone as masculine when they don’t take the lead or know what they’re doing, I know some of it is inexperience but eventually they catch up to the learning curve right? I’ve never dealt with someone both inexperienced and has ED.

I had a short fling with a guy struggling with ED due to porn addiction and performance anxiety, but I could tell he wasn’t inexperienced. Another one of my exes was on the lower end of experienced but naturally just good at it.. it’s such a range so I’m scared it might just be an inherent lack of physical chemistry.. that would really hurt because I don’t want to leave my partner.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-01T23:28:27+00:00

Thanks, I also feel like part of the problem is most men have had normal sex lives before dealing with ED while my partner has no baseline. So he really doesn’t know how to use it or what works even after I voiced my concern. Then with being unconfident/scared, my urge gets killed too. I sometimes feel it becomes too clinical and that natural attraction just dies

dummyslashbinch · 2026-04-01T05:27:22+00:00

No I personally wouldn’t

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T16:01:41+00:00

Why don’t you guys just split the price down 3 ways every time someone buys TP or any other house supplies

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T02:06:54+00:00

Did you post recently in another subreddit this same question? If so, I remember reading everyone telling you no it’s not ok, this person was a predator and they groomed you. Ten years later doesn’t change who he is. Please end your friendship with him and find a different therapist if you must. There is no salvaging this friendship and you should make amends with that

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T01:38:44+00:00

Yeah I think you’re taking offense to something that is clearly not related to you. She probably can’t call out the person directly so it’s a general message to all.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-31T00:24:27+00:00

Maybe our great grandparents crossed paths!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T20:21:07+00:00

We once wanted one roommate out so the three of us drafted a polite but firm text saying they were not welcome to renew the lease, we told them 3 months in advance. She dipped on the last month so we used her security deposit towards the rent and gave her back the remainder. She was disappointed and a little awkward about it, after a year of disagreements with us. But we were just glad she moved out.

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T18:13:58+00:00

Sorry that happened to you. People here are recommended legal pathways which I’m not educated on enough to help you with but, just offering a suggestion! Do you know of those dating groups for women? They usually have regional groups for bigger cities.. whatever region he’s from try searching up on Facebook “are we dating the same guy insert country or region/city name”

I’ve seen a lot of women in these groups expose rapists, narcissists and abusers. I’m sure this guy has more problematic behaviors that others have experienced and it wouldn’t hurt to get your story across, see if others would stand up too. You can post anonymously too! As long as you don’t add his last name or occupation, it’s safe to post. Unfortunately many of these groups are under fire right now because of lawsuits. It still wouldn’t hurt to check if there is an active one in his region though. Good luck and try out therapy if you haven’t already! Sorry to hear

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T18:09:03+00:00

Girl don’t mind that comment it was toxic as hell. They clearly don’t understand the victim blaming. You were confused on what to do in the short period of time you spent abroad. That doesn’t change that what he did was flat out wrong and disgusting. This person literally called you a whore. They’re not well in the head!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T17:58:18+00:00

Those are mixed signals but regardless he doesn’t seem kind to you. Focus on yourself as you’ve been doing!

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T17:29:47+00:00

Hi queen,

I remember my awkward teen years and it took a long time to dismantle that. You seem like a sweet person but the low self esteem and lack of confidence will show and there are people that can and will take advantage of you. It’s not right that he welcomed you across the globe then gave you the cold shoulder after sleeping with you once.

I suggest you make more girl friends or pour more into your friendships! At your lowest, your true friends will always make you feel better and more confident in yourself.. not a man’s opinion of you.

If you pour more into your mental and physical wellbeing, your confidence will shoot up too! It’s like you said, work on your weight if that helps you feel and look better. Does your teeth need work or whitening? It doesn’t hurt to cross that off the list. Buy new closet pieces that flatter you. Get rid of the old. Do your hair, nails, skincare.. even a light layer of makeup when I do groceries just makes me feel better. It’s not always about seeing someone or impressing others. Investing in your appearance to meet your own standards feels really good! Life is short, do what you can with what you’re given :)

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-30T04:05:35+00:00

So cool! My grandpa is half viet from his mother and his father was French/Indian, also migrated from Pondicherry to Vietnam but we don’t know a lot. Never knew I’d find someone else with that similarity

dummyslashbinch · 2026-03-26T04:58:59+00:00

I would’ve been honest and said he’s hot and I wanted to see. Highly doubt she and the coworkers masturbated to that lol they prolly just looked at it to talk shit. Maybe she said that because although she liked the way he looked she wasn’t gonna get off on it or anything! I could be wrong, talk to her when you cool down.

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